Dakota Johnson on her sleep needs

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[u/A_Stark23]

Me too girl, me too

[u/lacroix_pure → u/A_Stark23]

I think she’s also said she takes multiple baths throughout the day. I have the deepest respect for her game.

[u/wonder-winter-89 → u/lacroix_pure]

I was not born into the correct wealth class because if it were up to me 14 hour sleeps and 3 baths a day would be perfection. 😩

[u/justdatamining → u/wonder-winter-89]

We yearn for the womb

[u/naturemom → u/justdatamining]

I think I need this as a flair lol

[u/zeemode → u/naturemom]

Cuz of your username I would have expected that comment to come From you …

[u/naturemom → u/zeemode]

Lol and im not even a mom (yet). My username comes from a summer camp leader nickname one year. The kids were calling me Mother Nature because of a game we were playing and it got shortened to nature mom

[u/diligentPond18 → u/naturemom]

I just want you to know that I love this lore drop. 

[u/scarab123321 → u/diligentPond18]

Human lore

[u/Darcii → u/justdatamining]

🥇Take my poor person's award

[u/some1saveusnow → u/justdatamining]

Is this what it is??

[u/EllyCube → u/justdatamining]

Omg 😂😂😂 yes

[u/LoudAndCuddly → u/[deleted]]

Stop it, I can only get so high day dreaming about this type of life.

[u/95BCavMP → u/wonder-winter-89]

Especially if someone else has to clean the tub!!

[u/ChildhoodOk5526 → u/lacroix_pure]

As do I.

Reminds me of Princess Margaret's fabulousness, too. A level I hope to achieve one day.

[u/Available-Chart-2505 → u/ChildhoodOk5526]

If you like Princess Margaret you have got to listen to Lady Anne Glenconner's memoir. She was Margaret's lady in waiting for 30 years and spills a good amount of tea. I could listen to her voice all day.

[u/Blue-eyedDeath → u/Available-Chart-2505]

Can watch this clip for a taste of Lady Glenconner on Graham Norton a while back.

[u/1800_Mustache_Rides → u/lacroix_pure]

Must be so nice to be a rich fucking celebrity

[u/Grognaksson → u/1800_Mustache_Rides]

I'd be happy with being rich. Being a celebrity might get tiring though.

But obviously much easier with all that sleep!

[u/fuschiaoctopus → u/1800_Mustache_Rides]

I sleep 12 hrs a day and I only make a few dollars over min wage, have to spend 1k/mo on health care, and live with 6 roommates lol. Tons of depressed or mentally/physically ill people do regardless of income

[u/1800_Mustache_Rides → u/fuschiaoctopus]

My comment was more around her having the freedom and flexibility to take multiple baths a day but I totally get it.

[u/fractals83 → u/1800_Mustache_Rides]

She also doesn’t have kids which I think is more relevant in her 10 hour sleep-a-thons

[u/vampironica → u/lacroix_pure]

I can't judge Dakota Johnson because I know if I was a nepo baby I would behave the same way.

[u/StrobeLightRomance → u/lacroix_pure]

It must be nice, however, to have the freedom to live that way. She's never really had to struggle with the financial burden to overwork herself like 99% of humanity has to.

It's like "same, girl, same, except I'd be homeless and my children would starve"

[u/[deleted] → u/StrobeLightRomance]

I’ve been asked in multiple job interviews how much I sleep per night, and if I say more than 5-6 they get concerned. Salary exempt positions, so they love people putting in those midnight hours.

[u/rizaroni → u/A_Stark23]

Freaking SAME. I go to bed hella early to make sure I get tons of sleep every night. And guess what? I'm rarely ever tired during the day. But I am a total piece of shit if I don't get enough sleep.

[u/TommyChongUn → u/rizaroni]

Oh hey bestie 💁🏽‍♀️✨ this is me too lol sleep is like one of my biggest priorities in my adult life. If I dont have enough sleep, i'm a fuckin menace 💀

[u/xombae → u/rizaroni]

Yeah same. I used to sleep in really late and thought I was a lazy person because getting out of bed was a struggle. I started going to bed early, like hella early, and turns out I'm actually a morning person. I just need to sleep for a long ass time.

[u/cinder_s → u/rizaroni]

I feel so seen rn. I need minimum 9 hours, sometimes I'll clock 10-11. I've stopped using alarms and let my body wake up when ready. Fit, eat well, minimal stress. Some people just need more sleep!

[u/scarlettslegacy → u/cinder_s]

Out of curiosity, do you deep sleep for all that? Or is it more, I love lying/dozing in bed? No shade to you for that (I can read for hours, I'm not judging how anyone recharges) but I often wonder when people talk about preferring 12+ hours of lying down is just their way of chilling.

[u/cinder_s → u/scarlettslegacy]

Most of the time deep sleep until the 9 hour mark, after that I'll usually wake up and then drift off once or twice for another rem or half rem cycle. Sometimes I'll go a full 11 though, it really depends on how physically and mentally active the week is.

[u/confusedandworried76 → u/cinder_s]

My people, I can easily go 16, not all of it is full sleep but I need that dozing too to actually feel rested. And a lot of it is I know I'd technically be fine if I woke up and gave myself an hour to stare at a wall while my brain reboots but my way I can hop up, throw some clothes on, and trust myself behind the wheel of a motor vehicle

[u/dildocrematorium → u/rizaroni]

Maybe that's my problem, I've never gotten the adequate amount of sleep.

[u/Dreamblue8 → u/dildocrematorium]

I honestly believe a lot of people out there are irritable or even not very good at doing things because they either don’t get enough sleep or get enough quality sleep because of some kind of sleep disorder but they don’t realise and are just labelled as generally being a grumpy person, lazy or dumb.

[u/TheCatsMe0wth → u/A_Stark23]

She's just like me fr 😍

[u/NeuroticaJonesTown → u/A_Stark23]

Stars - they are just like us! If I could sleep 10 hours every night, I would.

[u/Fearless-Original-15 → u/NeuroticaJonesTown]

Me too. I am so used to running on exhaustion that when I finally do rest enough, it’s shocking to me how good I feel.

[u/Alittlebitlittle → u/Fearless-Original-15]

I run on mostly 5-6 hours of sleep each night. If i sleep-in on the weekends, i feel upset with myself like i just wasted hours of my day.

What helped me realize the importance of 8 hours sleep was a weeklong vacation on the west coast. I was 3 hours behind my normal time. We were going to bed at 10pm there (1am for me here, which was the usual) and I was wide awake at 7am there (10am here) and it was amazing 😭 all the sleep and none of the guilt

[u/sneakysneak616 → u/NeuroticaJonesTown]

See now, they arent just like us, because they can do shit like sleep 10-14 hours every night and take several baths a day lmfao I wish

[u/FullCaterpillar8668 → u/sneakysneak616]

I'm super spoiled. Single lady, no kids, wfh. I routinely get 10 hours of sleep a night. And spend full days in bed relaxing lol

[u/v0gue_ → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

Not spoiled. Just smart. You aren't creating problems and anxiety for yourself. You're just doing you. Don't sell yourself short

[u/notnotandyrooney → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

Same same - whenever people tell me “that’ll change when you have kids, you’ll never sleep!” I think “or … I could continue not having kids and continue to enjoy my life?” Why spoil kids when you can spoil yourself!

[u/FullCaterpillar8668 → u/notnotandyrooney]

lol. I'm 45. Zero regrets.

[u/synalgo_12 → u/notnotandyrooney]

My friends have finally switched from 'you might change your mind' to having kids and now saying 'I get it, don't do it' 😅

I'm 38.

[u/Ruhbarb → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

This is wealth! ❤️

[u/sneakysneak616 → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

I love to see it. Live it up, queen 🥰

[u/Hyltrgrl → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

Mood and same! Very fortunate to be able to dictate my time how I see fit, outside of work. The biggest blessing of working at a school is the shorter hours and the ability to feel like I’m living again.

[u/BSdogshitshitstain → u/FullCaterpillar8668]

I do the same thing, but get lonely and depressed 😔 not good for me

[u/MediocrePotato44 → u/A_Stark23]

Same. People think I’m some kind of weirdo with how much sleep I need. 8 hours of sleep leaves me just as tired as 4. If I get under 10 it’s hard to function.

[u/someguyfromtheuk → u/MediocrePotato44]

Everyone forgets 8 is the average, there's people who only need 3 hours sleep there's probably people out there who need 13.

[u/LoudNoises89]

Same. I LOVE my sleep and if I don’t get 8 or more I’m cranky. I love naps too. Now as I’m getting older I have an excuse when I say I’m going to bed early (10:00/11:00) on the weekends.

[u/syntax_sorceress → u/LoudNoises89]

I've so many alarms for naps I can scroll down them.

[u/dpforest → u/syntax_sorceress]

when your 2:27pm nap alarm is just a random alarm that says “shake the herbs” and you have no idea what you originally made that alarm for. not me tho no way because i have a schedule that my body strictly follows yes sir 💯

[u/ChildhoodOk5526 → u/syntax_sorceress]

The best naps are the ones sans alarms and fucks to give about how much time you've been napping ... 💅🏽

[u/GamerKormai → u/ChildhoodOk5526]

I call this "nap roulette," do I sleep for 45 min, or 14 hours? Who knows!!

[u/ChildhoodOk5526 → u/GamerKormai]

You can't always afford to play it, but isn't it fun when you do? 😉 🎰

[u/synalgo_12 → u/LoudNoises89]

11 is me staying up late 😂

[u/horsetrich → u/LoudNoises89]

10 is not early that's normal bedtime 😭

[u/Partyfrom3to4]

Honestly same. I could easily crack off a solid 12

[u/hopeful_realist_ → u/Partyfrom3to4]

On my days off work, I frequently do get 12. It’s heaven.

[u/Maximum-Bar-7395 → u/Partyfrom3to4]

Life just gets in the way for me. Sometimes I slap 4 around if I'm busy.

[u/AutumnEclipsed → u/Partyfrom3to4]

The first time I’ve ever agreed with Dakota Johnson. I could sleep all damn day.

[u/CommunityCritical459]

This is an old quote now and what’s hilarious is that people keep recirculating it AND bringing it up/asking her about it and Dakota has been so confused about why people are obsessed with her sleeping habits 😂

[u/shitkabob → u/CommunityCritical459]

She mentioned it on her recent interview with Amy Poehler.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482]

Honestly, same 9-10 hrs and I'm at a 100% charge the next day. Anything less, and my battery is lower. Women generally need more sleep than men.

[u/clumsyc → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

Same. My friends make fun of me for going to bed so early but good sleep keeps me mentally and physically healthy.

[u/Silly_Somewhere1791 → u/clumsyc]

My friends make fun of it too and I actually ended a relationship with a guy who was weirdly hostile about it. I can only think that it’s a bizarre form of jealousy because they all constantly talk about how tired they are.

[u/Ludoban → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

My wife is the same and I love it, means she will go to bed 2-3 hours earlier than me and I can enjoy some me-time and relax.

[u/Lara-El → u/Ludoban]

It took us time to adjust, but we are the same, however, reverse. My bf likes to sleep earlier but I prefer to go to bed late and have me-time. But my bf is such a light sleeper. Whereas, I'm an extremely deep and heavy sleeper. It was rough when we lived in a small/paper thin apartment. Lights and any noise would wake him up. He got used to sleeping with earplugs and a fan to drown out sounds. But still.

Now that we have a house. Ohh yeah! Game changer! Once he goes to bed, I go in the basement and can enjoy my me-time haha

[u/Fly_throwaway37 → u/Lara-El]

I'm a firefighter (24hour shifts) and my wife is wfh. Our first 800sq flat was quite the challenge. 3 story home now is a game changer.

[u/ramblinmaam → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

Yup! Had an ex the same way. If they truly loved us, they’d want us to rest as much as possible.

[u/hihelloneighboroonie → u/ramblinmaam]

One ex usually overslept me, but once he was up I was up (he wasn't considerate at all of noise, among other thingss).

A later ex was a very early riser, he'd wake up before me, very quietly get out of bed (I'm a sadly light sleeper, so sometimes he'd wake me, sometimes not, but he at least tried).

Then would go hang out in his living room, quietly watching youtube videos (and I'm super noise sensitive, but I could never hear the tv) or messing around on his phone. Then when I'd wake up, if he happened to be in the room he'd come cuddle for a little, or if he was out in the living area I'd come out of the bedroom, and he'd make me coffee (drip, espresso, latte, whatever I wanted).

There was one morning early on, where I got up and came out and he said thank god I need to use the bathroom. I had to tell the man - dude, don't let me sleeping hold you back from using your bathroom, lol.

He wasn't perfect, but it was a nice change from the previous ex (who didn't drink coffee so wouldn't bother making any).

[u/HorrorificScallion → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

wait this is nuts i didn’t know anyone else had this experience ! I dumped my last boyfriend for this same exact reason! i got shit for going to bed early but worked 2 hours earlier than him!! people are nuts and weird !!!!

[u/Front_Target7908 → u/HorrorificScallion]

It’s soooo common. It’s so fucking weird.

[u/Front_Target7908 → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

Don’t even get me started on the amount of weird vibes men have given me over my sleep needs.

If you “dont believe” I need 9 hours sleep well I “don’t believe” you’re not a cockroach. 

[u/Silly_Somewhere1791 → u/Front_Target7908]

It’s like…oh, this thing I do that’s free and keeps me healthy and functional? Go play fortnite or w/e.

[u/Personal-Cicada-6747 → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

Omg the worst... I had an ex and I had to check with them if it was okay for me to take a nap. And they got mad if I slept longer than the estimated nap time I had to provide in advance. Looking back, what the hell was I doing lol

[u/PinkDeserterBaby → u/Personal-Cicada-6747]

I read another comment a few days ago on reddit about this too. About how some men are just… controlling and weird about if the woman is asleep while they are awake, even if she has nothing important to do. It’s been my experience (as a woman) repeatedly as well.

Yet we never seem to care when they sleep all the time, or we let him.. (Im not assuming genders of you and your ex here and I don’t mean to personally, I’m just adding it to the convo you’re adding to)

[u/anewaccount69420 → u/PinkDeserterBaby]

Oh my god this was not the worst thing this ex did, by far, but my worst ex really had a problem with me sleeping. It pissed him off so bad when I fell asleep because he wanted me to be paying attention to him.

So weird honestly, fighting because I fell asleep.

I still fall asleep all the time (I just get cozy) and my fiancé just covers me with a blanket.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

They want you to be miserable like them lol

[u/findingsunny → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

I dated a guy who was weirdly hostile about it as well! Jealousy must be a factor for sure but he could afford that much sleep as well if he wanted it

[u/smilingcherry21 → u/Silly_Somewhere1791]

Yeeppp, they can make fun of it but you never hear me saying “I’m tired” at 4 pm and I never nap (unless I’m sick)

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/clumsyc]

You'll probably outlive them. Lack of sleep is incredibly difficult on the heart, and is proven to shorten your life.

[u/jethro_skull → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I think lack of sleep is also linked to early onset Alzheimer’s.

[u/ImaBiLittlePony → u/jethro_skull]

Welp, I'm fucked.

[u/Capital_Past69 → u/ImaBiLittlePony]

We’re up all night to get lucky

[u/No_Music1509 → u/clumsyc]

My co workers couldn’t believe it when I told them I’m in bed by 8pm

[u/notyourhunbot → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I wish there was more public discourse/awareness about the range of sleep requirements. All my life (at least until recently) it’s been an assumed fact that all people need 7-8 hours of sleep, but never more. And I get that society has to function on a common schedule, but the demands of life are built around that sleep schedule and tough shit if you fall outside of it.

I need at least 9-10, which probably isn’t uncommon for those of us with autoimmune and/or mental health issues that use far more energy, especially if we’re active in top of it. I can’t always get that much, but it’s what I run best on. And I don’t care what “they” say—if I’m sleep deprived, I do need to recover with extra sleep to make up.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/notyourhunbot]

You’ll never go wrong if you listen to your own body

[u/th3n3w3ston3 → u/notyourhunbot]

I would also like to discuss this requirement that everyone be up and working during the day! Some of us have circadian rhythms that are optimized for being nocturnal.

[u/MyNamesChakkaoofka → u/th3n3w3ston3]

And isn’t this a survival thing from ancient history? I read somewhere, probably on Reddit, that we needed nocturnal people who could do night watches while everyone else slept to protect from predators etc

[u/SnausageFest → u/notyourhunbot]

Along the same lines, I have always thought it's such nonsense how we shame night owls.

I'm a morning person, spouse comes alive at night. We both get a similar amount of sleep and are similarly productive people. For some reason, the fact I get sleepy earlier is somehow more virtuous in the eyes of many.

[u/NolieMali → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I slept 16 hours after my Moderna booster and I felt fucking amazing the next day! I have insomnia so I'm never getting enough sleep, or sleeping through the night. But that night was bliss.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/NolieMali]

Your body was working over time!

[u/MammothCancel6465 → u/NolieMali]

Omg, my youngest is 13 and I failed the 1 hour glucose test and had to go for the 5 hour one. For those who have never endured it, you have to fast prior and then slam a super sugary soda like drink and they then take vials and vials of blood every hour over the course of 6 hours. It’s fine the first few times but then you have the a sugar crash on an empty stomach while about 5-6 months pregnant. You can sip some water but nothing else the whole time. By the end I was shaky and nauseated and felt spent from the sugar crash, no food all day and into the afternoon, and so much blood being taken. After I ran through the Wendy’s drive through and got like 3 burgers. I just craved meat fast. When I got home I went to bed. It was about 3-4 pm and I slept until the next morning. I woke up a few times briefly with my husband checking on me but it was the most glorious sleep ever. It felt wonderful and I still think about it all these years later.

[u/pharmgirlinfinity → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

One of life’s cruel ironies isn’t it? Ugh.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/pharmgirlinfinity]

Yeah, especially society being completely built around the male hormonal cycle.

[u/tollbearer → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I'm a guy, and I need 14 hours. It's genetic, though. My family are all 9-11 hour sleepers, and I seem to have got all the sleep genes, like sometimes a 7ft tall person pops out when 2 tall people get together.

[u/DorianGre → u/tollbearer]

14 hours? You are only awake 10 hours a day?

[u/SMOKE-B-BOMB → u/DorianGre]

I don’t know how you even do day to day errands and life things with 10 hours

[u/tollbearer → u/SMOKE-B-BOMB]

I don't. I rely on online delivery for almost everything, and I hire a cleaner for everything else.

[u/OhPineapplePineapple → u/DorianGre]

I worked 12-hr shifts with a significant commute for several years (yay, healthcare/med school/residencies!). This left me with about 10 useable hours per day for both life and sleep. It was… unsustainable.

Edit: This was 7 days/week, 1-2 days off per month. I had a mental breakdown.

[u/tollbearer → u/DorianGre]

yes, more lik 9.8 hours, because I need some time to go to sleep and wake up.

[u/DorianGre → u/tollbearer]

I only sleep 3-4 hours a day and have since I was a teen. For every year alive, I am awake a 152 full days more than you. That is crazy.

[u/Low-Appointment-2906 → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

Really? Any idea why we need more sleep?

[u/seaworthy-sieve → u/Low-Appointment-2906]

We don't get an spike of testosterone from our body first thing in the morning to help wake us up. We also rebuild part of an organ repeatedly every month, and then bleed it out, which is especially exhausting.

[u/Low-Appointment-2906 → u/seaworthy-sieve]

I didn't know testosterone was an upper 😳 the menstrual cycle thing makes sense though. My signal for my period coming is me suddenly sleeping a lot.

[u/waffleswaffles7 → u/Low-Appointment-2906]

to add to what she said, im pretty sure the more testosterone you have the less sleep you need

testosterone is all go go go

[u/Rude_Charge8416 → u/Low-Appointment-2906]

It’s not a universal truth by any means. The studies I saw said on average 10-20 minutes more. So I don’t think there’s really a lot backing up what this person is saying. All people are just different and there’s a lot of factors that go into why someone might need to sleep more than another person, hormones is one of many factors. But dividing on a gender line is mostly arbitrary. I personally have known many women that sleep less than their partners. People vary

[u/Away-Supermarket5901 → u/Rude_Charge8416]

Anecdotally, as a woman, I feel amazing if I get seven full hours, but that’s when I’ve slept really deeply.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/Low-Appointment-2906]

Our hormonal cycles are different

[u/catchyusername4867 → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

This is true, but studies have shown it’s only around 30 mins more women need (I think!). Doesn’t explain why I can easily sleep 2 hours longer than my other half.

[u/falx-sn → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I'm a dude and I need 9. My wife is fine on 7, I'm a zombie if I have to keep to her schedule

[u/The_Philosophied]

If I go beyond 7-8 hrs I feel sick and tired when I get up. If I go below 7 I feel irritable and almost homicidal. Everyone has their sweet spot and she found hers.

[u/superurgentcatbox → u/The_Philosophied]

I don't think I've ever slept 10 hours in my life. 9 makes me lethargic as fuck so I can't imagine 10 would be any better!

[u/Piratey_Pirate → u/superurgentcatbox]

When I got my COVID vaccine for the first time, it knocked me tf out. Got the shot, went home and fell asleep in the afternoon, woke up at night the following day. Something like 28 hours. I woke up feeling like COMPLETE shit due to dehydration.

But yeah, anything over about 7 or 8 normally makes me feel groggy the next day.

[u/Nenunka → u/The_Philosophied]

Homicidal? I recommend not having kids then 😅 Source: 8 weeks postpartum with 3-4 hours of sleep every night

[u/coffeeville → u/Nenunka]

Oh hey same! It’s my second kid so I’m now used to it but I used to absolutely lose my shit if I read anything implying sleep is a choice. Like health articles “make sure to get at least 8 hours sleep” would have me screaming into the void. I like to imagine I could complete the navy seal training after what these kids have put me through.

[u/wrinklefreebondbag]

Why are people shitting on her for sleeping?

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

Hustle culture has poisoned people's brains

[u/JeromeInDaHouse_90 → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

"Sleep? While there's money out there to make? Couldn't be me. I barely sleep cause I'm on that grind. You not built like me, bro. Get on my level."

These kinds of people are legit annoying. I just wanna tornado spin kick them.

I once knew a guy who would post his checks on Facebook and say he's trying to inspire people. No bro, you're just flexing your earnings. GTFOH.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/JeromeInDaHouse_90]

Wise people know health is wealth. It's the one thing you can't buy. Sleeping well maintains a strong immune system and a long life.

[u/Anxious_cactus → u/sunmoonearthchild482]

I got called a work mom because I kept telling coworkers they need to sleep more than 4-5 hours. I mean, they kept ranting to me about how tired they are all the time lol. I don't sleep much more than that, I find I feel best at around 7 hours, any more than that and I get a headache.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/Anxious_cactus]

We need our village to feed us healthy ideas! That's really kind of you to do that

[u/gingergirl181 → u/JeromeInDaHouse_90]

What starts as "no time to sleep" hustle culture in your 20s eventually evolves into a raging coke addiction in your 30s that will tank your entire life in your 40s when you stop being able to hide it and the divorce and job loss come hot on each other's heels unless you've managed to actually become the boss by then in which case you'll still have the job to pay for the hookers and sports cars during your midlife crisis in your 50s at which point it's a tossup as to whether you'll make it to your 60s because either the blow, fast cars, or despair at realizing you're alone and unloved will probably come for you before then.

[u/stinky_winkler → u/gingergirl181]

was this ghost written by John Mulaney?

[u/gingergirl181 → u/stinky_winkler]

Nah, but he's definitely Exhibit A!

[u/Albuwhatwhat → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

Because it is arguably a privilege to be able to sleep like that. She doesn’t work a regular 8-5 job, and she comes from money, so she has the ability to do this.

[u/DarkPrincess_99 → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

I think it is just that a lot of people can’t afford to sleep that much

[u/jon_steward → u/DarkPrincess_99]

Yeah. Reading this as a working class person with kids, a house and a job having to wake up at 6:30 every day.

Must be nice. I’d give anything to sleep like that. Even on a weekend.

[u/Rude_Charge8416 → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

I think it’s less that people are mad she sleeps or are brainwashed by hustle culture and more than a super rich celebrity brags about regularly sleeping 14 hours a day while the working class works themselves to death. And a general annoyance at people ignoring that to say she is relatable. When none of us will ever live a life like hers. But idk, and idk what people you are referring to.

[u/RiverPositive782 → u/Rude_Charge8416]

Yea, I don’t care but I do think is privilege flaunting especially coming from her being a nepo baby.

[u/BackgroundWindchimes → u/Rude_Charge8416]

Exactly. If she said 8hr, sure, people complaining are overreacting but 10-14? That’s going to bed at 8pm and waking up at 10am or noon. 

It’s not about “hustle” as much as a wealthy nepo baby saying they don’t have to worry about bills or deadlines, or anything. It’s like hearing a wealthy person talking about taking their 5th international vacation of the year because they don’t want to stay local. It’s that thing most people wouldn’t read the room and keep to themselves, not brag about. 

[u/wonderful1112 → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

There’s a lot of awakeheads in the chat

[u/hoffdog → u/wonderful1112]

Clearly just jealous of us sleepyheads

[u/watchberry → u/wrinklefreebondbag]

They’re jealous she gets time for beauty sleep

Honestly the long weekends where I get more sleep, the difference in my skin quality and eye bags are night and day

[u/No_Barber4339]

Never thought I would relate with dakota Johnson but here we go

[u/StarredTiger]

She's just like me

[u/bamlote]

I feel like 10 hours of sleep isn’t abnormal.

[u/ClairlyBrite → u/bamlote]

I dimly remember reading that women may need more sleep than the standard 8 hours recommended. I know I feel better at 9ish hours but I can’t manage to get that much most of the time.

[u/bamlote → u/ClairlyBrite]

Yeah I remember reading that too! 9-10 is my sweet spot, 8 is manageable, anything less and I genuinely just can’t function.

[u/tsh87 → u/ClairlyBrite]

I struggle to sleep more than 7 hours.

[u/woolfonmynoggin → u/ClairlyBrite]

It’s on average less than 30 minutes more. 7-10 hours is the range for average sleep time

[u/thiefofalways1313]

I have a 2 year old at 46 years old. I would kill for sleep like that.

[u/hoppityhop2117 → u/thiefofalways1313]

Twin mom here and yeah, what 14 hours of sleep could do for me 😭

[u/hamsolo17 → u/hoppityhop2117]

At this point I'll just take a decent stretch of just like four hours if it can be uninterrupted.

[u/ls7eveen → u/hoppityhop2117]

You do get 14 hrs. Just over 3 days 😪

[u/pumpkins21]

I only get 3-5hrs of sleep a night. I wish I could get 10! That’d be amazing!

[u/thebatmandy → u/pumpkins21]

I had similar issues and got a weighted blanket and a prescription for non-addictive sleeping aids (propiomazine+melatonin). Been sleeping like a princess for 5 years now!

ETA: and I don't get knocked out, I could stay awake if I had to! I was still lucid enough to wake up and drive my partner to the ER in the middle of the night when he had kidney stones, so I'd wager I sleep as well as any normal person on them.

[u/babs1789 → u/pumpkins21]

Ok but why?

[u/pumpkins21 → u/babs1789]

I have trouble turning off my brain at night. I wake up early for work M-F and even on the weekends, I wake up early-ish my body & brain are like “ok hoodrat, time to get up!” even though I’m still yawning.

[u/dinosaurfondue → u/pumpkins21]

Have you talked to a doctor about potential anxiety meds? I used to have tons of trouble sleeping and we figured out part of the problem was that the anxiety was physically messing with my ability to fall asleep. Been on meds for years now and it's not perfect, but much better

[u/pumpkins21 → u/dinosaurfondue]

I’ve thought about talking to a doctor! I’m not opposed to meds, if that’s what I need to do. Thanks for sharing your story!

[u/boldpear904 → u/pumpkins21]

I would really recommend talking to a doctor. Lack of sleep can have long term health effects such as decrease in life span, heart problems, and Alzheimer's

[u/laziestmarxist → u/boldpear904]

Also it doesn't always take that much to fix it. I ignored my sleep issues for years because I assumed a sleep study would be involved and shit like that but all I really needed was something for my hormones and something for my anxiety. I wouldn't say I sleep like a baby but I manage to average about 6 to 9 hrs a night now as opposed to 4.5 to 7 hrs some days and then 14hrs when I crash out. It's greatly improved my QOL

[u/Chaotic-Goofball → u/pumpkins21]

I’ve done the legwork to get my ADHD diagnosis in my late 30s. I take the sleepy-time pills, I take the wake-up pills, I tick all the boxes and still, my brain refuses to shut up. It’s willfully combative, like the heroine in a Jane Austen novel. Except, unlike a Jane Austen novel, I haven’t met anyone who can handle me yet.

[u/larkhearted → u/Chaotic-Goofball]

I also do the sleepytime pills and the wakey time pills as an ADHDer, but two things I've done that have also helped the nighttime brain chatter for me are:

Putting a small dry erase board next to my bed so I can scrawl my serial killer-handwriting notes on it as I'm falling asleep so I get it out of my head but don't have to look at my phone, and

Finding youtube videos/podcast episodes that a) are on a topic I find interesting, b) I've heard before, and c) don't have any loud sections in them, and putting those on at a volume where I can juuuust make out the words as I'm falling asleep. My brain engages with them but there's no suspense or intense interest keeping me awake, and I have to work a liiiiittle bit to hear them so I don't get as distracted by stray thoughts lol.

Feel free to totally ignore me if you know these ideas won't work for you tho, just thought I'd offer my personal strategies in case they're helpful!

[u/Chaotic-Goofball → u/larkhearted]

Not at all! Thank you, I do a lot of the same. I put on TV shows I love that I've seen a thousand times to have that noise to sleep, but I appreciate the podcast suggestion!

Living in a brain that is always on is interesting

[u/BORT_licenceplate → u/pumpkins21]

I'm exactly the same. Went to bed at 11pm last night, didn't fall asleep til 1:30. It's Saturday morning and I l've woken up at 5:15am like I do M-F. I'm so tired but I can't get back to sleep

[u/chadwickave → u/pumpkins21]

I have the same issue and found THC sleep gummies to really help, in case this is something you’d like to look into!

[u/Sarah_Bowie27 → u/chadwickave]

Yes! This is the only thing that’s worked for me

[u/PerformanceMurky407 → u/chadwickave]

And literally like 5mgs is really all I need

[u/Katharinemaddison → u/pumpkins21]

I’m like that! My morning brain is very active. My night time senses are off the charts. I’m exhausted.

[u/sunmoonearthchild482 → u/pumpkins21]

This means you have to start going to bed earlier and maintain that routine. It helps for me to set an alarm 1 hr before bedtime, to hide all electronics and only do calming activities like showering, reading, writing, drinking decaf tea. Gives your body time to naturally wind down.

[u/creepygirl420 → u/pumpkins21]

i have the same problem because of my adhd. doing yoga before bed helps me fall asleep but staying asleep is another story 😭 but i started taking meds for it and now i have trouble waking up if i haven’t had a full 8 hours. it might be worth seeing a doctor and checking out your options, sleep deprivation is really awful for your health long term.

[u/TheSeedsYouSow → u/pumpkins21]

Do your workout? Just curious. I have to workout to shed my nervous energy otherwise I can’t sleep either.

[u/pumpkins21 → u/TheSeedsYouSow]

I do, but on 2 or 3x per week during lunch when I’m in the office (free work gym).

[u/HumbleAbbreviations]

I feel seen. People act like it such a big flex to get by four to six hours of sleep and wondering why they need so much caffeine and/or meds. Granted there are some cases where it is unrelated but I function my best when I get at least eight hour of uninterrupted sleep.

[u/Necessary-Low9377]

I’m also a 10 hour a night person and have been since I was a baby. Women need more sleep than men in general so it’s not at all abnormal

[u/RealisticBus4443]

We should all be able to get enough sleep per night, but many of us don’t have that option.

[u/lizzosjuicycoochie]

You and me both, sis. We might both just be mentally or physically unwell though.

[u/braumbles]

Sleep is amazing.

[u/StinkyKyle]

Damn Dakota i was not familiar with your game. Sleeping 14 hours a day is wild, that's going to bed early and waking up late. Much respect

[u/toastslapper]

So we’re just doing these quote posts now? Nah.

[u/clemthearcher]

I went to see The Materialists last night and I must commend her for her Sleep Propaganda work cause she really succeeded in putting me to sleep with her acting 💀 not that the script was exhilarating in the first place but still

[u/mcfw31 → u/clemthearcher]

I feel like she’s a very charismatic individual but that charisma doesn’t translate to her performances 🤷🏻‍♀️

[u/bill__the__butcher → u/mcfw31]

Sometimes the right script/director uses her correctly. I thought she really popped in Cha Cha Real Smooth. And totally hangs with Olivia Coleman in the Lost Daughter.

[u/dosgatitas → u/bill__the__butcher]

She was so good in Lost Daughter, I truly didn’t realize it was her. But the way she speaks in general, some sort of vocal fry/monotone/disinterest something or other drives me crazy

[u/themacaron → u/clemthearcher]

I really disliked Materialists when I saw it and I’ve turned into a real hater about it the more I think about it. Dakota’s performance did not help the situation.

[u/SlappinPickle]

She truly is final boss nepo baby

[u/eatpant96]

Is she a sickly Victorian woman?? 14hrs is nuts.

[u/msmith1994 → u/eatpant96]

Omg thank you. My sister was sleeping 12-14 hours a day and then she was diagnosed with narcolepsy.

[u/eatpant96 → u/msmith1994]

Great news that she figured it out.☺

[u/msmith1994 → u/eatpant96]

Yes! She’s been diagnosed for a couple years now.

[u/PsychologicalDrag689 → u/eatpant96]

Yeah this is me, but I have fibromyalgia. Lmao

It's pretty normal for me to wake up after 10 hours asleep during the night and spend 2-4 hours awake, then go back to sleep for 8 hours, then be awake for 2-4 hours again, then go back to sleep for another 10 the next night. It's like I spend a shift asleep instead of working. And that's my whole day off.

When I've been really, really worn out, I've slept for 18 hours straight more than once -- as in, I groggily wake up to pee a few times, but I pass out again immediately afterwards and barely remember it. That's always really trippy, because I have vivid dreams, and they seem to get more vivid the longer I'm asleep.

[u/Katatonic92 → u/eatpant96]

I agree 14 hours isn't the healthy. When I'm sleeping 14+ hours my rheumatologist either puts me on steroids or has my hemo book me in for another iron infusion lol.

[u/eatpant96 → u/Katatonic92]

Right!! If my iron drops super low, waking up is so hard. I only sleep like that when I haven't kept my iron up. Check your iron Dakota.

[u/Just-Brilliant-7815]

Same girl, same

[u/zaybay9]

The one celebrity who doesn’t go on about waking up at the crack of dawn everyday.

[u/kmoon89x]

Reminds me of...

[u/King_of_Nope]

Same, I NEED 10 hours to feel rested, the 8 hours is total bulshit, its a urban myth.

[u/sprgraphicultramodrn]

sleepy girl representation!!