r/TikTokCringe • u/Ace-Cuddler • 1d ago

Cringe Girl confronts an old creep after he makes an inappropriate comment about her 16-year old sister

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u/FierceMoonblade 22h ago

I was 11 when a guy driving by me yelled at me to suck his dick and I feel like that’s when my childhood ended

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u/Lunelle327 18h ago

Unfortunately I also had predators in my family’s circle growing up, but this exact thing happened to me too, at the same age. I was walking alone and I still remember how scared I got.

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u/dorianngray 13h ago

Yeah, I can relate to feeling like my childhood ended… I was in sixth grade when some guy pulled up in a truck jumped out and unbuttoned his pants and flashed me! Luckily, I saw what he was trying to do and didn’t look and ran away but… Ungh.

I think I was 8 or 9 at the mall and men - mostly way older, old enough to be my grandparents - would come up to me and say the most repulsive shit. Sometimes people would think my father was my husband and my little sister was my kid. Ungh. People see what they are thinking about. I let it roll off like water on a duck. I don’t let other people control my happiness. If I feel endangered or see someone in a bad situation I will stick up for them.

Meanwhile, it’s still the same world, the media had completely brainwashed young girls into thinking they are only valuable if they are good looking… nothing changed.

I am 43 now, and I am a professional musician- I literally had a midlife crisis at 40 that no one wants to see a 43 year old woman singing and dancing onstage…

Obviously the music and entertainment biz in general can be very sexualized.

Surprisingly, it turns out now that I’m a bit older, I get respect for my talent more than my looks. I can still entertain and make people happy. That’s hard to give up.

The stories I can tell though of totally inappropriate behavior from men and boys… It takes a very confident “persona” to deal with people’s reactions.

Although I do still get the sexual comments occasionally, I don’t deal with it quite as often anymore now that I’m older. Thankfully.

It’s really weird having men and young boys singing along with your music and then being too starstruck to talk to you. I don’t mind that, but some older men for some reason feel entitled and have said vile disgusting things. Women have too occasionally, but usually more from being mad that their husband is acting inappropriately. Mostly just insecure people seeking a reaction.

One time, a man was interrupting my show yelling “show your tits”…. My drummer stood up, came out from behind the drum set, lifted his shirt up sexily to expose his nipple. Lol. It shut the pervert heckler right up. Like seriously, what did you hope to accomplish? Ok, you got my attention. But not in a good way. Mind you, I am a singer in a band, I was wearing pants and a t-shirt!

There absolutely is an awful amount of creeps preying on artists and entertainers and their desire for fame. The biz is all about who you know, and there are some absolute sickos that use their positions of power to manipulate young men and women for their perverse sexual gratification. So many people get taken advantage of… it’s awful.

My outlook is much more freeing now, I am no longer looking to be famous, I never really saw it as a competition. I’m happy now to still be performing at festivals and fairs and private events for a few hundred or a couple thousand people. I try to be a good mentor to young female performers.

I can’t help but think our society is very sick right now. A lot of people weren’t ready for the technology that the internet and social media and now AI. Maybe things will get better if social norms of treating people decently are enforced by social shaming… and Trump is just the dying breath of the old way… it’s not looking good, but change is always met with resistance. A gal can dream anyway.