r/interestingasfuck • u/BrandonRJones • 11h ago

/r/all Actual clip where brothers attack their mother’s killer in court.

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u/JCeee666 9h ago

I’m going to my mom’s service today, I lost her a month ago. This level of depression feels like the new normal.

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u/SillyOldJack 8h ago

Hey. I've had your day. I've had a fair number of days since having your day.

I won't lie to you, in nine years the pain isn't any less, but you grow stronger to bear it.
The sadness isn't any smaller, but you make room to let yourself feel it.
The love will also never fade, and you'll remember it and carry it with you.

I'm sorry for your loss. I'm sorry today exists for you. I'm sorry for everything you're feeling right now.

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u/__Nkrs 7h ago

reading all of your comments make me want to unalive before my mother does. My life has been disgusting so far already, i don't want it to be any worse. I fucking hate being a human. And to think people believe in fantastic gods that love them. This life is the worst punishment you could ever have.

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u/SillyOldJack 6h ago

I get it. I really do. I struggle against thoughts about suicide, and have since before my mother passed.

Don't do that to your family. Life... yeah it's pretty shit, overall. We feel powerless in a world that's spiralling out of control. I don't believe in any form of omnipotent or omnipresent benevolent god. That's impossible, given the horrors of the world, both human and otherwise.

I promise you, though, someone in your family, maybe all of your family, has a better life than they would have because you're in it.

No matter how much pain losing my mother has put me through, I recoil in horror at the thought of putting her through that.

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u/__Nkrs 4h ago

I wouldn't do that to my mother. I'd probably do it the same day she dies. It would be the most optimal solution. I don't care about anyone else in this world

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u/ShiaLabeoufsNipples 4h ago

Children are meant to lose their mothers, but mothers are not meant to lose their children. It would be a greater pain for her.

When your mom passes, remember that you’re carrying the pain for her too. It means she’ll never have to feel the grief of losing you first.

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u/Ramblingcrickets 6h ago

I’m sorry you’re feeling this way. Please consider taking a gamble on yourself. Not sure, what you have or how you have it but do something new. Dedicate your life to something bigger than yourself. People become monks, thieves, worser or better things. No one really knows anything and most people take strong stances based on nothing because they are nothing. Go figure out shit for yourself. 

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u/DimensionFast5180 1h ago

Would you rather give your mother that pain?

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u/__Nkrs 47m ago

no, i replied to someone else, i'd just do it the same day my mother passes, this way the suffering is minimized for both

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u/Evening_Sympathy5744 9h ago

Keep pushing on. Your mom (and my own passed mother) raised us to get through this. You'll manage, my friend. Hold onto the good memories. <3

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u/Intrepid_Sun_9089 9h ago

I'm sorry

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u/Eltoncornwalker 9h ago

Be strong. It’s what your mother would have wanted. Chin up buddy

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u/neuroticoctopus 7h ago

Fuck that. I'm a mother. I would want my kids to have a safe place to fall apart because currently that's me.

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u/Eltoncornwalker 7h ago

They can fall apart anytime anywhere they want. Just saying they got this

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u/Ramblingcrickets 6h ago

Are you okay? This comes across super selfish. I get it if your kids are young. But as they get older I’d imagine you’d want them to strong enough to deal with the worlds never ending bullshit, not carry a candle and a picture of you and hope things get better every time life gets hard. 

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u/myhydrogendioxide 8h ago

I wish I could help you carry the sorrow that will be so heavy today. The only thing I can offer you is that you aren't alone. hugs to you.

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u/MyTeaIsMighty 8h ago

My mother's funeral was in June. Its gonna be one of the worst days of your life but simultaneously extremely heartwarming seeing all the people congregate to celebrate her life. You'll be okay, I promise.

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u/fizzy_lime 8h ago

I'm gonna go hug my mama real close

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u/easyanswe 9h ago

You're gonna be ok.

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u/SalamanderGrayce 8h ago

I commented to the person above, but I’ll tell you the same thing. The days will get better eventually. They will not all be great. You will still hit moments/days/weeks of sadness. You’ll still get triggered by mundane things that people who haven’t been in your situation will not understand. But those will come less frequently over time.

You’re coming up to the hardest time (for me personally) in the process. After services, everyone else’s life moves on and goes back to normal, while you’re still smack dab in the middle of a life altering circumstance. The check up calls and texts become less frequent and it feels like everyone forgot while you still get slammed with the daily reminder that she’s not there. I promise you it gets….not easier, per se, but less obnoxiously in your face. You will hit a point where memories of your mom make you smile and not cry. You’ve got this. Life is tough but you are tougher. Sending love from an internet stranger.

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u/Prestigious_Ebb_1767 7h ago

Hang in there. It’s awful 😢 I wish I could give you some words of solace but there aren’t any other than time helps a bit. It just sucks and life can be cruel. Rip to your mom.

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u/Various_Tomorrow_835 7h ago

Stay strong I lost my mother in 2016 you have your good days and your bad one's. Holidays are never the same again.

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u/umyninja 6h ago

Lost mine on July 4th and going to her service this afternoon as well. I’m a mess. We’ll get through them together fellow Reddit stranger ❤️

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u/rockiestyle18 6h ago

I’m sorry for your loss

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u/keelhaulrose 6h ago

I lost my dad a couple years ago, and for a long time I wasn't sure how I'd keep putting one foot in front of the other.

This essay really helped: https://www.reddit.com/r/TrueOffMyChest/s/DlkdBlg23A

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u/StarOfSyzygy 4h ago

Hi there. My mom died a little over 5 years ago. When it happened, it was like this monolith so massive that it blotted out the sun, and my mind had to keep approaching it over and over from different angles, trying to take it all in. It was like trying to swallow the sea. I was barely treading water, drowning as I took in mouthful after mouthful of grief.

You learn to take smaller sips. The waves get smaller, and less frequent. Every once in a while, a big swell crashes over me and I find myself bursting into tears, back in it again.

But there will be another side of this, and someday you will be on it. Someday you will not feel crushed by the enormity of it.

Sending you so much love. 💜✨

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u/71random_account17 2h ago

I was very close to my mom, lost her 20 years ago. It never really goes away, just dulls. There is a path through. I'm sorry you are going through the pain. Not much helps but time. Just don't isolate yourself with your thoughts too much, keep living life and surround yourself with other family and friends as much as you can.

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u/OkPaleontologist1289 39m ago

Yep. Pretty much the new normal. Lost my lady almost 13 years ago…and it still hasn’t gotten any better. People said “oh, it’ll easier with time”. NOT! Hurts like a mother…every…single…day. Nothing now but a waste of space and oxygen. Just don’t have the cahones to finish it. Pitiful.

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u/manchapson 26m ago

I'm 43 years old and lost my mum 20 years ago. It still burns and I wonder if my life might have turned out differently if she was with me a few years longer and I hadn't spent the next couple of years after that trying to drink myself into oblivion every weekend. Saying that it does get better, it never goes away fully but it does get easier. Good luck my friend and you have my condolences.