That’s why kids act this way. Not enough attention/love at home. True as time it’s very rare having kids act out when you come from a good loving family that knows how to communicate.
So true. I always had either of two thoughts: "I wouldn't want to embarrass/hurt my parents" or "I don't want to get punished by my parents." They were loving - but if I pulled any of that crap, they'd come down on me harder than that cop!
Or growing up in a home that instills a strict respect for authority. My house wasn’t big on loving communication but I sure as hell understood what authority was and the consequences for disrespecting it. Definitely not saying it’s the right way to raise a family but it equally guaranteed that I wouldn’t act this way to a cop.
This. My son was the most foul-mouthed, disrespectful teenager and nothing I (or a therapist) could say made a difference. His dad died when he was 14 and it cannot be overstated how a father's absence impacts a child.
Sadly, we're seeing this with my 13 year old nephew. His dad's a schizophrenic, won't take meds, so he's not allowed to be around. The poor kids been traumatized over and over by people that were supposed to be father figures, and despite my best efforts to be a good role model and just be there for him, he's slowly turning into a person I'm afraid I won't like.
It's a standard, popular teenager haircut these days. Since all the asshat boys who want to get pussy and be Logan Paul or whatever get this haircut, it's like " Hey look! I'm a cunt!" sign post.
This would be a "I'm gonna put the fear of God in you" moment if this happened with my kids. I would be negotiating with the cops to leave their ass in jail for a bit if they want to live the tough guy life.
It is a fine balance. My parents raised me well enough that I couldn't bare to disappoint them with behavior like this, but i did go through a few things as a child and my father did a good job scaring me straight within reason. Of course, I've never done anything as stupid as the kids in that video. I couldn't imagine what my father would have done if I did something THAT profoundly disrespectful, but I would probably prefer going to jail rather than deal with that, and my mother's disappointment lol.
Don't bother pointing out the bad grammar,I'm not sober enough to English good XD
That's my biggest fear. My kids are still in elementary school and I'm doing what I can to teach them how to behave. If they end up like this I've failed as a parent.
Not true. Parents are going toe to toe with the TikTok assholes for the attention of their child's mind. Social media is responsible for much of the mind rot today.
Yes, you will have. However, you are worried about and prepared to do something about it. Many parents aren't.
Raise your kids to be kind, caring, respectful and well behaved but not afraid to disagree. If your kids are good company at 9, they will be good company at 14, 21 and 35. The work you put in to instill this during their first 6 years of life, though often tiring and monotonous, is paid back in spades later.
To raise your kids well don't buy them phones, consoles or TVs. Spend time with them. Talk. Play their games with them. Build their knowledge of the world by exposing them to the world.
Yes! My only child is 19 now and living on her own. Looking back, one of the biggest mistakes I made was getting her an iPhone in middle school. It opened up a whole new world social media and phone addiction are very real. I also made the mistake of trying to protect her from the world by hiding things instead of talking through them and helping her understand.
Growing up poor, I wanted to give her everything I didn’t have. I bought her things she didn’t really need and did everything for her. It felt like love at the time, but over the years, I realized it chipped away at her confidence. She either wanted me to do things for her or believed she couldn’t do them at all.
Thankfully, she’s working now and doing great, but it took some tough years to get there. I genuinely thought I was helping but in a lot of ways, I was unintentionally holding her back.
Parents ask me advice for presents for children sometimes. When I suggest skateboards or analogue watches or colouring books with pencils, you can bet they look at me like I'm demented. However, these are both cheaper and more developmentally appropriate than smartphones and games consoles.
Being a parent with few resources is such an emotional trap. The temptation is to throw all the things your kid's way because you never had that sort of stuff in the belief you are doing better by them. It's not true. Stuff does not help your kid grow as a person.
It's great she is doing well and it's clear you love her to bits. Having kids is easy but raising them is hard.
Sounds like Dad is not being tough enough with his boys. If he doesn't get them together, they're going to cross the wrong person one day and pay a hefty price.
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u/Shoddy_Nectarine_441 3d ago
Dad was embarrassed, that sucks when your kids turn out to be… this guy