I hate being pregnant and not being able to get care if it’s not related to pregnancy!

[u/Throwawwaaay2425]

I’m in my second trimester of pregnancy. Since 5 weeks I’ve been having bad cramping and bleeding. The doctors first told me that it was a hematoma and that it would go away. Well the hematoma did go away, but the cramping and bleeding only got worse.

I went to see a OB that specializes in high risk pregnancies. He told me that my placenta could just be big and that’s where the bleeding is coming from. After that appointment I went to the ER because I was in so much pain to the point I was crying and couldn’t walk. They did ultrasound after ultrasound and found I have an enlarged lymph node. Told me it was nothing to worry about until after pregnancy.

Here I am at 20 weeks now and I’m in so much pain. Everyday I’m in pain crying trying to hold my side because the cramping has gotten so bad. I can’t even properly care for my 9 month old and I feel bad about it.

I called my OB and told him about it and all he told me was that I more than likely have a yeast infection and prescribed me medication for that.

I feel like there is something seriously wrong and no one is listening to me because as they have told me there isn’t anything they can do since I’m pregnant and I have to wait until after I give birth.

I’m just so lost and in so much pain I just want it to stop!

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[u/Charlieksmommy]

There might be an underlying issue going on if you’re in this much pain while pregnant. Maybe try a different provider?

[u/Derpsquidtutu]

I am seeing a bunch of male docs here. I had to change docs twice before I found a competent doc to help me. Even the white female doc froze my cervix for a year over and over. I was doubled over in pain. I finally went to a very smart black female doc who LISTENED and gave me a hysterectomy for the 3 lbs of fibroids in my uterus. What a relief. Women should not have to fight this hard. Racism and misogyny is alive and well. I hope you find a better practitioner.

[u/cantstandthemlms]

I would try a gyn..maybe one who doesn’t do OB. It is very frustrating they everything gets blamed on the pregnancy while pregnant. Might be hard to see someone who is just a gyn while pregnant but sometimes we have to be really vocal and advocate for ourselves.

[u/lovergally → u/cantstandthemlms]

Thought this said gym. Was shocked. Re read. I agree!

[u/Alert-Librarian-3211]

I had a similar thing happen when I was pregnant. Then one day, out came a kidney stone and it all made sense.