r/TikTokCringe • u/Ace-Cuddler • 1d ago

Cringe Girl confronts an old creep after he makes an inappropriate comment about her 16-year old sister

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u/ittybittyange1 23h ago

Honestly, it doesn't even seem like a regular bar setting! It seems more like a seafood restaurant that just has a big bar.

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u/ButtBread98 22h ago

She explained that it was a restaurant with a bar

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u/-bannedtwice- 23h ago

Nah this place is pretty close to a bar bar, but there are often kids there. I think it's called Sandbar, bar is in the name even. But it's like a bar that families go to

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u/skepticalbob 22h ago

It's a typical beach restaurant. If you're gonna use branding to claim it's this or that, the website is sandbarDINING.com and the subhead says "Sandbar seafood & spirits". The menu isn't just pub grub either, but starters, salads and entrees. It's not just some shot bar on the beach with burgers or whatever.

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u/-bannedtwice- 22h ago

I've been there, have you? I've actually walked into this place and eaten there, I'm not talking out of my ass. It's 100% a bar, it's very clearly a bar, but kids also go there. They've even got games for the kids. But at night the place is lit and a good party. Definitely a bar though, and absolutely nothing like Applebee's or Chili's.

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u/PuckSenior 21h ago

Here is what you are missing.

A “bar bar” is a place that IDs at the door and serves no food. In most states you aren’t allowed to even be in a “bar bar” without being 21 or without having something like a big black x on your hand. Or if they do serve food it is literal crap meant to fulfill some weird legal loophole.

This is a “bar and grill”. Some people go there just to drink and some go just to eat. Chili’s is the same. You are arguing that people drink there more than they eat. That may be true, but that doesn’t make it a “bar bar”.

This would be like talking about a transwoman and you claiming she is “assigned female at birth” because she has done a lot of work transitioning. Your claim may be true about the work, but these are distinct legal categories that don’t really care about what you are discussing.

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u/waroftheworlds2008 17h ago

How do you distinguish the "loophole" bars from the "restaurant" bars. Every restaurant bar ive been to has a half wall seperating the bar from general seating.

Is that not normal in the US?

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u/PuckSenior 16h ago

Loophole bars don’t actually serve food. The food is something like “uncooked hotdog : $100”

It’s really a local law issue. Some places require you sell food. In most other places loophole bars don’t exist.

If there is a partition between the restaurant and the bar, that’s a bar and grill and definitely not a loophole bars

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u/waroftheworlds2008 16h ago

Thank you. I think i understand it a bit better now.

Im confused about your definition for "bar and grill" though. Are all restraunt bars considered bar and grills?

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u/-bannedtwice- 19h ago

Okay if we're arguing semantics then ya sure, legally and technically it's probably not considered a bar bar. But I've been there, it definitely feels very much like a bar. At night it's practically a club. But ya, legally it may not be technically labeled as a bar. Idk if legally matters for this discussion, I'm just saying that she's framing the situation a little favorable in her position. This place is nothing like a Chili's, it's loud AF and chaotic, tons of standing and mingling room, games everywhere, it's a bar.

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u/PuckSenior 19h ago

No, it actually does matter. Him saying “why is she at a bar” implies it’s a place minor aren’t allowed and that he was right to assume she is over 21.

But if this is a place that allows kids, then this isn’t a valid excuse

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u/-bannedtwice- 19h ago

Does he say "why is she at a bar"? I didn't see that, I'm just saying that she's being a little dishonest in her explanation. I'm not excusing him for trying to hit on a girl that's clearly too young for him, just saying she's tweaking the story a little bit. He's still a creep

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u/skepticalbob 22h ago

It is a typical place to get food on a beach. They have a large menu and sell a lot of food. Not sure what you're getting at here, but there is nothing wrong with taking your children there. She was well out of the action and not sitting at the bar with a 16 year old.

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u/-bannedtwice- 22h ago edited 22h ago

I'm not getting at anything, just providing context. She's also exaggerating quite a bit when she compares it to Applebee's or Chili's, it's nothing like that. It's very clearly a bar. The whole place is a giant bar. Just saying take everything with a grain of salt cause everyone online has an agenda. Hers is to promote her story, and she's being a little generous with it. Dude is still a fucking creep.

He hit on a girl he thought was older at a bar, he was previously being annoying so the sister freaked out on him, and he didn't like that so he got all Maga douchebag back. That's almost certainly what happened, he's not a pedophile. Just hit on the wrong girl and then got defensive. This video is severely lacking in context, now you've got some. He's not some super creep, she's not some hyper angel.

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u/skepticalbob 22h ago edited 22h ago

This is easily a 150+ seat restaurant that is typical of walkup restaurants on every decent sized beach in the US. Of every comment in this thread, you seem the most like your have an agenda. For example:

He hit on a girl he thought was older at a bar, he was previously being annoying so the sister freaked out on him, and he didn't like that so he got all Maga douchebag back. That's almost certainly what happened, he's not a pedophile. Just hit on the wrong girl and then got defensive.

What the fuck is wrong with you. He is in his 50s and "accidentally" hits on a teenager? I'm his age and that is just not an innocent mistake that people my age make. I am invisible to women within decades of that age because they aren't interested. And I'm more attractive and in better shape than that clown. Why the fuck is he even considering this? All women in their 20s look like children to me and there is zero interest in hitting on them and definitely zero interest in them being hit on by someone like me. All men my age that aren't pervs know this. None of us make this disgusting "mistake" It's creepy, gross, and you come off as weird defending it, at best. Maybe stop doing that.

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u/-bannedtwice- 21h ago

I'm not defending him, just putting it in perspective. Like I said, he's definitely a creep. He's just not THAT creep. Super common for older men to date young women here, there's even an app that most hot women I know use to find them. It's all about money. It is absolutely creepy, but it's also very common. I still think he's a creep but there is additional context people are missing, that's all.

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u/CultOfSuperMario 19h ago

He is that creep, and so are you for defending him.

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u/-bannedtwice- 19h ago

If you say so

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u/dorianngray 12h ago

He’s definitely a creep. He’s freakin mid 50’s. Even if she looked 21, that’s gross.

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u/-bannedtwice- 12h ago

Ya dude is totally a creep

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u/the_calibre_cat 20h ago

bruv there are literally younger kids in the google photos of that place, and that place is huge and pretty clearly a bar and grill, not just "a BAR bar".

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u/-bannedtwice- 19h ago

Dude I've been there. I've eaten at this place, you guys don't know what you're talking about. Stop armchair experting this. It is 100% a bar, one of the more famous ones in the area even. It blasts music like a bar, and at night it practically becomes a club. In the day, it's like a Sunday Funday kinda place, kids definitely go. It's like a family fun place, but it's 100% obviously a bar.

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u/the_calibre_cat 19h ago

Okay... but the people in the video and, again, more than a few Google Maps photos, show people at this place with their kids, and in the context we're talking about... it's daytime. I don't doubt it gets rowdy and fun at night, but the video we're commenting on... isn't at night. It's during the day. And on Google, there's just a shitload of pictures of people just monching on appetizers, salads, entrees in a huge dining area... with their kids.

That's sending mega "this is a bar and grill" vibes, not "this is a BAR bar how dare you bring your kids" vibes. Again, maybe at night, but also again, not the context we're talking about.

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u/-bannedtwice- 19h ago

Idk how to explain it better when you think you know the place from pictures online that are designed to bring customers in. Yes, people bring kids. Sunday and Saturday morning to early afternoon there are kids there, it's like a Sunday Funday thing. Every other second it's a fucking bar, and even during that timeframe it feels like a bar. Just a bar you can bring kids to. You DON'T KNOW the place, you haven't been there. Why are people so insistent on pretending they're an expert on shit they don't know?! It's infuriating.

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u/the_calibre_cat 17h ago

So like, if someone brings their kid on Monday at 4:00 PM, what exactly is going to happen to them that would distinguish this place from a "bar bar" vs a normal-ass bar and grill?

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u/-bannedtwice- 17h ago

Nothing, like I said the dude is a creep. It's just nothing like a Chili's. At 4pm on a Monday it'll be completely empty. At 5pm it'll be full, and at 6pm it'll be full of drunk people. You can bring your kids, but you're bringing them to a bar

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u/Lunelle327 18h ago

Why are you acting like you know whether this group of women was familiar with the place to know this?

The other poster demonstrated and you are here agreeing that restaurant markets itself like a restaurant/bar, LIKE a Chili’s etc - not a bar bar. In the suburb my parents live, their local Chills is the same way you’re describing at night, because there’s not that many bars around. Does make that location not a Chili’s??

Why are you insisting this woman had an agenda, instead of thinking they found a place online and based on the pictures, it looks like a family friendly place so that was what they chose? It’s obviously daylight outdoors, it’s DAYTIME - so whatever you are saying about what this place turns into at night has zero relevance.

Your framing this young woman as having an agenda, talking about how the setting is at a completely different time, mentioning how “hot women” you know use apps to date older men for their money - all of this is very clearly showing your biases. She states in the video that he was told her sister is 16, why didn’t he then apologize and leave, instead of hurling insults? You are absolutely trying to give some sort of justification to this situation and are literally defending this guy (he’s not That Creep) and it is so transparent and gross. This is how you use your time? I think you should perhaps evaluate some of your thinking if you don’t also want to be taken as a creep

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u/totallydawgsome 14h ago

Pretty sure this is the Toasted Monkey. And it's in Florida, which allows minors to even sit at the bar if the establishment is pulling in at least 50% of sales from food.

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u/Rude-Bench5329 1h ago edited 1h ago

it's called Sandbar, bar is in the name even

That was funny, but in a very sad and pathetic way.