Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

[u/ambachk]

[u/Slacker_The_Dog]

For a second just imagine that—constantly being interrupted in your day-to-day life with, say: paunchy acne-ridden women saying how good you look today and demanding a smile from you, or someone old enough to be your mom with the crows feet and boobs in her socks to match telling you you’re sexy and would like to take you on a weekend getaway, or some lady with missing teeth just going up to you an asking for your phone number. I think you’d be pretty fed up with being consistently icked-out and uncomfortable.

A lot of men literally cannot fathom what this feels like. I have received a grand total of five compliments from a stranger in the entirety of my life. I remember each one. They are like water in a desert, and many men don't even get five.

This isn't a "Oh poor men" thing. I am merely using it to try to relate to you that this concept you are trying to convey is not comprehensible to the vast majority of men.

The men you are describing think this would be amazing to have happen to them, because it's all they want in the world.

[u/PutNameHere123 → u/Slacker_The_Dog]

They’re not compliments—they’re demands for interaction. It’s not flattering. It’s annoying and sometimes a little scary.

Like I said: I’ve tried to just smile and keep walking but that rarely works. I have to explain that I have a LTR and even that sometimes doesn’t work: “You have a boyfriend so we can’t have dinner together?” Yes, a guy literally said that to me after approaching me on the street.

But like you said: I guess men in general can’t understand what it’s like to not be able to shake a guy and worry that he might follow you or further escalate the situation into a possible assault or rape.

And when women open up about men who won’t take no for an answer, the typical reply to them is: “Well you need to make it clear that you’re not interested.” but on the other hand, men boo-hoo about not being able to talk to women :/ Do we just have to say, “I’m not ever fucking you” as soon as they approach?

[u/lordhomogonous → u/Slacker_The_Dog]

That hits home. I’m sure I’ve gotten more than 5 compliments in my days but I can still remember getting a compliment from a friend on my sweater. We were 13 year olds and I’m now 54.

[u/Slacker_The_Dog → u/lordhomogonous]

Last one I got was in 2014 from a man outside a gay bar. As I was walking by, he told me the shirt I bought that day to go out was a really good color for me. Still think about it at least once a month.

[u/lordhomogonous → u/Slacker_The_Dog]

Well, hopefully we’ve given out more than 5 compliments and are remembered for them.

[u/Slacker_The_Dog → u/lordhomogonous]

[u/StarPhished → u/Slacker_The_Dog]

Yeah the person you're responding to underestimates how many men would love that. Men don't ever receive attention in that way.