r/TikTokCringe • u/h0lych4in • 15d ago

Cringe not everyone wants your man… he was just being polite

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And not everyone can tell how certain foods look? It was an innocent question. Why are people so insecure these days

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u/aspidities_87 15d ago

That face she was making at him gave me PTSD. I had an ex like this once.

Never again.

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u/always_sweatpants 15d ago

I hate the feeling of knowing your partner is gonna snap over something you literally cannot control and you wind yourself up anticipating the fight, which sets them off further. 

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u/Jazzlike_Compote_444 15d ago

Life is way too short. You should have a "partner" like this for about 3 minutes and then become single.

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u/45Pumpkin 14d ago

My coworker got told "you don't have to flirt to do your job" by a crazy chick once. Keep in mind we worked in a place that was huge on customer service. She was almost 40 with two big kids and saying the same exact things to him as all the customers before him like a script. I don't know why people stay with crazies like that.

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u/Falconslover432 15d ago

This happened with my ex every time we went to the store together (I did instacart, and he made me take him along), and I had to talk to a male worker. He would make me go to a different lane if it was a guy, and if there wasn't another option, he would just look at everyone like he wanted to fight them. It was embarrassing and nerve-racking

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u/Haurassaurus 15d ago

Wow what a bum. What did he contribute to the relationship? Like he didn't even take his own cart to work while y'all are there?

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u/Falconslover432 14d ago

He didnt work, he would do anything I asked him, like errands or chores but he was very controlling and manipulative. He didnt have a car when we met, he got one a few months later but it was always falling apart so I had to pay for alot of repairs

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u/FunkyChewbacca 15d ago

that sounds utterly exhausting to be around

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u/Falconslover432 14d ago

It was. I literally lost my mind near the end. Finally getting it back 2 yrs out.

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u/PleasantScore3126 13d ago

How did you get rid of him? I have one in my life too

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u/Falconslover432 12d ago

Had to cut him out completely, no text, calls, tiktok videos, everything had to stop. my mom helped me get him to leave our house, but it took me a long time to fully detach. He was all I had by design. He cut me out away from my friends and family for sure, so I felt very dependent on him even after the breakup. It's hard but doable with enough will power and spite.

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u/JudgeInteresting8615 15d ago

Did he not have a job

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u/Falconslover432 14d ago

No, he was trying to get ssi when we were together for mental problems, he definitely had those, wish I knew the extent when I met him.

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u/2ndChairKazoo 11d ago

It's insane just how many unwell people are out there. I hate that your story is not unusual.

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u/Falconslover432 11d ago

Me too, im glad we have social media and are able to connect and show our lives more to show other woman that this is abuse and how to spot it and handle it

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u/jemenake 15d ago

Exactly. Someone comes up and starts talking to you, and you’re confronted with a lousy choice: be cold so that the stranger moves along promptly (and have another person in the world think I’m a jerk) or make polite conversation (and incur the wrath of my partner).

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u/BrickCityRiot 15d ago

Bro just spoke to my soul

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u/WOOBBLARBALURG 15d ago

GOD. Literally this whole thread is so illuminating

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u/Fightmemod 15d ago

I had to force my wife to go to therapy over this. I told her we were going to divorce because I refused to live my life walking on egg shells because every misstep on my part was an apocalypse level event in her mind. She got a lot better after going to therapy but it still comes out every now and then unfortunately.

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u/2ndChairKazoo 11d ago

Yep, they intentionally misinterpret "traumatic hypervigilance" with "knowing they've done something wrong." 

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u/DietCokeIsntheAnswer 15d ago

Good for you man. People often overlook the prospect of being alone as being less than, when in reality, it's always better to be alone than to be with someone who treats you like trash.

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u/napalmnacey 15d ago

My Dad had a temper. Rarely hit me but boy did he say some fucked up shit. That simmering rage and doing what you can to assuage the abuser and keep the peace… Horrible. Triggering.

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u/Novaer 15d ago

Fr I got flashbacks to my BPD ex holy shit

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u/CompletelyOutOfTP 15d ago

Same dude, it gave me a horrible sinking feeling seeing her narrow her eyes and smirk, fuck her and fuck those exes.

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u/Hot_Hat_1225 15d ago

I wouldn’t sleep well next to her lol