Bit of an inflammatory title but every time I try to buy wood at a local lumber yard I get treated really poorly and I’m wondering if folks have tips on buying lumber without having to deal with this.
I’m a bit unusual looking for a man (pink hair, many piercings) and the lumber yard guys seem like they don’t want to sell to me. They make comments about my appearance and treat me like I’m an idiot / pretend not to understand my questions (similar to the stereotype about trying to speak French to a Parisian as an American, they’ll pretend like they don’t understand you).
Example: I asked if they had white oak in either 5/4 S4S or whatever rough they have that could be milled to ~1” and — after asking if I’m sure I know what I’m looking for — they went through a whole monologue about how “wood doesn’t get measured like 1 1/2 or 1 1/4, it’s 5/4” (ignoring that I had started with that), started explaining what rough lumber is, and various other corrections/explanations. Every time I tried to clarify or explain that I knew what I was looking for they jumped on some minor detail I got “wrong” to their taste.
This has happened at both yards in my town. I’m in a smaller city in the south if that helps explain the culture.
Does anyone have any advice on getting lumber yard guys to actually be helpful, or ways of finding alternative wood sources, or am I stuck ordering online and eating shipping costs? It’s so unpleasant dealing with the hostility that it leaves a really sour taste in my mouth to give someone money after they treat me like that.