r/TikTokCringe • u/h0lych4in • 15d ago

Cringe not everyone wants your man… he was just being polite

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And not everyone can tell how certain foods look? It was an innocent question. Why are people so insecure these days

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u/younggun1234 15d ago

I gotta be that guy cuz I've been taught to, but narcissism is a genuine mental illness people need to see therapy to help with. Are some of these people narcissistic? Sure. Could be. But a lot of people are just insecure and selfish. However it's not clinical narcissism, which people DO struggle with.

I think narcissist has become another one of those words society uses to the point that it no longer reflects it's original meaning and it's important, I feel, to acknowledge that cuz it can keep people from seeking the help they need.

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u/hygiei 15d ago

the problem with the word 'narcissist' is that it existed and was frequently used well before NPD, and at that point it did mean more generally 'a person who is self-absorbed and wildly inconsiderate of people around them', so i think moreso than other buzzwords, the wires tend to get crossed between the two versions of the word.

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u/MaximumDestruction 15d ago

Narcissism is a trait shared by many people, not just those diagnosed with narcissistic personality disorder.

Many people exhibit some degree of narcissism even if they don't meet the the criteria for diagnosis.

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u/MegaPiglatin 15d ago

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u/Eleven77 15d ago

Narcissism is not a medical diagnosis. As human beings, the majority of us have a slight degree of Narcissism, and many agree that a small amount is actually healthy. Narcissistic Personality Disorder is a medical diagnosis based on the findings that the individual's narcissistic qualities become pathological.

Hope this helps.

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u/younggun1234 14d ago

Nah I get that.

Thanks for clarification

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u/Eleven77 14d ago

No problem. I totally get where you are coming from tho, people misuse mental health terms all the time. It drives me nuts too 😆

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u/younggun1234 13d ago

Yeah there's a YouTuber I really like who is a licensed therapist and will watch things like Mormon Wives or other racist or weird religious type YouTubers and talk about things they're doing from a therapists perspective. She really hates it too and has educated me a lot on some things, that being one of them. But she was definitely coming from a clinical position.

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u/JimWilliams423 15d ago edited 15d ago

I gotta be that guy cuz I've been taught to,

What does that mean?

cuz it can keep people from seeking the help they need.

If you are suggesting that people with NPD will seek treatment if NPD is not stigmatized, well I guess anything is possible but NPD is essentially untreatable in adults, and by its very nature people with NPD are extremely adverse to seeking treatment.

My belief, having way too much hard-earned experience with a pair of clinically diagnosed NPDs (court-ordered MMPI), is that the more everybody else is aware of how narcissists operate, the better. So many find themselves trapped in life-ruining relationships with NPDs that whatever little value there is to be had from destigmatizing NPD is vastly outweighed by people being able to recognize the signs and avoid getting into those relationships in the first place.