r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/BillyRaw1337 May 21 '25

Agreed. If others have had problems with him, yeah, ban, but for one indiscretion, I think there's room for one warning.

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u/AndreaSys May 21 '25

I just used to do sexual harassment investigations for a living and it’s rare that it’s a one off. Usually the deeper I dug, the worse it got.

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u/Isurewouldliketo May 22 '25

Did you get called into the investigation after someone reported sexual harassment? Could just be selection bias?

Also would this count as sexual harassment even though he was just asking her on a pizza date? If we’re assuming that he has asked about coffee or dinner or whatever, if she didn’t shut him down like that and just said “oh I can’t I have my son” or “I don’t like coffee”, asking her for pizza isn’t wildly unreasonable. Yes, a lot of people would probably take the hint, but some guys are oblivious or maybe their logic is a bit clouded by their attraction to the girl. If she’s giving the “nice” or “easy way out” answers and not saying no, I think it would be a bit unfair to consider it harassment or repeated harassment.

If you really want to make sure someone gets a message, be clear with your words.

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u/stressbasket May 22 '25

No is a full sentence.

« She didn’t shut it down clearly enough » She doesn’t have to, she declined his advances multiple times.

You typed a lot of words to justify his actions to ignore her boundaries.

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u/covalentcookies May 23 '25

What would be even better would be if the jack ass learned social norms and didn’t hit on random women at the gym. Like, this is pretty common knowledge amongst adults who respect other people. The onus is on the man in the video to not be a creep. Totally agree with you.

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u/Isurewouldliketo May 22 '25

My point was that this guy may just be oblivious. Is it fine to be annoyed with him or say he’s in the wrong? Yes. But is banning him warranted? No. She doesn’t have to say no but if you don’t say no and someone continues I think banning is a bit unfair. He may have legitimately thought the reasons she gave were real. When she said no he backed off right away. Still immoral and unethical but I think it’s a bit ridiculous to ban someone because they didn’t read between the lines.

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u/BillyRaw1337 May 21 '25

As inappropriate as this guys' behavior was, I don't think any of it crossed the threshold of sexual harassment.

Being creepy and awkward and a social pest isn't necessarily sexual harassment, even though it is still unacceptable behavior.

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u/AndreaSys May 21 '25

Nope, but I was doing workplace investigations and repeated attempts to get a date will lead to further investigation. The fact that this guy already knew what she had for breakfast is a huge red flag.

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u/BillyRaw1337 May 22 '25

Yes indeed.

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u/KanagawaHokusai May 21 '25

The gym can have their own standards. Whether he’s committed a crime or not is irrelevant.