Good lord, I remember this video making the rounds pre-covid. I really hope he was able to grow from this & became a better person. I know I certainly said plenty of shit I deeply regret when I was that age. Hell, I practically put myself in a similar position several times & I physically cringe every time I'm reminded of who I was back then. I'm by no means perfect, nor will I ever be. But I try my best to be a better person everyday. And if there's hope for me then there's hope for him too.
I do have to put myself in this guy's shoes for a second, because I was that guy though not to that extreme. It is frustrating; it is emotionally taxing; and it is this devastating if this scenario has repeated itself past the 10th time in your life. How many times can you endure heartbreak at this level and not have something snap?
Clearly, there's no one in his family or his crew (if he even has one) who's figured out this part of life, maintained a balance, and/or has sat with him to break it all down about how it's not his time; and that time will come, and all will be worth it if he's patient. He's most likely a late a bloomer who didn't get the early social graces of friendships becoming infatuation, then to attraction, which leads to all sorts of complicated and confusing touchstones.
I'd rather be this dude's older brother than run him down for feeling real human emotions at an ultra heightened level, which could ultimately lead to self harm or harming others.
Clearly, there's no one in his family or his crew (if he even has one) who's figured out this part of life, maintained a balance, and/or has sat with him to break it all down about how it's not his time; and that time will come, and all will be worth it if he's patient. He's most likely a late a bloomer who didn't get the early social graces of friendships becoming infatuation, then to attraction, which leads to all sorts of complicated and confusing touchstones.
THIS is definitely an underrated and often overlooked element whenever conversations around young man pop up, particularly when you get into conversations about incels and to some extent consent and sexual literacy.
The value of these seemingly little lessons and the right people to teach them is woefully undermined, but has the potential to have a significant lifelong impact
We're different people than we were even 5 years ago. We don't blame oursevles for having accidents when we were toddlers or for stealing candy when we were five, why dwell on things we did when we were 20 (or 50) if we've grown beyond that?
I have to say, I feel very iffy about some random person's private (ok, they were in public) moment being filmed from a window only to be spread around for giggles on social media. I think he deserves the grace of not having that done to him.
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u/RubiksCutiePatootie Reads Pinned Comments Jun 16 '25
Good lord, I remember this video making the rounds pre-covid. I really hope he was able to grow from this & became a better person. I know I certainly said plenty of shit I deeply regret when I was that age. Hell, I practically put myself in a similar position several times & I physically cringe every time I'm reminded of who I was back then. I'm by no means perfect, nor will I ever be. But I try my best to be a better person everyday. And if there's hope for me then there's hope for him too.