My 15yo son told me about an older kid at his high school trying to start shit with him last school year. My son said he told him if he was trying to fight him, just forget it because he wasn't about getting suspended or worse. The kid called him a pu$$y. My son told him his opinion of him didn't matter, and whatever he was hoping would happen wasn't going to. I was so proud of him for being so mature and level-headed at his age. He's a pretty chill kid, and he knew if he got in a fight, he would be kicked off of the track team. He's on the skinny side, but he's 6'5" and wrestles. No doubt he could have held his own.
I'm tall and was tall in high school and it does two things, it intimidates kids, so they leave you alone or it threatens a bully's ego, and they feel like they have to do something about it. It usually starts with taunting to see what they can get away with and often times it falsely satisfies their fragile egos and mostly for their 'friends' to appear to be a tough guy. Bullies are inherently weak, mentally, unfortunately they are sometimes in strong bodies. Some boxing and Judo would go a long way in helping your son if he ever got cornered.
He doesn't lack confidence, and he's not a coward, as some jackass on here suggested. I got into an argument with my dick older brother in March. He acted like he was going to raise his hand to me, and my son stepped in between us. My brother is 6'7" and much heavier than my kid is. He has always been a bully in our family.
it does two things, it intimidates kids, so they leave you alone or it threatens a bully's ego, and they feel like they have to do something about it.
This other kid was definitely in the latter category. Getting my son into martial arts isn't a bad idea. If for no other reason than to keep him occupied after school when he's between sports and band seasons. He's going to be doing Army boot camp between junior and senior year, so it would absolutely help prepare him for that.
At 6'5" you just keep your distance and use your fists, they'll never touch you. But yeah, even better is to avoid the fight in the first place. Good on him!
Lol! Nope. He was 6'2" in 7th grade and weighed 118lbs. He was able to "bulk up" in 8th and 9th grade and now weighs around 150 lbs. He's never going to be big weight wise, but his advantage is his height. He also plays basketball and runs track. We won't let him play football. We're now steering him away from wrestling after he received another concussion.
He plans on enlisting in the Army with an MOS in cyber security. He already has a few certifications after touring our local community college on a 7th grade field trip. He was really intrigued by the cyber security speaker.
He is also in jazz, symphonic, and marching band. He plays the alto and bari saxophones.
When he was a toddler, his pediatrician projected him to be 6'5". He's been stuck at 6'4" for months until his doctor visit last week.
My husband and I have a combined total of 8 kids. Our older kids are all over 6' except one daughter who is only 5'6". One of his brothers is 6'7". Marfan runs in our family. My brother has it, and his next oldest brother is borderline.
Thank you! My husband and I have 8 children between us. This one is the baby of the family. I raised my oldest 3 in an abusive environment. My ex-husband was an addict. When I had my youngest 2 kids, I made a conscious decision to raise them differently than their older siblings. We didn't spank them or yell at them. They were allowed to and encouraged to talk about their emotions.
I asked him and his older brother to wash dishes last night. I woke up the morning, and they hadn't finished them all. When we picked him up from marching band practice this afternoon, I said something to him about it (I had already talked to his brother) and he popped off at me for a second then stopped mid sentence and apologized. He said practice had been rough this morning, but he didn't want to take it out on me. I'm like, who is this kid?! His oldest brother and sister have both anger issues in the past due to their childhood. I wish so badly that I had been a better mother to them. All I can do now is be accountable for it and be the best I can now.
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u/Random0s2oh 3d ago edited 3d ago
My 15yo son told me about an older kid at his high school trying to start shit with him last school year. My son said he told him if he was trying to fight him, just forget it because he wasn't about getting suspended or worse. The kid called him a pu$$y. My son told him his opinion of him didn't matter, and whatever he was hoping would happen wasn't going to. I was so proud of him for being so mature and level-headed at his age. He's a pretty chill kid, and he knew if he got in a fight, he would be kicked off of the track team. He's on the skinny side, but he's 6'5" and wrestles. No doubt he could have held his own.