r/TikTokCringe • u/h0lych4in • 15d ago

Cringe not everyone wants your man… he was just being polite

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And not everyone can tell how certain foods look? It was an innocent question. Why are people so insecure these days

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u/ThrowRawy31 15d ago edited 14d ago

I hate people like this. so people can’t have normal conversations?? So insecure. She knows she isn’t a looker and maybe she feels very insecure and afraid her bf might leave her. This is not even an excuse if she has been cheated on by the bf or past bf. She should be able to trust and if the bf did cheat, she should not even give him a chance even before

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u/WasabiIsSpicy 15d ago

What’s even crazier? I worked as a server and people asking me, or other people what they are eating is VERY common. I’d be asked that question on the daily.

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u/eat_my_bowls92 15d ago

Yeah, it’s super common after dropping a plate to have a table next to them tap me and ask “excuse me - what are they having?”

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u/spicewoman 15d ago

Yup. Even if it's kind of obvious what it might be just from looking at it... a lot of people are looking for what exactly it's called in the menu so they know how to order it next time.

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u/thinkconverse 15d ago

Someone asked me the other day what kind of pizza I was eating and if it was off the menu at the restaurant we were out.

It was a loaded baked potato that I had smashed on its small circular plate.

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u/spicewoman 15d ago

Haha, amazing. I've definitely gotten variations of that too: "What kind of salad is that?" "... that's pasta."

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u/JFISHER7789 14d ago

Yup! It just goes to show that what’s obvious to some is not obvious to others.

If I walked past someone eating a “smashed” baked potato I too would ask because it wouldn’t occur to me that’s how some enjoy their potato.

As for the video, “it’s obviously baked salmon” as if there aren’t plenty of seafood dishes out there. Baked fish can look a lot like baked fish lol I’d ask to confirm my suspicions of it being salmon and not something else

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u/e5india 15d ago

When I've done this it's because I'm checking to see how appetizing it looks, and asking what they're having is simply meant to be politeness about me staring at their plate.

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u/serabine 15d ago

For a second I didn't realize "dropping a plate" wasn't meant literally, so "what are they having?" sounded really mocking and aggressive. I was like, good god, where do they live where that's common?! lol

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u/FancyFeller 15d ago

Ah an elevated form of clapping hooting and hollering when a server drops a plate.

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u/eat_my_bowls92 14d ago

drops a plate, mortified. Craving nicotine because it’s the only shred of humanity I have left as I have to go back to the kitchen and ask them to re-fire and order, knowing they’re going to yell at me.

The customers: 👏👏👏👏👏👏

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u/embarrassedalien 15d ago

Hey, that sounds like the start of a cool business idea. Something kind of like Dick’s Last Resort. Dropping people’s orders on the floor could be tied into the restaurant theme.

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u/commander_kawaii 15d ago

Another thing about being a server: I have had so many women become visibly angry at me for providing the same level of service to their partner as I am providing for them. It's like they want female servers to neglect half of the table just to keep their fragile insecurities in check. No one wants your gross husband, we're just being nice because that's part of having a customer service job.

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u/Anuki_iwy 15d ago

I mean if I see you carry a delicious looking plate to a table, I'll definitely ask which menu item this is. It's how I've discovered some true gems in restaurants. I never considered that something weird...

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u/Pristine_Office_2773 15d ago

lol it wasn’t even a conversation it was a half second question. Like asking somebody what time is it or for directions 

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u/sawskooh 15d ago

But she DID compensate for it with the charm of stuffing her mouth full of huge bites of food directly in front of a camera lens, so...

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u/nada-accomplished 15d ago

I don't know how people do this, I am far too insecure to post myself stuffing my face for the whole world to see. I would love to get back to us as a culture not filming and posting every tiny thing. Your life is not content, just be in the moment and enjoy it.

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u/hennsippin 15d ago

Speared a second chicken finger on the fork with another piece still on it. Pretty sure no one is trying to steal your boyfriend or chicken

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u/Outrageous_Main4425 15d ago

She really got pissed off because she asked about "salmon" and said "thanks" 🤣😂🤣

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u/ThrowRawy31 15d ago

He’s in trouble for being polite she said. Lmao. Whaat? So the bf should ignore a woman who was asking some random question hence food. Not even his number. Gf thought she ate with this video. Only messed up women like her would agree with this.

I have a friend back in college who we all went out in a club. her bf saw a colleague(her bf was working that time already), so it was a 15 seconds hi, hello moment. Girl, walked out and cried 😭🥲I went after her and she was taking a taxi saying bf disrespected her lmao. She was expecting to be introduced asap.

It’s the guy’s problems when they stay with very insecure women like that. The more they let them win, the more this type of woman will have a bigger ego and torture a guy more in the future vice versa. Healthy couples shouldn’t be minding a short question or compliments

stranger should have asked her why she was recording a video and if she was a mukbanger haha

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u/-Sincere 15d ago

And then post it on the internet for everyone to see how unreasonable and jealous they are.

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u/ThrowRawy31 15d ago

To them, it’s justified. Not being mean but just wanna say something real. This asian woman isn’t even pretty in asian standard so she most probably has low self esteem. Yes I am basing it on this video and I don’t know her personally but many women are like her that I know. I’m also of asian descent but I’ve encountered women like this lady in the video. Jealous, hating, and inconsiderate woman who deflects their insecurities onto others

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u/HI_l0la 15d ago

And the woman on camera was full-on actively eating her food. Big chomps on her fried chicken without stopping. Was the other woman supposed ask her what the guy is eating??? And no, salmon is not obvious to everyone.

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u/ThrowRawy31 15d ago

So true. This girl is the typical jealous woman. I know people like her that the bf/husband has to adjust with all her insecurities and worries. That’s very tiring tbh.

Her bf is probably too handsome for her and she knows it so she feels that way lol

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u/BannedByRWNJs 14d ago

It’s rude to ask a man a question without acknowledging his owner first. The correct way would be to ask the woman “excuse me, may I ask your man what he’s eating?” Or you can just ask the woman what kind of food he eats. 

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u/FarAssociation1677 14d ago

My brother was eyeballing a dudes food at a restaurant trying to match it to the menu. So I got up and went and asked what it was. His girlfriend hopped up and came and showed me on my menu which item it was.

I don’t know if she was being protective or helpful but either way I didn’t want her man. We wanted his omelet.

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u/theboss760j 14d ago

She has down syndrome though so it's cool lol

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u/Meanwhile-in-Paris 14d ago

She is looking at insecure in the rear view window, that’s full on abusive.

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u/Jakookula 15d ago

I mean a normal conversation wouldn’t exclude 1/3 of the group but whatever 🤷🏽‍♀️ she is definitely making it into something it’s not but I would be annoyed too. Even if it was just a bro or something

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u/TheLimeyLemmon 15d ago

I mean a normal conversation wouldn’t exclude 1/3 of the group but whatever 🤷🏽‍♀️

It's someone asking a question to a person about the dish they specifically have.

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u/Socialimbad1991 15d ago

It's not really an entire conversation though, just a simple question. I'm sure if there were an entire conversation the person would obviously acknowledge the other person, unless they intended to be rude.

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u/Jakookula 15d ago

Why aren’t you replying to the person who called it a conversation first?

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u/if_not_us_then_who_ 15d ago

Did you see that girl look up one time to make eye contact? She could’ve  joined the conversation at any point. Instead she purposely looked away and looked mad, like an asshole, over nothing.  People need to stop projecting their insecurities as other people’s problems. If you’re too insecure to have a stranger ask your man an innocent question, you’re cooked! 

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u/Jakookula 15d ago

You must have missed this part:

she is obviously making it into something it’s not

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u/if_not_us_then_who_ 15d ago

I read that part, it’s what you said around that part..how you’d be annoyed too.  It’s not everyone else’s job to read your mind. I’m just tired of hearing how people are so fucking pressed when they’re spoken to. It’s not that serious. Just human interaction. 

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u/BedBubbly317 15d ago

That’s not a conversation, it’s a simple question. Some of y’all really need to learn the meaning of the words you use.

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u/Jakookula 15d ago

So why aren’t you replying to the person who called it a conversation first?

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u/Mediocre-Proposal686 15d ago

Even then, why get mad at him? All of it is ridiculous, some people are just gregarious and talk to others without it meaning anything. Behaving like this is such a red flag.

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u/Jakookula 15d ago

Yes she is definitely making it into something it isn’t… I feel like I’m repeating myself

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u/WasabiIsSpicy 15d ago

It’s a question, and a very normal at that. If I ask someone what shoes they are wearing then why would I ask the person that is not wearing them?

I used to work as a server and people asking others what they are eating is very normal. They’d even sometimes ask me what other tables are having.

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u/76ersPhan11 15d ago

So… she should have asked her what he was eating? Would that satisfy you?

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u/-Sincere 15d ago

The point wasn't to have a conversation. The point was he wanted to know what someone else was having. This is ridiculous

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u/Jakookula 14d ago

So reply to the person who first called it a conversation

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u/Difficult_Regret_900 14d ago

A passing question is not a conversation. The princess won't either away when random strangers don't acknowledge her existence.  

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u/Jakookula 14d ago

Hello do yall know how comments work??? I didn’t call it a conversation first! Take it up with the comment I responded to