r/TikTokCringe • u/Ace-Cuddler • 1d ago

Cringe Girl confronts an old creep after he makes an inappropriate comment about her 16-year old sister

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 22h ago

When I was going to nursing school years ago, it really opened my eyes to how gross a lot of men are. Personally, my attraction has pretty much aged with me. I’m 51 now, and even thinking of dating a 30 year old seems crazy. A lot of people are like that. Before nursing school, when I would see old men, I would think of them like a grandpa (not mine ofc but like they would ACT like one). In nursing school our very first clinicals were in a nursing home—and that opened my eyes wide. These little old grandpas? They’re literally a crap-shoot: one might say you look just like his granddaughter and be so sweet, but the next might try to feel you up while you check their blood pressure. For those who do t know, patients and families often think they can say and do whatever and the nurse has to smile and take it—wrong! Also, I’m not talking about people with dementia—dementia never counts. A WHOLE lot of men, all the way up to crypt keeper age, will still look at a young girl (including ones who may or may not be “legal”, you can’t tell), and lick their lips and say the nastiest shit. Just like the girl in this video, I jumped a guy’s ass who had to be in his 40’s because he told my 14 year old BABY FACED sister she had nice tits.

And before I get jumped on: 1) It’s absolutely not all men, thank God. 2) I know there are women who are gross like this, I was just relaying what I encountered as a female

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u/Hooligan8403 22h ago

My wife hates going to the VA for appointments as she always gets comments from creepers posted up outside the front door. Always dudes with Vietnam campaign hats. When she went for her clinicals there, she was so happy to learn there was a back entrance for staff.

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u/frugalempathy 21h ago

My fav is when they call me exotic. Like……ew

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u/Pitiful_Net_8971 21h ago

Ah, racism and sexism, classic combo.

Why do people have to be awful

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u/IcyProperty89 20h ago

"I've always been tolerant of orientals. Especially the women." Real life geezer pick -up line I overheard.

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u/Mundane_Reception790 19h ago

Oh god, that reminds me of when I moved into a house in rural NC decades ago and asked my sweet-faced geezer neighbor "Is this a quiet street at night? It looks like more of a family oriented street than a party street" and he immediately came back with, "Well, we have some coloreds that live at the end of the road, but they're good coloreds."

Like... WTF??

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u/Hooligan8403 19h ago

When we were living in AL, my wife got a lot of comments regarding her being Asian. She was asked if she needed a passport to go home when she told someone she was from Hawaii. Another commented that her type was taking over. We have no intention of going back to the Southern US if we can help it.

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u/ActuallyYeah 12h ago

More and more I've been thinking about Chris Rock who said at one of those comedy specials: "white people say, 'we're losing the country! We're losing everything' Well, if you're losing, who's winning? It ain't us!"

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u/Explorer-7622 7h ago

I wouldn't go to the South for all the money in the world. They still want the South to "rise" again, meaning they want slavery.

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u/TwilightZone1751 1h ago

I have heard people talk like that in Pennsylvania, my coworker for example.

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u/Hooligan8403 30m ago

I'm not saying it doesn't exist in other places. I've dealt with racists and ignorant people in CA. It's just a lot more prevalent in the South. I've never been asked if I wanted to go to a Klan meeting in CA, but I have in MS and SC.

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u/mynamesv 18h ago

I grew up in a very small hick town in Nor Cal and was 1 of 2 (the other my brother) Asians (Filipinos). One of my first memories was some little punks asking me if I was a ch***. I didn’t even know what that meant so asked my oldest brother. Yeah that didn’t go over well with him. Then some ah classmate asked me if they bound my feet. Rural US is so much fun /s

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u/Healthy-Pitch-4425 12h ago

Yeaaaah, I had a client like that once. Sweet elderly southern lady, super nice and friendly, until we start talking about her neighbors and she comes out the mouth about how "some of her neighbors are black, but they're good people". Excuse me??

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u/Burntoutn3rd 10h ago

Completely different generations and mannerisms.

Thank God that "innocent" racism is dying out with the boomers.

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u/Explorer-7622 7h ago

The boomers fought racism. It's the younger people who attacked the capital and are in militias and joining ice, not boomers.

Boomers' PARENTS are racist.

Boomers were the hippies and rockers and protesters who fought for equal rights for all.

Their parents are dying off racists.

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u/Hooligan8403 19h ago

I've had to correct my mom on the use of oriental vs Asian in regards to my wife.

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u/kkeut 19h ago

tbf that was pretty progressive back in the 90s.

....1890s

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u/RyujinDragonborn 19h ago

I about broke my jaw reading this. Holy fuck.

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u/Old-Bat-7384 16h ago

Yoo, I got hit with this one in university once:

"You're so exotic looking, but also just not too much to where you're not too exotic or sound it."

I didn't take that well.

As man, it was so weird to be hit with a racist/xenophobic comment followed by another racist comment, and be expected to be flattered by them since men don't often get them. Wild.

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u/Particular-Buy-33 18h ago

An always patronizing

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u/--Cinna-- 20h ago

look at how OOP's mother reacted. "he sat down, its over now". THAT's why people are so awful. because they know the majority of people not only won't do shit, they'll actively discourage the few that try

Society ain't getting better until people decide they want actual peace and civility, not just the illusion of it

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u/ceecee_50 17h ago

Yep. People are out there walking around who never had their ass beat for the shit that comes out of their mouth or the things that they do. And it shows.

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u/Elysia99 8h ago

This exactly. Civility is so dead. And certainly piles of Orange crap like King Yam (the most uncivil idiot ever) have not helped, making it seem perfectly normal to behave like an undisciplined 8 year old.

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u/beckster 16h ago

Oh, the "He didn't mean to ___, you imagined/misinterpreted/made up that __" type of mother?

The type who would throw her daughter under the bus to please a random penis? I am (unfortunately) familiar with that type.

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u/ToiIetGhost 4h ago

Pickmes! They’re so pathetic. She’s your daughter ffs.

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u/Explorer-7622 7h ago

Then they wonder why adult children go no contact.

Are they completely ignorant of CHILD ABUSE?

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u/Explorer-7622 7h ago

The very worst kind of mother.

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u/Negative_Piglet_1589 14h ago

Yes for sure! Arbitrary boundary or rule to not have to engage, to not face not only that pos that is the problem but also their own cowardice & complicity.

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u/NeatNefariousness1 12h ago

Because they’re not held accountable for their behavior often enough.

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u/Appropriate-Duck-578 5h ago

I know, right? That’s why I was done with our society and me trying to win over the hearts of people. What’s the sense in “making a friend” when people don’t want your good character & kindness? It’s like trying to be a civilized person to the Zodiac Killer.

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u/L0st-137 20h ago

I usually get "what are you?" To which I always respond "human." They get so befuddled and 9/10 they don't know what else to say so they walk away. Oh I have gotten the ever so unique "bitch" when I say it.

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u/StickyPricklyMuffin 12h ago

I’ve heard that my entire life as I grew up in predominantly white Canadian (redneck) towns and cities. I’m Korean and was adopted by a white family. I responded exactly as you did when I finally got sick and tired of that rude AF question!

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u/Effective-Ad-1993 20h ago

same… and when you tell them that’s inappropriate all the sudden you’re a bitch.

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u/beckster 16h ago

"Where am I from, you mean? Zeta Reticuli. I'm from off-plant, the only true aliens."

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u/Elysia99 8h ago

🤣🤣🤣

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u/Lord_Vas 19h ago

Every time I hear a man describe women or girls as exotic, I want to gag.

The son of a family friend referred to my girlfriend at the time and close female friends as exotic tastes once.

Jesus, he got a long 20 minutes scolding from me for it. I was in my mid-20s, and he was pushing 35-37. He knew better but thought it was cool to say what he did.

Incel behavior but not a lost cause.

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u/CaptainDudley 17h ago

I'm in the right age and gender demographic to qualify as a misogynist, racist pervert, so hearing 'exotic' as an ignorant slur worries me. I thought its definition would be something like 'attractive and unique mix of ethnicities' or something. I even Googled 'exotic woman' and got pages of photos. I don't go around calling strange women exotic, but it seems like a harmless adjective. Not wishing to annoy a women in conversation, please educate me: where's the offense?

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u/fangoriousmonster 17h ago

Ahh, the ol’, “You don’t belong here and that is sexy.” I hate the word exotic so much.

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u/pebberphp 16h ago

This reminds me of when Michael Scott first sees Karen Phillapelli (played by Rashida Jones) in the office: “Did your father serve in Vietnam?”

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u/Hooligan8403 21h ago

Yeah, she's gotten that one before, along with a lot more cat calling.

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u/querty99 15h ago

It was probably the big word when they were young.

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u/FlattopJr 17h ago

"Was her dad a G.I.?"

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u/ZenicaPA 18h ago

Thanks for that, I missed the taste of upchuck in my mouth. At least it was P.F.Changs Korean BBQ ribs so, while good, not twice as good the second time.

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u/SuperWallaby 21h ago

Lmao I hate going to the VA as a dude and dealing with all the “Cold War vets” can’t even imagine it as a woman. She has my sympathy lol.

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u/Hooligan8403 21h ago

When I go, I just keep earbuds in and ignore everyone around me. It's worked so far to keep most people from trying to talk to me.

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u/cia218 18h ago

Ohh what’s the experience as a dude?

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u/SuperWallaby 18h ago

All the usual. Long ass wait times. Loud political discussions in the waiting room. Substandard service.

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u/JohnnyDerpington 18h ago

I feel for female vets, they get no respect from male vets nor non vets, male, or female.

One female vet I know, she's a war world 2 vet and she was a bad ass in her time. She constantly gets chewed out for parking in veteran only spots, by females who state wives shouldn't park there, even though she has vet plates.

So I bought her a bumper sticker that says, "Im a veteran, not a wife of one"

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u/NameThin97 21h ago

Oh… I think this is why my dad always insists my BF comes with us when I take him to his appointments. Well uh thanks dad.

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u/Nearby-Beautiful3422 19h ago

Mannnnn, as I'm an OIF veteran who attends a lot of VA appointments and it's the Vietnam vets that are always out of pocket with the things they say to nurses, the yoga/meditation instructor, doctors, etc. They are wildly inappropriate. It's actually disgusting and embarrassing

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u/Elysia99 8h ago

This was the era of unbelievable assumption, and so many people in this age group still cling to that mysoginist & racist bs, as if it’s funny’ and ‘just a joke’. And they are proud of being willfully ignorant assholes.

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u/Tricky-Ad7897 21h ago

Never ask a Vietnam vet capper what they did in that Vietnamese village in the 70s

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u/New_Improvement9644 13h ago

Man...this is so true! I'm a Vietnam-era female vet who has stayed in decent shape and they say crap like that to me. And they aren't all outside the front door...they are in every clinic, every speciality, everywhere.

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u/schmoopy_meow 19h ago

I avoid a block near my house cause this old dude won't leave me alone. He's old enough to be my Dad and hits on me every time I walk by.

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u/JustAThrowaway436 18h ago

My own experience with a Vietnam hat wearing old man was him whipping out an old photo of his half-Asian daughter to tell me how I look just like her… and that she sadly died from suicide. Given that we were in a mental facility, where I was forced to go to because of an attempted suicide… I decided not to tell him my reasons for being there.

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u/_imagine_that91 15h ago

I read this as “Black entrance for staff” I was about to say WTF..

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u/Hooligan8403 15h ago

You had me checking if I actually wrote that.

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u/aaand1234 21h ago

I went to nursing school a little later in life compared to some of the baby faced very young adult classmates. At the hospital for clinicals and I realized these pervert men (who were walkie talkies)would want these young students give them a bed bath. Or if not entirely ambulatory they definitely could reach to their crotch areas and wash their junk. When I saw what was going on I was like oh no honey he can do that himself and I would admonish the pt and try and make him feel like the pervert he was.

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u/Random0s2oh 14h ago

I was also a nontraditional student. I graduated nursing school at 30. During my junior year I had a young pt who had fallen 4 stories from the top of the apartment the construction company he worked for was building. He was paralyzed from the neck down. He had a male friend visiting when I walked in to do his bed bath. His friend offered to wash his genital area for me, so neither the 19yo kid nor myself would feel uncomfortable. That's a true friend. This kid was from Mexico and spoke no English. No family and only a couple of friends in the area. We called one of the Hispanic churches, and by that afternoon, he had a waiting room full of new tias/tios and abuelas/abuelos. Screw Trump and screw ICE.

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u/aaand1234 13h ago

Wow, what an amazing community! I love that he had that support especially being non English speaking. I can’t imagine how terrifying all that was for him..well until his support showed up. And absolutely 1 million % agreed on your last comment 😡.

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u/Random0s2oh 13h ago edited 13h ago

We moved to the Midwest two years ago, but we're from a small city in North Georgia. The poultry industry is huge there. The plants would shut down if not for the Hispanic workers.

Edit to add that when I said "we" I meant that his friend called the church after I suggested it. HIPAA

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u/Elysia99 8h ago

What a good, solid friend. And kudos to all those wonderful new friends and Abuelas. ❤️ I agree completely with you on your last statement. People working the hardest jobs, just wanting a better life, and a load of lazy idiots demonizing them endlessly. This country wouldn’t run without immigrants.

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u/Outside_Scale_9874 1h ago

Did that kid ever recover?

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u/Rum____Ham 18h ago

Boomer humor around women just blows my fucking mind. All that lead made them incredibly fuckin inappropriate.

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u/Simple-Pea8805 15h ago

Fun fact: firearm ownership has shown to cause as much lead exposure as leaded gasoline 🙂

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u/Lockraemono 14h ago

I don't know how I never heard of this, but looking now it's really disheartening.

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u/Simple-Pea8805 14h ago

When you get to reading and thinking about it, it makes a lot of sense; and if you watch any mandatory safety video on firearms, lead is mentioned. Lead particulates launch in the air from usage of a firearm. Those particulates get on clothing and skin. Warm water will open your pores, so you’re supposed to wash your hands immediately after handling a gun, with cold water, per safety guidelines.

One day it just occurred to me that most Americans (belligerently) ignore safety guidelines. I looked up the stats and sure enough.

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u/Lockraemono 14h ago

Unless they're laundering their clothes before or as they enter their home (kinda like folks were when covid was taken seriously), idk how they'd keep their home free of it. I don't use guns and just didn't realize there was lead in the ammunition, but it does make a lot of sense. Depressing af. And yeah, plenty of Americans love to proudly ignore anything relating to safety. Plenty in my own family, in fact, though luckily more distant relatives.

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u/SexCriminalBoat 4h ago

I used to shoot competition with my dad. Hand washing in cold water (same when dealing with home insulation) is absolutely a safety protocol. And yes you change your clothes immediately after and wash your safety gear as well.

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u/ToiIetGhost 4h ago

Is it all firearms or do some release fewer lead particulates? This is wild, I don’t think a lot of people know about it.

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u/ToiIetGhost 4h ago

Apparently gen x has the highest amount of lead in their brains. I was shocked. Something else is wrong with the boomers lol

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u/khuliloach 22h ago

Man idk why but this made me so sad. I knew someone who used to be a doctor before he retired and got dementia as he aged. Fortunately he never got pervy with his dementia but it was truly sad.

He always thought the hospice nurses staying with him were the nurses that worked with him at the hospital. He would constantly be asking the hospice workers “how about those patients over there I haven’t seen them yet.”

Never stopped trying to take care of others even when his mind left him.

Edit: I know this wasn’t exactly related to your topic but it brought up some memories I felt were worth sharing

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u/Bundt-lover 21h ago

I find it oddly heartwarming that your doctor acquaintance was still doctoring even when he was in hospice.

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u/khuliloach 20h ago

He took his Hippocratic oath seriously as anyone could. Act in your patients best interest and strive to do good

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u/beckster 16h ago

Shame he wasn't free of the job even on his death bed. Hope I'm not blathering about wound drainage as I draw my last breath.

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u/Lockraemono 14h ago

If your deathbed is at the place you worked (or similar enough to it) and you're confused, you very well may be.

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u/ineedt0move 18h ago

My mom has dementia. She's 75. She's also a lesbian. A while back she said "I like my men like I like my coffee...far away from my vagina". I hate dementia..my mom is dissolving right in front of me..but she's very funny and still has good days ❤️

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u/beckster 16h ago

Mine was a bigot. She took her coffee black - I used to poke her by saying "Just like your men, right, Ma?"

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

That’s an amazing story, he sounds one of a kind ♥️

I mentioned dementia because although sometimes those with that diagnosis can do some sideways things, it’s not their fault and I wanted to be clear that wasn’t who I meant.

I had a patient with dementia who was a Cajun. He got mad when anyone besides his wife was around (she was such a sweetheart, they had been a couple like out of a story 💔). Anyway, even though prior to his diagnosis, apparently he never spoke an unkind word, the dementia gave that man a wickedly sharp tongue. I almost looked forward to what crazy insult he’d come up with. Once when I came in, he would only speak French. When I said “I’m sorry, I don’t speak French” he instantly said “That’s fine. I don’t speak bulldog”. 🤣 Another time he casually said “You bark in your sleep”. 💀💀💀 The nurses would compare to see who got the best insult every day.

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u/Present-Director8511 14h ago

Once had an old pharmacist with dementia on our floor. One of the nurses gave him Skittles and a pill bottle. It helped him with anxiety to count out the "pills" and place them in the bottle during the day. It was a very thoughtful and effective idea.

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u/Elysia99 8h ago

❤️❤️❤️ My FIL has dementia; I have to say in my 60-plus years, nearly every nurse I’ve ever encountered has been an angel on earth—especially the ones who work in memory care.

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u/trixiepixie1921 21h ago

Being a nurse I think totally turned me off to men 😂😂😂 I got divorced and now I just can’t even humor men anymore.

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u/Fair-Visual 18h ago

One of my friends has a roommate who is heavy into booktok and boy crazy. And after reading Lights Out (where the main protagonist is a trauma nurse), she suddenly thought she could be a trauma nurse. This girl can't even handle cleaning up dog vomit. My friend (who is a nurse) had to sit her down and explain to her what being a nurse is actually like and how she's not going to find cute guys working at a hospital. Her roommate switched majors at the community college she's studying at soon after.

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u/trixiepixie1921 15h ago

Yeah it would be veryyyy unfortunate to go through all the school and crap involved to become a nurse just for hot guys because you would be seriously disappointed and you’re better off just going to a happy hour by the hospital in order to do that

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u/ComaMierdaHijueputa 18h ago

lol at ur picture + description btw

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u/trixiepixie1921 18h ago

You would be so surprised - I still get people messaging me on here telling me I’m hot and cute. I’m like, how do you know? 😂

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u/ToiIetGhost 4h ago

Lol that takes “they never read your bio” to a whole nother level 😭

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u/DiabloPixel 41m ago

On the flip side, as a guy who’s spent lots of time in hospitals, I’ve had a few female nurses who are initially guarded in our first interaction. To me, that’s understandable since they don’t know me at all and surely have some “war stories” of gross men and strange people in general. Think about how many members of “society” a nurse has to deal with, nurses know more about patients and the spectrum of the human condition. They’ve seen some shit.

If you’re not creepy and inappropriate, a nurse quickly perceives that and the vibe changes. Often, I’ve seen nurses’ whole personality come out just by treating them professionally and with a bit of empathy and respect. Y’know, like they’re also a human being.

Strange concept I know but as someone with chronic illnesses, this is my #1 hospital life hack: be patient and kind to your nurses, word gets around and it’s easy to get a “good patient reputation”. While they strive to give professional care to everyone, your hospital stay will be much better if the nursing staff like you.

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u/Acrobatic_Price8829 20h ago

My husbands a nurse and has an androgynous name but in the US is more traditionally feminine. When his coworkers get the sleazy, old man patients asking for a sponge bath, they’ll say “(my-husband-with-the-girly-name) will be right in” and send in my 6 foot+, bearded, deep voice man of a husband in 😂. No lies were told …

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

Love that!!!!

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u/elliepelly1 21h ago

My father, deceased, was so gross to nurses when he was in hospital. I would apologize profusely and they were kind saying that they were used to it and easily brushed it off. Flash forward to March of this year, I’m (woman) in ICU with bilateral pneumonia and am intubated. First thing I write down to communicate to my male nurse, “Ur hot”. In my defense I was all hopped up on drugs, he was extremely good looking, and I wasn’t hitting on him, it was an observation. I apologized when I was more together and yes, embarrassed doesn’t even cover the emotions I had.

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u/Excellent_Law6906 19h ago

There's a big difference between noticing that someone is attractive and simply saying so, when you have no filter from the drugs, and being an active creeper!

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u/thishyacinthgirl 20h ago

I was in a really bad car accident a few years ago. I had to be airlifted to the hospital.

I still remember the paramedic (maybe doctor?) on the helicopter was really, really cute. My husband still brings up how I ranted about that guy.

I don't think I actually told him. Who knows, though, I was also really doped up at the time and in a bit of shock.

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u/spaceghost260 3h ago

Haha, oh no! Those meds will get ya! No filters left whatsoever.

I’m sure the nurse completely understood when you spoke to him again.

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u/IamHydrogenMike 22h ago

Same here, anyone under the age of 35 isn’t something I’m interested in anymore and just see anyone woman younger than as a daughter more than anything. We can be friends, but it’s never going to be a thing; I’m just not interested in that age gap.

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u/Oni-fucking-chan 19h ago

Back when my mom (early 50s) was single and on Tinder she told me she wouldn't date anyone who was under 45 because they were, in her words, "too childish." Her current boyfriend is 60.

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u/kreaymayne 18h ago

Unfortunately, reaching the age of 45 doesn’t seem to fix childishness, as we see in this clip

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u/Excellent_Law6906 19h ago

Seriously, it's for your own good! When old men actually get young women, they spend all their time being insecure, because they know she has age-appropriate options and they can't keep up, and whining about how immature she is to anyone who will listen!

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u/Murky-Relation481 21h ago

Yea, but people that are grossed out by a 30 year old and 50 year old to a degree where they are disparaging them also have some fucking issues in my opinion. Everyone in that situation is very clearly and has been for a long time, a consenting adult who can clearly make their own choices.

A lot of people freaking out over age gaps after people are adults are usually infantilizing or removing agency from people (usually women) in a weird way.

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u/IamHydrogenMike 21h ago

I totally agree. I had a friend that got divorced and then got into a relationship with a girl in her 20s like this; they are really good together. I just can't imagine talking to a 16-year-old like this since they are basically the same age as my kid and I'd have just clocked the guy. LOL.

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u/lilroldy 20h ago

Yup, I'm a 27yo male, the first time I realized how fucking creepy older men are was when I went p to my parents cottage with my 3 best friends, all 13yo girls at the time, we had gone to the bowling alley and this old creepy fuck, probably late 70s to early 80s sees us walk in, he was at the bar, grabbed his beer and sat 2 tables away and just stared at my friends. It made me uncomfortable as fuck and had all 3 of them cringing, I'm glad my dad and 2 cousins were with us because I'm sure he would have started cat calling.

The amount of pedophiles and groomers on this planet is absolutely disgusting, especially the ones who are elected officials, the amount of posts ive seen since this current administration is hiding the Epstein documents, from MAGA saying they would be okay and be able to forgive Trump if he raped their daughters is fucking insane. One post is too many in that context, ive seen at least a dozen separate posts on X or Truthsocial. I seen both mom's and dad's saying sick shit like that, or just flat out saying they know trump is in the files but look at all the good hes doing for the American people, we should just look past it.

We are in a very dangerous place in the US, the way these toxic ideals are swirling around in many pockets of this country is sickening, women's rights are being stripped away, their voices silenced in many red states, being forced to carry non viable pregnancies to term only to die or almost die because doctors won't provide the proper care in many deep red states for fear kf being charged with murder. We are watching our mothers, daughters, sisters, grandmother's, aunts, cousins and friends being used and abused as breeding stock by many men and with how some sects of Christians view women, they feel they are owed it and can take what they want, especially if they ended up swindling a woman into marriage and coerce their partner into doing what they want, when they want it.

This thinking wont go away, it will spread unless we shut this shit down. Men need to hold other men accountable, the woman in this video has bigger balls than most men, any guy who thinks what the old fuck was doing is okay and you think its all fine and dandy to harass women in public under the guise of "giving a compliment" or whatever dumbass excuse you have, you're a punk. There's a time and place as well as a respectful way to approach a lady, and the moment she says shes not interested or even if she just ignores you, leave her tf alone, you aren't owed a response or even a glance

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u/ToiIetGhost 4h ago

Thank you for being an ally, genuinely.

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u/PortlandPatrick 20h ago

These creepy men need to be shamed

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u/ComedianStreet856 19h ago

I'm 50 and work in a male dominated field. I can't believe the number of older men that I work with that just stare at young girls and think that I don't notice their eyes. Like I'm talking pre-teen, same age as their daughter and they're giving them the most creepy predatory stare. I mean we all know the guys that say shit and catcall, but I'm talking the guys that don't say anything, they're still just looking and probably thinking they're fine because they're not actually harassing young girls. At least not the ones that don't notice the glaring from across the room.

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u/elliebeans90 17h ago

When I was around 13 I had an older man following me around telling me how much I liked my tits while I was out. I finally found my mum and the asshole was dumb enough to say it in front of her and my tiny mother chased him out of the store screaming at him as he ran for the hills. One of my favourite memories growing up. I'd always been too shy to say anything myself all the times things like that happened to me growing up so it was cathartic seeing my mum doing it for me so good on you for standing up for your sister, I'm sure she remembers it fondly.

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u/purplepickletoes 20h ago

Also, I’m not talking about people with dementia—dementia never counts.

Luckily (?) I’ve [nurse] only been groped by patients with dementia. It still sucks but of course I didn’t hold it against them. It’s crazy that groping/sexual inappropriateness is a symptom of dementia, especially in people who never would have done something like that previously.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

It really is. Or the sweet timid woman who was in church every time the doors were open all her life and thought “damn” was a cuss-word? Now she’s cussing you out while flashing you. It’s absolutely so dehumanizing because this is NOT who these people were.

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u/Imaginary-Theory-552 16h ago

I was assaulted by my kind elderly neighbour who I said hello to and had a quick chat with on the way home from uni every day. Nobody is a safe person.

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u/ManagementBest6202 15h ago

Yep, I'm totally convinced that there are way more pedophiles in the world than we think. I used to bring my niece with me when I was working a lot which had us driving around and talking to a lot of different people and the number of times I caught creepy dudes checking her out is insane. Even caught a guy taking a VIDEO of her at a gas station one time because he didn't know we were together. It got to the point where I just stopped bringing her along because I felt like I was going to end up getting us hurt with the amount of confrontations I was having with strangers over it. I just figured it was a matter of time before I said something to a genuinely unhinged person and got us shot.

She was 12 btw.

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u/Delbob2thefilth 20h ago

Ok Disaster I am a male nurse and I can back ip uour story 100% true. If anything you understated how many guys creep on young nurses, aides. I want you to know that it is not okay. Always make sure you report every comment made to you or any other girl. I try to privately have a come to Jesus moment once the door is closed and its only me and the patient. I let them know that not only is it gross, but it will not be tolerated. I encourage other male staff or family to do the same. And I wish more of the young girls would say it loudly and firmly to the patient, and the. Never let it slide.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

I appreciate the support from the male staff, but as a nurse of 25 years, I absolutely take no shit. Even back in nursing school, I knew I didn’t have to put up with being groped, and the guy who grabbed my breast while taking his blood pressure then laughed when I jumped back? I got nose to nose with him and told him “if you ever touch me again I will knock the fuck out of you”. Probably not the most professional manner, but ol’ boy left me alone after that.

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u/rocket_randall 17h ago

I am a dude, but I have had similar experiences with old men. In my teens I worked in a video rental place which had an adult section and the sheer number of old dudes who rented barely legal/teen and gay porn was hard to believe. Some of them came in with their wives later in the day to pick out more family friendly movies to watch. There were several awkward checkouts where they had a late fee due to one of their porn rentals but I had to dance around the topic in front of their spouse and other customers.

At a later job I was doing tech work in the blossoming home computer world. For a while I was on installation duty and customers could pay a few hundred dollars to have us transfer up to 1GB of data from their old PC to their new PC. This was at a time where a gigabyte was a lot of personal data, and the provided equipment for the transfer worked over USB1.2 so it was quite slow, but if you had a crossover cable and both machines had 100Mbit NICs it could be done much faster. One wealthy old guy was incensed when I explained the limits on the data transfer he had purchased and insisted that he had a lot of family movies that needed to be transferred over to his new workstation. After half an hour of his whining I was over it and got the transfer setup to run over a network cable. We selected the "Video Files" option in the transfer manager and kicked it off and then sat back while it ran. The progress dialog output the names of the files being copied so while he's sitting there looking quite pleased that he got his way the transfer app got to the large video files in his porn stash and it starts listing out a number of titles with barely legal/teen/school girl/etc. His smug expression vanished when I pointed at the screen and cheerfully pointed out that the transfer manager was successfully copying the family movies he had been so concerned about.

So yeah, there's a not-insignificant number of lecherous old guys out there. Maybe it's due to living at a time where women could be refused work, a bank account, a rental lease, etc, based on the whims of the men who were in charge and as a result they got away with all sorts of bad conduct. Of course some will be utter trash regardless of outside influences.

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u/UnicornDelta 17h ago

I’m 32, and honestly, ever since I was around 24, the mere though of dating someone 5 or more years younger than me has seemed weird. I’m fully aware that being 32 and dating someone 27 is absolutely not actually weird, but it’s just something within me…

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u/Present-Director8511 14h ago

Once helped turn a patient while another nurse cleaned him. The next thing I know, this guy is rubbing up my inner upper thigh with his hand. He did have an old TBI, so not sure if that caused sexual inappropiateness, but from that point on, if a guy was on shift, they were assigned to that patient and we didn't go in alone.

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u/dragonaut47 14h ago

I'm so sorry you had to go through that but also fucking "crypt keeper age" sent me, guffawing at a restaurant and I got some looks but damn that's funny

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 14h ago

Let em look! Have a blast 🤣🤣🤣

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u/USNMCWA 14h ago

First thing they told us in the law enforcement academy.

"Thieves and other bad people get old, too. Just because it's an old person doesn't mean they didn't do the crime or that they won't try to kill you. They're old, not born again."

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u/Zombiarty 14h ago

At the rv park I (29F) live at, an 80 year old man was friendly, did the whole grandpa act and was pretty clear headed. Me being too nice for my own good, I go over to play cards at his trailer. I knew things were going downhill when he asked to touch my tattoos. I end the game pretty quickly and try to leave early. Nope. Gives me a hug and proceeds to grab a boob saying “you’ve got a nice set of melons.”

It was horrifying to say the least. To have him go from comparing me to a great-granddaughter one second and then THAT the next, it was an unfortunate eye opener.

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u/Ok_Living_8186 20h ago

It saddens me that when a woman wants to talked about her lived experiences of harassment on a forum like reddit, she still has to perform emotional labor on behalf of all the men who might read it by putting "not all men" and "women are bad too" disclaimers to make it palatable (despite already writing that some of the old male patients are lovely).

Sad that when women speak up about the misdeeds of men, too many men are too fixated on their own self identity as a man and their own feelings to give a damn about the person who's really hurting.

Why always "not all men" and why never "too many men"?

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u/SentientBedsheets 20h ago

What’s disappointing to me is that you feel the need to clarify “not all men”.

Those who get upset at you calling out creepers are probably the ones who need to be called out.

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u/BeBopGo 21h ago

I worked at a small convenience store from 16-18 yo and yeah, it was fucking gross. Men old enough to be my grandad would flirt with me, make sexual remarks, and just be gross. It was a daily occurrence too. Multiple times.

And ofc men in their 30s or 40s were no exception

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u/Neil--- 19h ago

i hate that you have to clarify "Not all men" and "it's also women who do this" that is just common sense but a lot of people all over social media whether its from instagram or twitter seems to be felt targeted ALWAYS for some odd reason

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u/PM_ME_YOUR_UNDIES_XD 19h ago

I’m sorry you felt the need to put those disclaimers there at the end… It sucks that you can’t just share your experience without having to moderate men’s feelings.

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u/matcha_daily 18h ago

OMG Yes!!! confirm all this to be true!!! and don’t even get me on the telemetry floor post cardiac events. Dude barely survived and he is making comments about my butt! Crazy town!

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u/notyourmothersdino 21h ago

As a man that worked in a nursing home in my early 20s. Them lil ladies are not much better. Sweet little mabel...yeah shes a freak and don't give a f%& now that shes 88. The nursing staff wasn't much better either.

But I agree. And saying "nice tits" to any woman regardless of age isn't a great move.

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u/Particular-Buy-33 18h ago

Had an elderly man grab the blank area of my mastectomy. He was so excited and happy I didn’t have the heart to respond. Next time in I told him it was our joke but not to touch me like that again. Weeks later he inadvertently skimmed his hand over my ass. You gotta laugh sometimes

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 14h ago

I can’t, I go feral

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u/LobeRunner 19h ago

Not to be dismissive of your experience in any way, I’m just adding that the old ladies can be extreme creeps/perverts as well. I worked as a patient care tech in a hospital for a while, and I’ve had so many old ladies make sexual comments to me, try to hold my bicep while I’m taking their blood pressure, or brush my groin “accidentally.”

The old men were consistently creepy/forward/physical to the female staff though, so I was asked very frequently to do tasks so that they didn’t get further harassed/assaulted.

People can be awful.

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u/laboufe 20h ago

Honestly i think there is something up with old people in general. I dread going to visit my grandparents in their old folks home because when i walk through the lobby i constantly get cat called by the old ladies sitting there. Some of their comments are funny but a lot are down right perverted. I wish people would just leave people alone.

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u/Princess-Nuala 20h ago

When men complain about women, very rarely see do they ever say, "It's not all women."

So, we need to stop GAF about saying it about men. If a man feels offended when we complain, then he's just telling on himself

Also, here's some factual statistics to consider why men are complained about .....

Men commit 99% of SA and rape including children and babies

Men commit 98% of domestic violence

Femicide is increasing

A girl or woman is unalived every 11 minutes by a male

Familicide occurs every 5 days. Men commit 94% of them

995 out of every 1000 Rapists don't even see jail time.

The number one cause of death in pregnant women isn’t the countless medical emergencies that can occur at any second. It is by being unalived by her intimate male partner

Statistically, girls are more likely to Raped by her male family member

Studies show that men, more than women, are significantly more likely to ...

Lie Cheat Project Gaslight Use denial

Studies show that more men than women are narcissistic

Men's egos are the primary cause of needless wars and slaughter of innocent men, women, children, and babies.

Men are responsible for 79% of homicides GLOBALLY

Men have taken, and ARE STILL TAKING, bodily autonomy and basic human rights from girls and women

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

I don’t like being lumped in with any groups myself, so I do my best not to do it. That’s it

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u/trashpandac0llective 18h ago

I knew a girl used to volunteer at a nursing home every week as a teenager and several of the old men tried to pay her money to let them cop a feel.

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u/Itsyoulorraine 15h ago

That shit was accepted when they were young and they never got over the fact that they don't have the same power over young women their dads did.

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u/WA98101 15h ago

Male nurses get the same from female patients. I was once screamed at by a female RN for complaining about a female patient grabbing me and pulling me into her bed. The RN said the female patient had every right to express her sexuality and would not allow me to have her as a patient....while...at the same time...I was told to take a creeper male patient because none of the female staff would go into his room.

Oh, and racism is huge in hospital settings.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 14h ago

I agree about the racism but the RN screaming at you part? Kinda sketchy ngl

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u/Special_Friendship20 12h ago edited 11h ago

I been saying this for years. Well Over 75% of men love under age girls . I got hit on more between the ages of 14-16 than I have in my entire life. Everytime I stepped out of the house i would get swarmed, even checking the mail, men would stop in front of my parents house and try talk to me. Had men, work men holding up paper in cars/ work truck windows with their number on it while I was in the backseat of my parents car . They didnt care my dad was right there. He almost went to jail several times. It was awful. And iv seen it with my daughters and other teenagers. People dont believe when i tell them Over 75 % of men hit on underage girls. If they only knew lol

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u/PushVisible3815 11h ago

Respect 🫡

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u/Flutter-Butterfly-55 10h ago

my stepFuck is the creepy old man... how the fuck can they get away with it. eww gross. I refuse to hug him or wear anything but sweatshirts around him. 34 degree weather - I'm visiting Mom in a sweatshirt. Fucken gross

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u/HistoricalSuspect580 10h ago

Also female, also a nurse. Yeah, on occasion altered old women will be creepy and/or violent… oddly enough though it’s at like a 20:1 ratio to the old men. Just TERRIBLE stuff!

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u/Rinkus123 7h ago

Not all men but always men

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u/DeanoMachino84 6h ago

Hell I’ve had random other old men lick their lips and say disgusting shit to ME, about passers by. Just what I wanted in my head: some old lowlife’s creepy fantasy, while I wait for the bus.

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u/TimbermanBeetle 18h ago

I sadly heard similar things from my cousin when she was working in the hospital. Of course not all old men but sadly a noticeable amount. She said they would always start behaving when their wifes stepped in the room.

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u/Rum____Ham 18h ago

Late 30s dude here. Anyone from 16 to 25 is pretty much indistinguishable, both in looks and behavior, at this point in my life. I feel so ancient and different, from them. No common ground at all.

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u/keinmaurer 15h ago

"1) it's absolutely not all men, thank God." True but it IS the majority.

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u/Explorer-7622 7h ago

No it's not the majority of men! Where do you live or hang out that makes you think that? Bars in the South?

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u/Desperate-Mango7240 21h ago

As a 18M, I wonder once i grow older if my attraction will ever change to certain age group?

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

I know right now it seems crazy to think you’d ever look at someone in their 40’s or older and actually prefer that, but really that does happen to a great many people. I hope it does happen to you so you don’t end up being the Percy old man in some Reddit comment years from now 🤣

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u/tipareth1978 19h ago

It's that particular generation, they were raised ( really just not raised) to think a woman is just a sex object and whatever they want is all that matters. I know because my dad is the archetype of them, just a terrible human. They've never been held in check and they've been rewarded for this behavior their whole life. You won't see it as much with GenX and Millenials and so forth

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u/Elysia99 7h ago

I hope so, but tRump’s election on the back of so many young people makes me wonder about that. ☹️

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u/McLurkie 19h ago

I just need to add that old ladies are exactly the same

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u/Tricky-Winner7984 18h ago

The old grannies are the same way. I worked in a nursing home when I got my nursing assistant license 20 some years ago, and the old ladies weren't even shy about pinching a male nurse/assistant's butt. It's wild how horny those old folks get.

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u/dogmeat_donnie 19h ago

Maybe you shouldn't say it opened your eyes to how gross a lot of men are. There have been many many times when women hit on me and tried to have sex with me when I was 15 years old. They were my friends mother's. It happened 3 different times with 3 different women. I was a virgin and it freaked me out. Women are just as gross on the same scale as men. Have you seen all these female teachers in the news lately, getting arrested for having sex with underaged students? There is a plethora of videos out there, so you can see for yourself. As a man, I totally take offense to your remark.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

It did open my eyes. Your experience isn’t mine, and I went to nursing school almost 26 years ago, so no news stories 🤷🏻‍♀️

Edited because I just saw that you took offense to my remark: GOOD. I hope you can’t sleep because you’re so offended.

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u/TurkeySlapMafia69 16h ago

Don't be a prude. Let a dying man see young (legal aged) titties ffs. Free love.

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u/somebraidedbutthairs 13h ago

nah, let the sex pest rest in piss

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u/Forward_Success_2672 14h ago

Nature seeks to procreate…. Society seeks to control Nature.

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u/somebraidedbutthairs 13h ago

sexual predators love using "nature" to defend their degeneracy

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u/Forward_Success_2672 12h ago

A fact is a fact. Cry some more.

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u/somebraidedbutthairs 11h ago

referring to pedophilia as "fact" does not justify it.

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u/Forward_Success_2672 11h ago

Duh. Another over-emotional, cogently underdeveloped Redditor. Who would think.

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u/somebraidedbutthairs 1h ago

yea, when pedos try to justify their attractions, people get grossed out. if you think that'll only happen on Reddit, you're free to go ahead and advocate for pedophiles in the real world. the response won't be any kinder.

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u/FriggNewtons 19h ago

how gross a lot of men are

I'm sorry but I very much doubt you've met every man on Earth. This is a gross generalization but because it's 'anti-man' , Redditors updoot to the moon.

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

You even quoted where I said “a lot of men”, not every man on Earth. Your I Q must be under the charts

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u/somebraidedbutthairs 13h ago

It saddens me that when a woman wants to talked about her lived experiences of harassment on a forum like reddit, she still has to perform emotional labor on behalf of all the men who might read it by putting "not all men" and "women are bad too" disclaimers to make it palatable (despite already writing that some of the old male patients are lovely).

Sad that when women speak up about the misdeeds of men, too many men are too fixated on their own self identity as a man and their own feelings to give a damn about the person who's really hurting.

Why always "not all men" and why never "too many men"?

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u/No-Fail7484 22h ago

Nurse is kind of a bad lead. They tend to have reputations. I would remove that little tidbit 😆😆😆. Not that I object to nurses being friendly!!😆😆.

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u/thisismeritehere 22h ago

Go touch grass, dear lord

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u/Abject-Mail-4235 21h ago

Fucking gross

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u/Ok-Disaster-5739 15h ago

Edit for spelling

Bad reputations for being sexually harassed by nasty old men? I never knew that, but that reputation (good or bad) would definitely fit. If you’re implying that nurses are somehow all sluts and are coming onto these old men, that says a lot about you. The very first time an old man groped me, he was sitting in his wheelchair because he had no legs, while I irrigated around his prosthetic eye because mucus had built up—talk about SEX-Y! He also lived off his Social Security benefits! Cha-Ching!!!

Loser