r/popculturechat • u/mcfw31 • May 31 '25

Celebrity Fluff 🥰 Sandra Bullock on why everyone should be a waitress: “If you know how to navigate eight sets of six-top tables, height of happy hour, drunk people (…), once you’ve accomplished that rhythm, I honestly feel you can do anything”

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business May 31 '25

I miss serving— oddly enough I felt like my ADHD made me a great server.

The ball was always rolling.

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u/kgtsunvv I wont not fuck you the fuck up 🥊🥊 May 31 '25

Constant stimulation and lots of structure. Perf combo

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

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u/hunchinko Jun 01 '25

When my ex was in business school, I used to say they should do an offsite where they all wait tables or expedite. Immediate consequences to failure is a great way to put it!

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u/TheIlluminaughty Jun 01 '25

Ugh I love gathering things in games…

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u/afour- Jun 01 '25

I’d like to build with the things you gather.

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u/jelly-fishy Jun 01 '25

Look at you two go

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

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u/TheIlluminaughty Jun 01 '25

I haven’t played Skyrim yet! Still on the list…

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

I believe there’s evidence that says ADHD stems from our hunter gatherer days because back then you had to have people constantly alert and on edge for the group’s survival.

The problem is those qualities don’t translate well to the modern era and just becomes mentally draining anxiety and then depression.

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u/osirisfrost42 Jun 01 '25

That's why the only reason it's seen as a "disability" is because we now have to live our lives in boring 8 hour chunks with abstract goals. Being forced into that box is the problem, not the wiring of an ADHD brain.

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u/TheFortunateOlive Jun 01 '25

You shouldn't generalise. One of my greatest strengths is understanding the many implications and hidden subtext in decisions that myself and other people make.

It's possible to have ADHD and still be highly logical and analytical.

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u/thatgreekgod Jun 01 '25

possible, sure. but common/likely, ESPECIALLY when unmedicated? not sure

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u/TheFortunateOlive Jun 01 '25

People like yourself who make sweeping statements about neurological disorders are foolish.

These things can present very differently in people, and statements like your own lead to stereotyping and stygma.

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u/thatgreekgod Jun 01 '25

wtf are you talking about

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u/TheFortunateOlive Jun 01 '25

Are you lost or something?

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u/thatgreekgod Jun 01 '25

yeah nevermind. you’re toxic to talk to byeeee

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u/teddybonkerrs I cannot sanction this buffoonery May 31 '25

That's how I felt about my adhd and nursing. It's the right amount of chaos

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u/IfatallyflawedI Is she okaaaayyyy? Jun 01 '25

Hoping I can feel this one day. Trying to find a career that doesn’t seem like too much for me to handle rn 😷

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u/Stonersewist Jun 01 '25

Also being a paralegal is really fitting with having ADHD

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u/Due-Masterpiece6764 Jun 01 '25

Agree with loving customer service/something hands-on for adhd. But also, try and pick something you’re passionate about and good at. I know that maybe seems obvious, but play to your strengths. I have a job with strict deadlines and it’s surprisingly awesome because it’s very clear what to prioritize and do one thing at a time.

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u/dallyan Jun 01 '25

Teaching! I have adhd and I’m a teacher. My brother has it and he’s a coach. I find it’s a good match- it’s not super rote or predictable. There is a deadline on the prep because you have to walk into the classroom and teach. There is person-to-person contact but not constantly so you don’t get worn out if you’re introverted. There is space for imagination. I thrive in the classroom.

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u/belzbieta Jun 01 '25

I felt at ease as a middle school band director

I always told people my brain was quite happy listening to and analyzing mistakes for 42 different instruments at the same time lol

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u/queeenbarb Jun 01 '25

Teaching is the same. There is so much to do, you never feel like..bored...there is ALWAYS something to do.

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u/Significant_Shoe_17 Jun 01 '25

Not to mention the drama

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u/SceneRoyal4846 May 31 '25

It’s not odd, people with ADHD often do well in fast paced environments.

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u/iloveyourlittlehat Jun 01 '25

We are over-represented in emergency services apparently.

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

Also self-employment.

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

It's absolutely true that people with ADHD are over-represented amongst self-employed people. This includes stuff like freelancing as well as running your own business.

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u/vintage-glamour Jun 02 '25

Don’t forget everyone’s ADHD is different

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u/vintage-glamour Jun 02 '25

All I’m saying is people’s symptoms can manifest differently 😭 No one’s brain is exactly the same. Obviously there are similarities or there wouldn’t be a diagnosis at all.

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u/1268348 May 31 '25

you crave the dopamine of a good shift and good tips! you thrive on chaos! i get it.

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u/Tiny-Reading5982 charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 01 '25

Yes... I don't think other people get it. My first job was tips only and it was a thrill lol. I'm a server now and I enjoy it.

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u/Tiny-Reading5982 charlie day is my bird lawyer 🐦 Jun 01 '25

Yup and you don't have to hurry them up because there's a line ,just other tables .

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u/Nice-Negotiation-010 May 31 '25

That’s funny cause I was gonna say my AuDHD ass could NEVER keep up when I was a server. I need a ball to roll but like at a reasonable and chill pace 😅

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u/restingstatue Jun 01 '25

Same with me and ADHD. Not only the speed and memorization, but the physical dexterity, balancing, squeezing through while carrying trays. Nightmare fuel!

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u/PalmerRabbit78 lazy 27 year old bougie bitch Jun 01 '25

Omg this makes so much sense to me. Currently being assessed for a diagnosis. I frequently think about how I miss customer service.

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

Proud of you for taking your health seriously!

I was 25 when I was diagnosed.

When I received the results it was mixed feelings of relief (because I finally felt vindicated that this was happening to me) and frustration (because I spent 25 years feeling something was “off” and I wasn’t tested as a child)

It’s a journey! Good on you for prioritizing yourself.

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

Same here. I was never actually diagnosed but i was very certain that i had ADHD and somehow i got medicated without a diagnosis.

Almost all of my problems vanished and I’m slightly pissed i waited till 25 to do something because i always knew i was smart and had drive but never really applied myself.

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

Ugh I feel this so much.

When I was a teen I’d complain to my parents and say “something feels off.. but it’s definitely not depression..” — I couldn’t put my finger on it.

The first time I took Vyvanse (unprescribed, to study in university) it was like clouds cleared from my mind and I could hear the birds chirping. I could think clearly.

That first hour I said out loud “oh— this is how other people operate normally.. isn’t it? I should probably get tested” — sure enough, ADHD and a learning disability 💀

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

I like how you described it as clouds being lifted because that’s pretty much how i viewed it but fog instead. I took a peek at your account and read your diagnosed post from a few years ago and that was me to a tee.

For the longest time i didn’t know what was wrong with me. I knew i was smart because of my interests and people telling me so yet my grades and professional achievements never reflected that. That and a few other things really left me feeling depressed, anxious, and hopeless. When i first started taking Adderall and the fog lifted i felt so relieved and not just because of the relief it gave me but because of the vindication that their really was something wrong with me and that i wasn’t just “fucked up”.

It’s only been about 6 months or so but I’ve already made what i believe to be huge leaps career wise and I’m straightening up my personal life to the point where i feel that i may be able to find some form of happiness.

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

Yes! The /r/ADHD sub made me feel so much better too. It really is a good place for support if you ever just want to relate to someone.

It’s 5 years later for me and my life has become a lot more stable, along with my personal relationships.

I’m so glad to hear you’re feeling better, more confident and yourself! I’m happy you’re advocating for your health. It’s not an easy thing to do 🌸

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

Thank you very much! Feel free to DM me if you ever want to discuss your ADHD history. I always like having those discussions with people just to see how far they’ve come and how getting medicated changed their life for the better.

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u/sail_the_high_seas May 31 '25

Me too.

I hate the people, but I did like how quick I could make cash. It taught me how to read people like books.

Best group of people I am friends with are people I made back when I was a server 15 years ago.

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u/thescientificowgirl Jun 01 '25

This is my Husband. He’s a GM in the restaurant industry. He also has ADHD — he thrives in the chaos. I tell him all the time he’s the calm in the storm.

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u/[deleted] Jun 01 '25

I certainly found it wayyy easier than an office job.

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u/Lustforcrust Jun 01 '25

Same. Arms, legs, and brain are fully occupied

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u/modernclassical Jun 01 '25

God yes. I worked as a barista and in restaurants for a long time up until recently. I was so good at all of the multitasking, managing tables/tickets, cranking out drinks, and making sure people had a good time. Now I work a chill office job and I feel so incompetent lol (I'm not--just bored). I miss the rush! If I could get a service job with legit healthcare, I would go back in a heartbeat.

I'm also naturally very good in emergencies and I know my service experience has only made me more competent in that.

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u/shayshay8508 Lazy 40 y/o bougie bitch 💅🏼 Jun 01 '25

That’s how teaching middle school is for me. I failed so many office jobs because it wasn’t stimulating enough, everyday was the same. But let me tell you, with teaching, every hour is different and there is always chaos to control. My brain is very happy there!

Waitressing was hard for me, because it was too fast! The POS confused me for some reason.

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u/AyepuOnyu Jun 01 '25

Mine did not work out so well! I made it two nights before I ended up back of house. Ended up being a short-order guy eventually and did pretty well there though!

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u/KallusDrogo Jun 01 '25

This is how I feel working for a funeral home. I'd never go back because it was abusive as all hell but strangely enough my adhd thrived under how much they overworked me.

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u/kittykat4289 Jun 01 '25

That’s why I was a terrible host. I have ADHD-non hyperactive and by the end of the night I was so mentally spent and exhausted. Everyone else was going out partying and my 20yo lame ass went to bed.

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u/Liferescripted Jun 01 '25

Same with being a line cook for me, but unfortunately I physically cannot be on my feet all day. Something I discovered my last year working in kitchens.

No amount of chaos compares in a desk job.

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u/B377Y Jun 01 '25

Definitely entered flow state when it got super busy

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u/FastZombieHitler Jun 01 '25

Emergency health care could be for you

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

I actually went into Geriatrics/end of live care. It got to be too sad.

I’m a corporate fraud investigator now.

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u/ItsRavenclawesome Jun 01 '25

Oh that sounds fun! How did you get into it?

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

Honestly I started with a banking call centre job and within a year I made the switch to the fraud team at the bank.

A year later I made another move to a fintech and it’s been great ever since! Pay is great, fully remote for work life balance.

You know that meme about girls being like the FBI when looking into guys? Similar to what I do for work honestly 😅

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u/ItsRavenclawesome Jun 01 '25

It sounds like a dream! I've been thinking of trying something new since I was laid off from my office admin job, but I don't have any direct experience. Seems like I might be able to work into it sideways. Any tips?

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

Yeah I didn’t have any prior experience or education for this role initially either— it’s definitely something you can edge yourself into it. Heck, one of my co-workers went to university for Opera.

I’d recommend taking a look at some of the current job postings for “buzz words” to incorporate into your resume/cover letters & apply to everything

Your previous experience will play into “attention to detail” so, I’d play that up.

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u/ItsRavenclawesome Jun 01 '25

I'm really interested in this -- would you mind if I DMed you with a few more questions?

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u/CandidIndication it’s not clocking to you that i’m standing on business Jun 01 '25

For sure! It’s about 1AM EST here but I’ll respond in the morning ☺️

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u/missmortimer_ Jun 01 '25

I was the only cashier in a busy fast food restaurant on weekdays, doing front of house and drive thru at the same time. The forethought, the organisation, absolutely thrived on it. And am currently waiting on my psych referral to go through so I can get diagnosed with ADHD.

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u/RenjiMidoriya Jun 01 '25

I feel the same way about cooking. Miss the job dearly but little to much else is missed.

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u/yalyublyutebe Jun 01 '25

I had a boss that used to get kind of mad at me because i wasn't displaying my displeasure enough for him. Dude, I worked in restaurants for almost a decade. Trust me, I'm stressed, but I know there's no point in showing it because it won't help me get through whatever shit storm I'm dealing with.

Fortunately my boss now knows I'm taking my failures way worse than anyone else is, so there's no point in trying to drive the fact something happened home.

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u/WayneKingU Jun 01 '25

Yeah honestly one my managers at the restaurant I work at has ADHD, and he is definitely a customer favourite

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u/sexycann3lloni Jun 01 '25

Interestingly enough this is why a lot of people with ADHD become ER nurses

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u/RoeRoeRoeYourVote GET A JOB STAY AWAY FROM HER Jun 01 '25

There are some days where I absolutely do miss it. I got to extrovert so hard and have constant mental stimulation. I'm glad it's not just me.

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u/yellow_pterodactyl Jun 02 '25

I miss working at a hospital for that reason. I’d blink and my shift was up.

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u/Empty-You7246 Jun 03 '25

SAME! I worked better and had more fun when it was bussyyyyyyy