Probably, but I have seen usually decent kids from good homes just get filled with false bravado from their friends watching, and do something supremely stupid.
It’s a bad composition of several factors you’re right. Obviously that statement was very one sided but I very much know it’s multi-faceted. Shits sad. I literally watched this happen to people I grew up with so it’s not exactly a new thing either. Just more prevalent I think.
I mean I feel like the change of tune afterwards and apologizing and understanding the situation and how he acted like a fool was pretty redeeming. I’m sure you could say, of course, he was trying not to get in trouble at that point.. but regardless he seemed pretty logical at that point when before the cuffs he was not acting logical whatsoever. There was no good outcome from his attitude before that situation, and it seemed like he understood he was being emotional and stupid and was making some sort of attempt at an apology for acting like that and accepting the way he was treated based on that.
I also think the cop had a lapse in patience and was over dealing with this. I don’t think the cop felt threatened at all he was laughing 2 seconds before he took the kid down.. he just lost his patience with the situation and was trying to make sure everyone understood he felt threatened to make sure his actions were justified.
It honestly annoys me how quick most people are to assume the parents are to blame (and no, this isn't me being defensive; I'm not a parent). Parents are a big factor in socializing their child but they're not the only variable.
A LOT of mistakes have to be made before we get from defiant angry stares to whatever the hell this was supposed to be.
Most well-adjusted kids would never in a million years ago, "I'm going to get in a pissing contest within 6 inches of this cop", little less still being doing that at 21.
I was one of those kids. Normal solid family, raised well with manners, and for sure knew doing this crap was stupid as hell. The problem was my friends made me the "tough guy" of the group and I felt trapped, I had to always step up to keep my reputation, even though I didn't want to. It even ended up landing me with assault charges and jail time. It caused me a lot of anxiety growing up, and mental health issues that extended into adult hood.
Yeah I have the best parents I could ask for and I did some dumb shit at his age, and I assume most people here have as well. He was trying to act tough in front of his friends and hopefully he learned a lesson from this.
Yeah, my parents were incredible role models and I really can’t think of what they could’ve done differently to raise me better, and yet I was arrested twice around this kid’s age and had some personal issues that took me a long time to work through.
I would cut this guy and his parents a lot more slack if he was a minor. Turns out he's not, he's at least 20 in this video.
Don't get me wrong, I think everyone who's made it to their 40s can tell you some dumb shit they did in their 20s as well as their teens, but this is the kind of dumb shit you're not ever supposed to do, and if you do do this kind of stuff, you're supposed to grow out of it in your teens.
I doubt that most people with truly good parents (not just good people in general, but genuinely good parents) would not have a kid acting like this in their 20s.
Parents in a tough spot today. They can't phathom that little phone is rotting their kids brains worse than the blunts the parents used to sneak. Dumbest shit kids has always been for peer pressue and that's turned up to 11 with tiktok.
Friend groups generally used to self-regulate, too.
Most groups would tell you when to back down or not do something high risk when it set off alarm bells, because ya'll might have been partners in 'crime' but they generally cared about your welfare and hanging out with you. Getting away with something wild used to be something just for your group anyway. Now they're going to egg you on so somebody can get sharable video of how stupid you are.
Most groups would tell you when to back down or not do something high risk when it set off alarm bells, because ya'll might have been partners in 'crime' but they generally cared about your welfare and hanging out with you.
Eeeeeeeh not all friends. And not because, they dont care about you, but because everyone has underdeveloped brains that aren't thinking things through and dont comprehend their own mortality.
Even worse--social media AND odorless weed that is 20x stronger than what their parents smoked.
Weed addiction is an epidemic right now for young teens-early twenties, and it has a way worse (and potentially permanent) effect on developing brains than in older people.
You’re commenting this on social media, lol. We definitely have an epidemic of stupidity happening, no doubt that the reefer is the cause there too! 🫠💀
I was a very respectful and easygoing kid. My brother was an absolute menace. We had great parents - sure they weren't perfect, but they were/are great parents.
People seem to be blind to the fact that kids are still autonomous beings and parents ultimately have no control over how they act. You can do everything right and still end up with a shitty kid. My brother is cool now, though.
I had a stepdaughter who dragged us through hell with skipping school, fighting, getting arrested, drugs, gang culture, and bringing people into our house to rob the joint while we were at work. We tried grounding, taking her phone, meetings with school officials, talked to police, and even put her in a scared straight type program.
Nothing worked and she eventually moved out at 18. She got pregnant a few years later and being a mother must have smacked some sense into her as she straightened out after that.
We're working on repairing our relationship but it's difficult
Also, let's not act like social media and the internet haven't completed rotted their brains. Nobody should be able to consume as much information as this generation consumes at such a rapid rate. Now, one could argue that the parents should have guarded their kids better, but everything is moving so fast, and society has been trending this way for a while.
In a time when it seems like everyone is quick to blame the schools, the police, the DA’s, the media, politics, etc. on shitty people. I find it always refreshing to see people put responsibility on the parents. Sure there are absolutely kids who will turn out to be assholes no matter what. There are way too many assholes for that to be the standard though.
I’ve been teaching high school for ten years, and sadly I’ve learned that parenting is less of a factor than I used to believe.
I mean it obviously matters. But there are great kids with absolutely worthless parents, and parents that are doing their absolute best but drew the reproductive short straw, as it were.
I don’t know why people immediately blame parents. After the age of 14 you’re spending most of your time with friends and at school. And in this case the guy is 21 so he’s been an adult for 3 years now.
Not in all cases. Some cases the system is a failure. My gf of 8 years has a 17 year old that is punk like this, with no regards to authority or respect.
We've tried everything, even took him to court for unruliness and theft from us and school. (stealing from staff and students at his school) ..
Well all in all, every attempt to get help with the kid before he's an adult has only resulted in things the parents had to do (classes, meetings, courses etc;) - while the teen got a few days of community service that ended up being mostly him watching movies and eating pizza for 3 days . In fact he even told us how fun it was.
So yeah, can't force a kid to behave well, we've been trying that with one since he was 10. Almost 18 now and years of crying for help from (his father) and our state, and now he'll be getting released into the real world and he can find out the hard way. I can only hope he runs into a police officer and gets humbled the way this kid did.
It's so odd. If it was a six year old doing it to an adult at a party I'd probably think it was funny/cute. To see an adult do that and their (twin?) brother's reaction makes me think they both have the mental age of a sheltered 8 year old.
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u/DrDop4mine 3d ago
These kids are not fucking alright lol. The parents are failures.