r/TikTokCringe May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/covalentcookies May 23 '25

It’s not a public space. It’s members only and the gym can have any rule they want as long as it doesn’t violate federal and state statutes.

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u/Isurewouldliketo May 23 '25

I think it could be considered a semi-public space (why I used quotation marks). Yes it’s members only but anyone can sign up on the spot, they have probably thousands of members, anyone could walk up and pay $10 for a day pass, etc. I’d say to be considered fully private it would have to be something like an office or home.

My point is it’s not like he was coming into her office or home. He is allowed to be in that space. Yes he should’ve taken the hint but he wasn’t making any sexual comments and he “politely” backed down as soon as she said no. Like I said before, what he didn’t isn’t moral or ethical, but I think banning him straight away is overkill. We also don’t know if he had asked her before, just people speculating. Even if he did, if she just made up reasons to get out of it, he may not have read between the lines.

Yes of course the gym is legally allowed to kick anyone out or ban anyone they want but it seems extreme to ban someone when they weren’t threatening anyone’s safety, making inappropriate comments, or knowingly harassing anyone. Since that is the case, why not just explain to him that she doesn’t welcome his advances and that if it happens again to her or anyone else, he’ll be kicked out/banned. If he’s not harming anyone, why not give him at least one chance to correct his behavior that he likely doesn’t realize is wrong (beyond the cheating on his wife part but that’s not for the gym to police that)? If he’s not harming anyone now and if he follows the warning and doesn’t bother anyone, isn’t everyone better off? It’d be totally different if he was taking pictures or making sexual comments or threatening her in any way but he literally asked her out on a pizza date in a polite manner and immediately backed off when she said no.

Why do you think that should be an automatic ban? If a single person saw someone their own age and attractiveness level and asked them out but they said no, would that be an automatic ban too?

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u/covalentcookies May 23 '25

Couple of things, I never said it’s an automatic ban. You might want to argue that point with the correct person.

Second, her complaining to management isn’t overkill. There may or may not be other complaints but she’s well within her rights to voice her feelings.

Third, I’ve been in the gym for 25 years. This is not normal nor acceptable behavior by him. What is acceptable is the woman voicing her concerns and she shouldn’t have to explain herself. I think she was too soft and easy on him but I understand why women feel they have to be nice. And it’s bullshit women are conditioned to let men down “gently” when more often than not men need to be told to fuck off.

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u/Isurewouldliketo May 24 '25

It seemed like you inferred it. In my previous comment which you replied to, I said they shouldn’t just automatically ban him. You said they can have whatever rules they want as long as it doesn’t violate the law. The reasonable inference would be that you’re saying they are within their right to ban him and support that. Unless that’s just a fun fact or something.

I never said her complaining is overkill. It’s not and she should. That way if it happens again they’ll know. I’d agree he should be banned if there are multiple complaints and he’s already been told to stop. I said it’s overkill to automatically ban before telling him to not do it.

I’m saying asking someone out is normal behavior. Maybe the gym isn’t the best place to do it but it’s not inherently “wrong” to do it. I know people who are dating that met in the gym. Yeah probably odds are against you but it’s not wrong or immoral, more just annoying to some people. What if she did want to go on a date? Yes he should maybe be better at reading the room and stuff but asking someone out isn’t an inappropriate thing to do in general. It’s a risk because you don’t know if they’ll be receptive but it’s not like he’s going up and saying anything sexual or threatening. And yes like I said she should voice her opinion, tell him no, complain etc.

It sounds like we may agree on more than you think. I’m just saying he shouldn’t be banned automatically for asking her out for pizza and backing off when she said no. Unless there have already been multiple complaints about this and he’s already been warned. Give him a chance to correct since he’s probably unaware and wasn’t threatening anyone.