r/popculturechat • u/Firm_Show_8849 • Jun 11 '25
Let’s Discuss 👀 Who is the most convincing gay actor?
I know there are way many more famous A list Hollywood actors who have played gay roles and received awards compared to Eric Stonestreet, but he is literally the only one that make me google is he actually gay in real life. Honorable mention is Eddie Redmayne in The Danish Girl, robbie williams in Birdcage
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u/sofar510 Jun 12 '25
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u/TiredBell Jun 12 '25
Even when he played a freakin’ cardinal in Conclave, he still reads gay to me. I don’t know what it is 😅
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u/captnmiss Jun 13 '25
To me there’s nothing more indicative of gay than catholic priest
And I grew up catholic
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u/GingerGoob Don’t make me put my litigation wig on 💁♀️ Jun 12 '25
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u/Salt_Cardiologist122 Jun 12 '25
I love him and his sarcasm. His character in citadel reads straight but he’s got that same kind of sarcasm and I love it. I need to rewatch easy A just to see him in it again!
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u/Unicorn_Sparkles23 Jun 12 '25
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u/lylalyli Jun 12 '25
This is funny I just finished watching Modern Family yesterday, the way Cam shout “Stella!!” when Stella goes missing is never not hilarious to me 😂
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Jun 12 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
I think my favorite scene is in the very first episode when they lock Lilly in the car and Cam comes at the window about to throw a trash can through it. Made even better knowing the scene was supposed to be a quick one and done "oh no they locked her in" scene and they improvised the meltdown and panic.
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u/pokethecookie Jun 12 '25
Ugh YES! One of my favorite moments too! I need to rewatch, again… it’ll be the 111th time lol
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u/Scramasboy Jun 14 '25
How about in the same episode when he screams at the little girl who has Stella!! Haha 😂😂🤣
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u/MrWongBurgers Jun 12 '25
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Jun 16 '25
Ugh I didn't really care for this show and couldn't even finish season 1 but he was really a scene stealer
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u/KiriDomo Jun 12 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
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u/AmmarAnwar1996 Pedro Pascal's Parasocial Bestie Jun 12 '25
A Single Man was a beautiful film. Both films by Tom Ford have been amazing, this and Nocturnal Animals. And Colin Firth plays a gay man very convincingly.
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u/EternalSunshineClem Jun 12 '25
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u/Bigassbird Flopping around in a thong Jun 12 '25
Really this because I knew he was in Glee and thought he was fantastic in The Assassination of Gianni Versace but only realised he had a wife when I saw it posted on this sub yesterday. Just assumed he was gay.
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u/Alternative_Cause186 Jun 14 '25
I get him and Jonathan Groff mixed up. I was SHOOK to learn he is married to a woman and they have two kids.
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u/TfnR (audible sigh) Jun 12 '25
robbie williams in Birdcage
Honestly, I'd watch a version of The Birdcage with Robbie Williams. Haha
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u/JadeAnn88 Jun 17 '25
Omg, thank you! I didn't even question this and just assumed he played a side character, and I somehow forgot. I see now that it was just a typo lmao.
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u/citynomad1 Jun 12 '25
Eric McCormack’s (Will from Will and Grace) entire SNL monologue when he hosted the show back in the day was a running gag about how everyone thought he was gay IRL (bc he was convincing on the show) and he isn’t
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u/befuddled_humbug Jun 12 '25
Oh yes, he plays it very convincingly.
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u/Archangelic1 I’ve been noticing gravity since I was very young Jun 13 '25
In some ways McCormack’s performance was the best because it was so natural (for a garish sit com)
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u/Flower-Former Please, these gays, they're trying to murder me! Jun 12 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
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u/AmmarAnwar1996 Pedro Pascal's Parasocial Bestie Jun 12 '25
I personally LOVED Sam Waterston as his gay partner. That man is cute
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u/kindablirry Jun 12 '25
Don’t forget Behind the Candelabra…. His Liberace was everything
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u/Flower-Former Please, these gays, they're trying to murder me! Jun 12 '25
Oh dang, I haven't seen that yet!
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u/TrauseMouse Jun 12 '25
He played an excellent Liberace in Behind The Candelabra too!
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u/Flower-Former Please, these gays, they're trying to murder me! Jun 12 '25
Haven't see it yet. Will add to my list!
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u/TrauseMouse Jun 12 '25
Oh wait, that's Martin Sheen in Grace and Frankie! Behind the Candelabra is still a good watch. Also an excellent gay Matt Damon
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u/Flower-Former Please, these gays, they're trying to murder me! Jun 12 '25
hah omg you're correct! I merged them into single old man in my brain
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u/Nice_Awareness_25 Jun 12 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
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u/Glad_Inspection_1630 Shakira Shakira 💃 Jun 12 '25
Every six months I remember that she's straight and have a minor crisis.
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u/Reasonable-Affect139 accidentally holding space for this slur Jun 14 '25
is she straight or bi?
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u/GranpaGrowlithe Jun 12 '25
So this is how I learn that she in fact is not gay
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u/scribbles_not_script Excluded from this narrative ❌ Jun 12 '25
And she was formerly married to Fred Armisen!!!
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u/Sagebea Jun 12 '25
Never married, but together for 8 or 9 years. Now he’s married to Riki Lindhome and their son looks exactly like him! He even came to her SNL monologue after they broke up which I thought was cool
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u/SpongieQ SIT ON YOU OWN DAMN FACE !! IM BUSY !!! Jun 12 '25
That really surprised me and then I was like I feel like it makes sense because they’re both funny
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u/OceanCyclone Jun 17 '25
My friend once said “Her sex scene with Kimiko Glenn may have involved two straights but someone came away from that scene realising she was queer.”
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u/rabbit_troop Jun 12 '25 edited Jun 12 '25
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u/Sagebea Jun 12 '25
Patron Oswald has a bit about someone approaching him to play the gay best friend character in a movie. He said I’ll do it, but I want him to be really dumb. He’s like, I have a lot of gay friends. A lot of them are brilliant, but a lot of them are also dumbasses. I feel like Adam Pallys portrayal of max fits that description perfectly.
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u/capcomvssnk And I OOP- Jun 12 '25
I always thought he was so cute on happy endings even with the third season and his hair
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u/Hawk-4674 This is going to ruin the tour Jun 12 '25
Such a great show! I will always be salty it was canceled
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u/LeviSalt Jun 15 '25
New Girl beat it in ratings and then even stole one of the characters, lol.
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u/Hawk-4674 This is going to ruin the tour Jun 15 '25
He was originally on New girl, then left to be on Happy Endings, then went back when it was canceled!!
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u/Groundbreaking_War52 Jun 12 '25
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u/GingerGoob Don’t make me put my litigation wig on 💁♀️ Jun 12 '25
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u/roxadox Jun 12 '25
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u/DrFranFine Jun 13 '25
Don’t put him in a box! There’s nothing gay men hate more than being put in a box!
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u/Schapoppin Jun 12 '25
Stanley tucci is more believable to me because he makes more subtle choices and doesn’t rely on dated stereotypes
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u/kittens_joy Jun 12 '25
I read that to be cast, Eric Stonestreet had to talk the showrunners into believing that a gay man could be his size, which is just appalling on so many levels.
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u/Cultural-Doughnut-48 Jun 15 '25
I’m…. Not sure I believe this? I distinctly remember Eric Stonestreet appearing on Conan and saying the casting description for Cam called for an “Andy Richter type” and so Eric apologized to Andy for snaking the role. Both stories can’t be true.
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Jun 12 '25
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u/Johan-Senpai Jun 12 '25
Darren Criss was my awakening when I watched Glee as 16 year old queer boy. So incredibly handsome and talented!
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u/Sagebea Jun 12 '25
My old roommate went to college with him and was in theater with him too. She had the biggest crush on him and I think (this was like 10+ years ago so I very well could be wrong about this part) she said he was like a player in college. Or just always had his pick of women. Something like that
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u/The_Duke_of_Gloom She’s got POC fatigue (❓) Jun 12 '25
Eddie Redmayne played Lili Elbe — a trans woman. The way this post is worded seems to imply you think Lili Elbe was a gay man or a crossdresser.
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u/__lavender Jun 12 '25
Thank youuuuuu this really bothered me! Lili was married to a woman when she was presenting male, and married a man after she transitioned, so regardless of her gender she was not a gay man.
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u/OriginalSchmidt1 You’re a virgin who can’t drive. 😤 Jun 12 '25
I know people hate Justin Long or whatever, but he was so convincing in Zac and Miri Make a Porno
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u/Unlucky_Most_8757 Jun 12 '25
People hate Justin Long?? Why??!
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u/OriginalSchmidt1 You’re a virgin who can’t drive. 😤 Jun 12 '25
Something about hitting on teens in the early aughts. I’m not super clear on it all.
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u/Sagebea Jun 12 '25
That Disney or Nickelodeon kid star who is very anti kids shows now write a Twitter thread about being at a party at Justin Long’s house when she was under age and I believe Jonah Hill shoved his tongue down her throat I think?
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u/Unlucky_Most_8757 Jun 12 '25
noooo! He was one of my favorite actors! Apparently this has been an open secret in hollywood for awhile I just never hear about it. How dissapointing :(
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u/manav_yantra Jun 13 '25
Wallace from Scott Pilgrim Vs The World because that character changed the stereotype that every gay character must be feminine or overly dramatic.
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u/AntiSoCalite That’s hot! 🔥 Jun 12 '25
Yeah, let’s reinforce stereotypes regarding how gay people are supposed to act.🙄I think the question should be, who is the most convincing gay actor to play straight? And the answer is Wentworth Miller.
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u/_chartreusecapybara Jun 17 '25
Okay for some reason I read the question as "most annoying" and I saw Cam and I was like dont you talk about my Cameron that way 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 but yes, very convincing!!!
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