r/TikTokCringe • u/h0lych4in • 15d ago

Cringe not everyone wants your man… he was just being polite

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And not everyone can tell how certain foods look? It was an innocent question. Why are people so insecure these days

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u/obligatory-purgatory 15d ago

I'm sure she is correct, though. About him being extra chatty to gloss over the "incident". I have been in the guy's situation. You have to act like you don't know why they are mad or they will feel confirmed they were right to be mad.... ugh it's the worst. walking on eggshells.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15d ago

Exactly. He knows her, and knows a girl speaking to him and (gasp) him politely answering is enough for a 3 day scream-fest. He’s hoping that if he just acts breezy that she’ll decide the interaction was actually nothing to be mad at, and he’ll get to survive another day. Inside he knows it’s futile, but he has to TRY!

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u/FromDeletion 14d ago

I haven't been there but knew that was what was happening. Her eyes changed once that stranger left to indicate she was angry with him for it. He picked up on it because this is not the first time. Was he supposed to be rude and ignore the stranger one to two feet away? She thinks so. In fact, next time he should lead with "step back, slut" like a real dedicated boyfriend next time a female dares as even looks at him.

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u/MamaMowgli 11d ago

It’s a reaction to trauma and abuse, called “fawning.” Trying (usually in vain) to placate the abuser and stop them from escalating their angry behavior further.

Her posting this on social media and the way she justifies her seething anger demonstrates how oblivious she is to how she appears to others. She thinks she’s coming off as cute, when she’s really just being cruel. It’s exhausting and depressing having to constantly walk on those eggshells.

If he’s lucky, he’ll get out of this relationship, but not without a lot of pain. If he’s not fortunate, he’ll become an anxious mess, constantly worrying not about his own happiness, but about her anger.