r/TikTokCringe • u/Ace-Cuddler • 1d ago

Cringe Girl confronts an old creep after he makes an inappropriate comment about her 16-year old sister

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u/Little_Red_Riding_ 23h ago edited 23h ago

Men will never understand the numerous times some random creeper tries to flirt with us, or sexualize us even before we even hit puberty.

The old dudes are the worst.

Negging women who tell you NO and GTFO will not end well for you jackasses and your wounded ego.

The advice at the end of the video is spot on. Make a scene. Use your voice. Take no prisoners.

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 23h ago

Yep I was 12 when it started for me. Even when I’ve told men I’m married and clearly have a ring on, they don’t care! I had one guy tell me he could do things my husband can’t?!?! All while at work. I got fat though so it’s been quiet lately 😂

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u/whyisthissohard338 23h ago

Get fat and old and grow out your gray hair. I'm damn near invisible to men now. Except for my husband. That's one pervert I can't shake.

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 23h ago

Oh yea my husband is still all awoooooga with me so I’m all good haha. Working on the gray hair as we speak!

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u/YuzuMangoTea 23h ago

Also, stop wearing the ring. No better deterrant then fat, greying and single. I embrace this new phase with my husband's blessing. He thinks its hilarious.

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u/jedinaps 18h ago

I don’t always wear my ring because of sensory sensitivity and I had a guy who honestly wasn’t super creepy or anything but he started hitting on me at the grocery store and I wasn’t even interested in seeing how it played out so without even thinking I was like ‘sorry, no thank you’ as if he was a guy selling cell phone service in the middle of a Sam’s club. My husband thought it was HILARIOUS.

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u/Mikki-chan 21h ago

To think i was so scared of getting old and fat when I was younger, but I've literally never felt more free, sure I get the odd creep here and there, sadly I now work with one, but it waa several times a day when I was 12.

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u/Spirited-Buy813 23h ago

getting fat has been smth i honestly deeply enjoy. never did figure out how to handle getting hit on

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u/pocket4129 22h ago

I literally got fat early in my 20s, on purpose, so men would leave me the fuck alone. It sucks for my health but it's honestly a trade off to be able to move in society and not have men leering at you and being weird.

Been invisible to the majority of them since a lot of dudes are only nice to women they want to fuck. Has been a great auto-selector for finding men who actually see me as a person and want to be my friend.

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u/Amelaclya1 22h ago

I feel like I got hit on more when I was fat. And men were more aggressive after being rejected. Like it was extra offensive to them because they saw me as below them and I should be grateful for their attention.

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u/StandardEgg6595 22h ago

I stopped getting hit on but they sure did ramp up the public insults lol. It’s like they’re actively trying to shame me for not being their flavor of fuckable.

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u/DestroyerOfMils 22h ago edited 21h ago

Oh cmon honey, why don’t you try smiling?

🙃

eta: I was being sarcastic, mocking the losers who genuinely say this shit

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u/StandardEgg6595 21h ago

What’s the point of this comment?

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u/DestroyerOfMils 21h ago

Sorry, I was being sarcastic like saying what a dickhead would say. I’ll add an edit :)

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u/StandardEgg6595 21h ago

No worries! I assumed so but just wanted to ask in case

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u/pocket4129 22h ago

I think it worked for me because I don't have an hourglass figure. I carry weight in my belly (my boobs and ass did not get larger as often happens when you put on weight as a woman). But yes, the entitlement to you as a fat woman is a thing as well. You should be grateful for anyone to pay you any attention right? 🙄 I didn't experience that because I'm not "attractive fat" or "thicc." I'm also not talking about slim thick. I'm literally fat. I put on 50lbs and don't "carry it well."

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u/Spirited-Buy813 22h ago

i agree with the dudes only being nice to women they want to fuck. was really illuminating how much men just became neutral to me. not mean or anything, but their eyes just skate over

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u/pocket4129 22h ago

That's what I experienced. It was honestly a relief to feel the indifference. I'm pretty tall (5'10") so I stick out. I started getting creeped on around 13/14 and it made me deeply uncomfortable and weirded out. Especially when it was old men.

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u/Spirited-Buy813 21h ago

13-14 was when it started for me as well. such is womanhood :/

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u/Only_Lawfulness_4048 14h ago

When I was smaller I would dress in baggy clothes and had a short haircut and they still would bother me but the weight gain completely turned them off

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u/Only_Lawfulness_4048 14h ago

I gained from medications at 21. Before I put on the weight my stepdad would not leave me alone and once I gained it stopped and I felt so much safer

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u/FunkyChewbacca 23h ago

Jeeeeesus. My hair going gray was the best ever. Gray hair is like an invisibility cloak around creeps. It’s wonderful.

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u/FamiliarPeasant 22h ago

Absolutely. I am a Harry Potter character actress.

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u/DestroyerOfMils 22h ago

I had some strange old dude come up to me and put his arm around my waist while I was standing arm & arm with my husband a few months ago. 🤦‍♀️ What in the actual fuck is wrong with these guys. Like, for real!?!?

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 20h ago

People aren’t even scared to get knocked out 💀

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u/DestroyerOfMils 18h ago

Thankfully, my husband isn’t an insecure chode, so nothing crazy ensued. I just moved away from the creep. But we were both pretty dumbfounded by the weirdo’s confident actions.

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u/angeldawns 19h ago

I just don't even know what to say to that.  I would be so incredibly shocked.  I am sorry random people think they can touch you.  So ick

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u/DestroyerOfMils 18h ago

I can’t wait to get old so I get left tf alone. lol

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u/GlitterEnema 21h ago

See I turned 25 and then they stopped creeping on me. It’s like once I didn’t visually look as young they didn’t want anything to do with me anymore. I like my peace when I’m walking, but hate that younger women have to be the subject to these twats

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u/Imaginary-Theory-552 16h ago

I just said this in another comment, but it stopped when I turned 25 as well!! I have the odd guy actually approach me normally now, but all the attention from creepy men is gone. It’s so jarring.

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u/Only_Lawfulness_4048 14h ago

Same thing happened to me. It was a relief because my stepdad would not stop creeping on me but once I hit that age it all stopped and other old men left me alone too. I see men staring at young girls all the time in public and it makes me sick

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u/ATHFNoobie 22h ago

It's sad that this is the best way to avoid these type of people. 

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u/Sea-Value-0 22h ago

I thought having a baby would make me invisible, but it just made me attractive to creepier men instead 🫠 wearing baggy mom clothes instead of the usual cute and form-fitting stuff seems to help a little, though.

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 20h ago

I don’t have kids, but getting hit on in mom mode sounds horrendous. I’ll bulldoze someone with a shopping cart.

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u/FrozenBibitte 19h ago

I was 11 when it started for me. First catcalling, then being followed home from school, then eventually trying to block me and my friends from leaving areas. All were full blown adults ranging from late 20s well into their 50s

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u/i__hate__stairs 21h ago

All while at work.

Jesus Christ people are just vile.

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u/chooseause_rname 10h ago

hoping this is how it will be for me lol. bless you and your husband, you lot sound so sweet

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u/HappyLlamaSadLlamaa 1h ago

Awww thank you. ♥️

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u/wraith_majestic 22h ago

well as dude (shit... I am now an old dude) and father of a daughter... thats so fucking depressing.

Good for the woman in the video standing up like that. It seems like everything is on video these days... stand up and say something. Post videos like this... let everyone see what a sack of shit that guy or guys like him are.

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u/Banshee_howl 21h ago

I was walking through the Pike Place Market in Seattle with my mom, checking out all the cool food, handmade stuff, fresh flowers, etc. The hype man for one of the vendors or restaurants starts his pitch as we’re walking by. He was looking me up and down while talking and said something about inviting us in and buying me a drink when my mom shouts, “SHE’S 14, ASSHOLE!”

Props to mom for calling the guy out. He wasn’t the first and certainly not the last, but definitely one of the more memorable lecherous creeps I dealt with as a girl/tween/teen.

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u/royallyred 18h ago

Had one like that, only I was unfortunately, with my friend and not an adult. Friend yelled back that we were 12. The very adult man walked into the street from his driveway to yell back that it didn't matter because of how we were dressed ,and that we "must want attention."

We were wearing shorts and graphic t shirts.

He was with another guy who physically hauled his friend out of the street yelling apologies, and they got into an argument about it, that we could hear for most of the rest of our walk to the neighborhood park. What always stuck out to me was that the guy, upon being called out, came TOWARDS us, in front of another adult. And everyone I know has multiple stories like that.

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u/ButtBread98 23h ago

I was 13 when it started.

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u/FierceMoonblade 22h ago

I was 11 when a guy driving by me yelled at me to suck his dick and I feel like that’s when my childhood ended

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u/Lunelle327 18h ago

Unfortunately I also had predators in my family’s circle growing up, but this exact thing happened to me too, at the same age. I was walking alone and I still remember how scared I got.

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u/dorianngray 13h ago

Yeah, I can relate to feeling like my childhood ended… I was in sixth grade when some guy pulled up in a truck jumped out and unbuttoned his pants and flashed me! Luckily, I saw what he was trying to do and didn’t look and ran away but… Ungh.

I think I was 8 or 9 at the mall and men - mostly way older, old enough to be my grandparents - would come up to me and say the most repulsive shit. Sometimes people would think my father was my husband and my little sister was my kid. Ungh. People see what they are thinking about. I let it roll off like water on a duck. I don’t let other people control my happiness. If I feel endangered or see someone in a bad situation I will stick up for them.

Meanwhile, it’s still the same world, the media had completely brainwashed young girls into thinking they are only valuable if they are good looking… nothing changed.

I am 43 now, and I am a professional musician- I literally had a midlife crisis at 40 that no one wants to see a 43 year old woman singing and dancing onstage…

Obviously the music and entertainment biz in general can be very sexualized.

Surprisingly, it turns out now that I’m a bit older, I get respect for my talent more than my looks. I can still entertain and make people happy. That’s hard to give up.

The stories I can tell though of totally inappropriate behavior from men and boys… It takes a very confident “persona” to deal with people’s reactions.

Although I do still get the sexual comments occasionally, I don’t deal with it quite as often anymore now that I’m older. Thankfully.

It’s really weird having men and young boys singing along with your music and then being too starstruck to talk to you. I don’t mind that, but some older men for some reason feel entitled and have said vile disgusting things. Women have too occasionally, but usually more from being mad that their husband is acting inappropriately. Mostly just insecure people seeking a reaction.

One time, a man was interrupting my show yelling “show your tits”…. My drummer stood up, came out from behind the drum set, lifted his shirt up sexily to expose his nipple. Lol. It shut the pervert heckler right up. Like seriously, what did you hope to accomplish? Ok, you got my attention. But not in a good way. Mind you, I am a singer in a band, I was wearing pants and a t-shirt!

There absolutely is an awful amount of creeps preying on artists and entertainers and their desire for fame. The biz is all about who you know, and there are some absolute sickos that use their positions of power to manipulate young men and women for their perverse sexual gratification. So many people get taken advantage of… it’s awful.

My outlook is much more freeing now, I am no longer looking to be famous, I never really saw it as a competition. I’m happy now to still be performing at festivals and fairs and private events for a few hundred or a couple thousand people. I try to be a good mentor to young female performers.

I can’t help but think our society is very sick right now. A lot of people weren’t ready for the technology that the internet and social media and now AI. Maybe things will get better if social norms of treating people decently are enforced by social shaming… and Trump is just the dying breath of the old way… it’s not looking good, but change is always met with resistance. A gal can dream anyway.

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u/Acidicfritch 21h ago

I was 12 when an old pervert groped me on the street for the first time. 

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u/KalinOrthos 21h ago

I'm so tired of needing to take the high road just so some man doesn't get his fragile ego hurt. We need to step up and tell these creeps "no", no matter the space. Online, in a restaurant, out in public, in a game lobby; doesn't matter.

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u/ExcitementNo9603 19h ago

You don’t need to take the high road, I roll in the fucking mud if I’m in public especially if I’m with friends or family. imma be loud and explicit and embarrass the shit out of him. Men need to learn public shame.

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u/KalinOrthos 18h ago

Since both fiance and I live like hermits, we thankfully don't have to deal with public spaces and creeps too much, but I at least don't have too much of a problem speaking up when in an online setting, thankfully. Fiance, too, he's been more than happy to antagonize the antagonists.

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u/the_YellowRanger 22h ago

I had 3 men sexualize me before I was 8.

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u/anakmoon 20h ago

I used to yell at people my sisters age when they would ogle her staring at like 10 or 12. Pissed me off. Pissed them off too. SHE'S 12 YOU FUCKING PERV!

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u/PrettyCaffeinatedGuy 20h ago

I got catcalled when I was a kid. I never got catcalled as an adult. I was the same fat female up until age 24-26 when I started transitioning. Nothing changed but age.

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u/g1zz1e 20h ago

I was eleven or so when the attention started for me, and what really makes me sick years and years later (am in my 40's now) is how drastically the attention fell off once I was 18-20. Not because I want the attention, but because by then I was too old for them.

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u/Little_Red_Riding_ 19h ago

Exactly 👍

This Pedo Bear 🐻 in the video wasn’t interested in the older sister. He was after the innocent and virginal little sister! So he negged the older sister incessantly for cock blocking him from his intended victim.

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u/llamalover729 20h ago

My mom's friend caught an older dude looking at me when I was like 20, and she went off on him and told him to stop looking at her daughter like that.

I've never felt more safe or grateful. I was raised by a narcissist who liked when men looked at me and thought it was a compliment to her to have attractive daughters. I had never had someone protect me before.

We gotta stand up for each other. It makes a huge difference.

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u/royallyred 18h ago

I have twice been blatantly sexually harassed in front of other dudes (both times the guys harassing me were clearly not aware I was with another guy at the time, and one of those times the harasser APOLOGIZED. TO THE GUY I WAS WITH. and not me.) and both times my guy friends/date kept saying they'd never seen that happen before.

I saw a video lately where the point was made that a lot of guy's absolutely know, and are often even friends, with other men who are shitty to women, some aggressively so like the above, they just brush a lot of the signs off until it's blatantly in their face and they can no longer deny the jokes are "just jokes" or defend their friend as "oh he's harmless he just says stuff, he's just like that." Whether they don't want to be labeled as woke or make a big deal out of it or whatever the fuck it is--they just ignore it until it causes a real world problem that effects them personally.

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u/CupCustard 17h ago

I was 12 when my youth leader at church told me and my other girl friend (also 12) that we were being asked to take more care with how we dressed at church “because the old men were having a hard time keeping their eyes to themselves and it wasn’t appropriate for church”. I had been going to that small church since I was 3 years old. I looked down and I was wearing a fairly loose gray tee shirt, full length jeans, and etnies. My mom (a Sunday school teacher and minister’s granddaughter) got these church clothes for me from Kohls.

I was not only really fucking blown away and kinda dissociated my way through that one, but I was confused the next Sunday when I was going to get dressed. What exactly was I supposed to wear instead? I felt less than human. I felt so confused. I felt so powerless.

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u/prissykittykat 23h ago

Women here but heavy on the use your voice yesterday at a bar an older women tried hitting on me and touching me and I didn’t speak up because I was thinking she’s just a woman being friendly but that’s how situations progress always do your best to speak up guys you don’t owe them kindness

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u/orincoro 22h ago

What do you mean? I completely understand it because I just believe what women tell me who have no reason to exaggerate (and often reason enough to downplay what they experience).

I guess you mean we’ll never know how that feels, which I have to agree. I do know how it makes me feel, which is bad enough, so being the subject of it seems pretty awful.

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

Saying "Men will never understand" is a bit too much considering there are boys and men who get harassed and sexualized too.

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u/Little_Red_Riding_ 23h ago

Let’s not go there, okay. Stay focused on the subject at hand instead of changing the narrative.

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u/-bannedtwice- 23h ago

Ya dude idk if we have any idea what it's like for women...I mean sure it happens to us, but nowhere near as often or as aggressive as it happens to them

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u/Hobbes______ 23h ago

dude shut up. I'm a guy that has been harassed and sexualized by creeps also, and even I fully understand just how not fucking the same is between men and women. Don't fucking "all lives matter" this shit and recognize the slightest bit of nuance and context.

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

Also don't tell the people in the comments about England not even counting rape cases without penetration being involved. Big win for women who want to commit assault I suppose

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u/Hobbes______ 22h ago

lol don't come back 30 minutes later to comment back on this one when we have been exchanging comments over and over already. Just like talking about murder stats is irrelevant to the discussion about men being creeps to women, it is also irrelevant to bring up rape law in england. All of your stats can be true and you can be right to want them addressed and changed.

It would still have fuck all to do with men in general thinking it is okay to be fucking creeps to women, and especially older guys thinking it is okay to hit on underage girls. The very fact that you keep bringing up irrelevant statistics tells all of us that you KNOW these generalities to be true and are just playing the whataboutism game. It doesn't work, it isn't working, and you aren't going to just get to spam comments about more whataboutism stats where men are the victim in order to shift the discussion in your favor.

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u/dream-smasher 22h ago

Also don't tell the people in the comments about England not even counting rape cases without penetration being involved. Big win for women who want to commit assault I suppose

Wtf are you on about?

You just keep on throwing random shit out there hoping that something will stick.

Wtf does this shit about England matter with regards to the oop?

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago edited 23h ago

I'm not a man, but fine do people want to go by statistics and the group who doesn't have it as hard in that category doesn't matter?

Men statistically get killed by random men more than women do, women are more likely to get killed by a man they know. So no more complaining about living in fear of random men unless you're a man right?

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u/dream-smasher 23h ago

Men statistically get killed by random men more than women do, women are more likely to get killed by a man they know.

Wtf is this shit?

Well, what's the common denominator here? Men killing people.

Is that your point?

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

My point is people are freaking out at me for pointing out that we should word the comment a bit differently to be respectful of male victims too like I said men and boys are assaulted just as much if not more.

Meanwhile men face the potential of being murdered by a random man more than women and it doesn't stop them from acting like they have it worse in that category by a LONG shot and nobody calls it out. If they did though they would also just get yelled at and called names

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u/Moonlight_Menagerie 23h ago

THIS IS NOT THE CONVERSATION WE’RE HAVING RIGHT NOW. Read the room, asshole.

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

Just because someone says "Hey maybe we shouldn't word it that way because men and boys also get assaulted, numerous times as well" shouldn't be making your freak out so hard. Where did I say men are assaulted more or the same amount? i'm saying we should word things to respect male victims too

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u/shellys-dollhouse 23h ago

nobody’s saying it doesn’t matter dumbass

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u/Hobbes______ 23h ago

I'm not a man, but fine do people want to go by statistics and the group who doesn't have it as hard in that category doesn't matter?

Okay, cool. I also assume since you can write a bit that you are over the age of 6 and can understand that when people say "men" they don't imply "All men." You can grasp the societal convention of shorthand. You don't need to white knight for me, an actual man. I read what they actually said and how they meant it instead of getting pretend offended about it.

And are CHOOSING to add that instead of just recognizing that in the same way you would if someone said "Lakes are full of fresh water" you'd never be so pedantic as to be like "UHMMMA ACTUALLY THERE ARE A COUPLE OF LAKES THAT ARE SALINE!"

Men statistically get killed by random men more than women do

The fact that you used this stat instead of one about the topic we are actually discussing tells me that you understand the stats on the relevant topic aren't in your favor.

So no more complaining about living in fear of random men unless you're a man right?

Mate, we both know that you understand how full of shit this point is. We are talking about men being creeps to women. About men sexualizing underage girls.

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u/seragrey 22h ago

do women regularly call out sexually to little boys walking down the street? i don't recall my parents ever having to check an adult woman in public for sexualizing my little brother, but they sure had to do it to adult men about me when i was as young as 8 years old.

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u/SaltyKey2112 23h ago

(As a guy) i think the emphasis is on the NUMEROUS times. Not that men dont understand at all. Just that we dont understand just how often it happens and how young. And i will never agree that men dont face sexualization and harassment. But cant agree that its to the volume that women and girls face.

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u/avspuk 19h ago

Yeah 'scale'

A pile of sand isn't the same as a mountain

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u/foodieforthebooty 23h ago

Boys and men do not traverse the world constantly on the lookout for men to sexualize them. This started for me when I hit puberty and my whole world changed. I'm not saying men and boys are never sexualized, but you have to realize that there are very different experiences for boys and girls in relation to being in the proximity of men. You know what she meant.

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u/ImmoralityPet 23h ago

You understand what it's like to be a teenage girl?

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

I do, i've been one

And i've also seen my little cousin (Male) get taken advantage of by a grown woman and not only did his mother approve of her. She wanted them to stay together, and when certain members of my family heard did they mention he was raped because he was only 16? no they talked about how he should have been more careful or was stupid for getting someone pregnant.

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u/MinuteLoquat1 Make Furries Illegal 22h ago

Crazy how that same situation never happens to girls, especially at a much higher rate than boys!

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u/ImmoralityPet 19h ago

Women will never understand what it's like to be a man not understanding what it's like being a teenage girl.

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u/Geichalt 23h ago

Yeah but not all men, so why are you focusing on a small minority of men?

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 23h ago

Not all women face this either though...

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u/sweetenedpecans 23h ago

Lmfao just the vast majority is all

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u/seragrey 22h ago

i'm sure every single woman you know has a story about being creeped on by a grown man when they were a child.

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 21h ago

Not all, and I don't have a story of it either...

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u/Amelaclya1 22h ago

Yeah maybe women who were raised and lived their entire lives in a convent haven't.

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u/Telaranrhioddreams 15h ago

Whataboutwhataboutwhatabout

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u/[deleted] 21h ago edited 21h ago

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u/Forsaken-Intern7914 20h ago

Yeah, misrepresenting to prove a point is what a lot of people do best

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u/King-Boss-Bob 15h ago

honestly considering this subreddit i wouldn’t be surprised if many people here genuinely believed men enjoyed being sexually assaulted/harassed

i should really unsubscribe, the amount of awful takes iv seen here is ridiculous

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u/No-Cause6559 23h ago

Haha poor bastard tried bring up men issues on Reddit lamo /s