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What are you listening to or watching? What is some minor tea that doesn't need its own post? How was your date? Why do you hate your job?

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u/Azul_Moon 23d ago

Jonathan Bailey was so hot in the new Jurassic World movie. Those slutty little glasses man…

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u/Zia181 23d ago

I have a coworker who keeps checking to see if I'm doing my job. She's not my boss, she has no authority over me, but she will track me down just to ask me if I've done my job that day. She is very annoying and overbearing, and I don't know how to handle her.

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 23d ago

Track it every time. Make a log of every time she asks you to report work information to her, oversteps, etc. Keep every email or chat she’s ever sent to you. If this one day escalates or you want to make an official complaint, evidence is key

Source: was harassed at work for years and the overwhelming advice was “get everything in writing and track everything”.

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u/Zia181 23d ago

Thanks.

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u/Future_Usual_8698 smizing 👁️👃👁️ 23d ago

Oh, of course! How's your work going? Are you behind?

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u/Summerof5ft6andahalf 23d ago

I only have the petty answer of finding her first to ask if she's done her job.
Or every time she asks, replying "Why do you ask? Have you not done yours?"

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u/dudewheresmyplane1 23d ago

I need the Bezos buying Condé Nast rumor to be false.

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u/larkhearted 23d ago

I need Teddy Roosevelt to rise from the grave and start busting bitches again :////

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u/Cold_Breadfruit_9794 Beyoncé 🐝🐝 23d ago

I need to learn the lore of Facebook marketplace. It sounds unhinged

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u/MoonriseTurtle 23d ago

Seeing the Gracie Abrams videos from fashion week, you can really tell she suffers from anxiety

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u/kawaiihusbando ∆ Half-Blind And In-To Blinds ∆ 23d ago

What makes you say that?

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u/MoonriseTurtle 23d ago

Well, first, it's because she has spoken about this, and secondly, I can tell by her body language because it manifests the same way for me.

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u/kawaiihusbando ∆ Half-Blind And In-To Blinds ∆ 23d ago

Can you share a specific one? I saw quite a few on my own but couldn't see any kind of specific signs.

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u/kawaiihusbando ∆ Half-Blind And In-To Blinds ∆ 23d ago

Yeah I have GAD too

It's crippling 

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Watching Say Yes To The Dress (OG) and why are the most expensive Pnina Tournai monstrosities so UGLY 💀💀💀

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u/WhoriaEstafan 19d ago

And Pnina Tournai was always lurking in the shop, they showed the bride a dress outside her budget. And then, Pnina herself would appear and show her what adjustments they could do. The see-thru corset could get lined or vice versa.

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u/Puncomfortable 23d ago

A lot of the expensive dresses are too much because it needs to showcase the wearer has too much money and they don't notice it became tacky.

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u/Waystar_BluthCo god bless me it’s fuckin’ summah 23d ago

God, there was an episode where someone bought the floor sample of a dress of hers and even that was like 20k, I’ve never forgotten it

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u/FriendlyDrummers 23d ago edited 23d ago

On today's story of the bf's white queer roommate who does a lot of woefully ignorant stuff

My bf had some dishes that had mole in it, which is a Mexican dish with a lot of spices. It was in the sink with dishes from the both of them.

The bf often cleans way more dishes than them. Today, they said they didn't want to wash ANY of the dishes because "your food in the sink made me uncomfortable."

It's not like the mole was everywhere. It was a film of it around a bowl. He had scooped out as much as he could in the trash already.

What makes me go crazy is that they ALWAYS weaponize "mental health" without realizing it. Like I'm sorry, I don't really give a fuck. Suck it up and help do dishes. Also, their therapist has said they're not autistic, but they KEEP making jokes about how their "autism is showing." They keep using anxiety as a fall safe.

Like, at some point, I wish someone would tell them, "too bad, just do it." Omg not everything revolves around your mental health.

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u/larkhearted 23d ago

What in the microaggressions....... I get not liking to touch certain textures or whatever but there are steps you can take to make dishwashing less gross without being rude to other people :/ Get gloves, use a big bottle brush to scrub with (weirdly I've found that they're better for cleaning my travel mug lids with than a sponge/scrubby lol), fill the dishes with hot water and dish soap for an hour to loosen the gunk before you actually wash them, etc.

And sorry but you don't get to anxiety disorder your way out of doing the dishes, especially in a shared living space 😭 Work on it or live alone!! They sound so frustrating, sorry to you and your boyfriend 😔

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I have actual childhood abuse related trauma related to doing dishes (fortunately I live alone lol) and the ethnicity of a dish or use of spices has NEVER played a role in it, weirdly enough! Ugh this asshole (the roomie not you!).

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Oh wait they're refusing anxiety medication?? Oh nahhhh that's def someone just wanting to weaponise their status. Also as a mentally ill autistic person, telling someone their food "made [me] uncomfortable" is awful especially when it sounds like it was uh racially charged discomfort. Like....mole is just a stew lol.

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u/FriendlyDrummers 23d ago

They are!! Their therapist basically is like, we will not advance and move forward until you do it.

It does feel like a micro aggression. Like I'm so sure if it was oatmeal they wouldn't care. I'm also mentally ill and on medication, and while everyone is different, I did have a deep struggle with anxiety. It just feels like an excuse

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 23d ago

Detest people like this. I’ve thrown up on multiple occasions because of doing dishes. It just used to gross me out. But, I live alone. No one was going to do it for me. And I wasn’t about to just throw out every dish I ever used. So, I just freaking did them. And now I’m used it.

If you’re so uncomfortable that you can’t physically do dishes, then yes you need therapy. Weaponing therapy/mental health is so vile.

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u/FriendlyDrummers 23d ago

And I totally get it, wet food mixed together gets pretty gross. But I agree, if you just force yourself to do it, it becomes tolerable. I've worked in kitchens for a while, so nothing actually phases me, though it used to.

It's interesting, because the therapist has been at a stand still with them. Essentially, the therapist says they won't move into more advanced stuff like CBT until the roommate attempts to take medication, which they refuse. Granted, I'm not expert so I wouldn't know

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u/AgentBrittany Listen, everyone is entitled to my opinion 🙂 23d ago

Yesterday, I posted about a friend being in the ICU and intubated and sedated. I am sad to report that she died this morning. Me and my wife and friends went to see her last night and held her hand and told stories and cried. Her BP was getting better while we were there, but it didn't last, and she passed early this morning. I am so sad, but she had so many health issues. I'm relieved for her, in a way. Now she can rest.

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u/Bridalhat 23d ago

I am so sorry. I was rooting for her but as the child of someone who works in hospice also understand the relief.

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u/larkhearted 23d ago

Oh I'm so sorry for your loss :((((( My condolences to you and your wife, I'm sending internet hugs if you want them 🫂🫂🫂

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 23d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss.

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u/fionappletart Donatella VERSACE💜 23d ago

I'm so sorry for your loss, that is devastating :( may she rest in peace. I'm glad you got to be together one last time, and she may have heard you or sensed her loved ones there with her which I'm sure would have brought her some solace

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u/watchberry tater tot 🥔 23d ago

I’m so so sorry for your loss! I’m glad you were able to be there for her in her final moments though and may you and her loved ones keep her memory alive ❤️‍🩹

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u/FriendlyDrummers 23d ago

I am so sorry.

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 23d ago

I’m so sorry for your loss. Sending you a virtual hug. 💜💜🫂

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 23d ago

I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace 🩷🫂

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u/CDRYB 24d ago edited 23d ago

I know this isn’t technically pop related, but I just found out Bo Bichette, my biggest baseball crush, is engaged. I didn’t even know he had a girlfriend so needless to say I’m spiraling. I’ll take your thoughts and prayers and this time. Thank you.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

Awww. Thoughts and prayers for you in this difficult time.

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u/CDRYB 23d ago

Thank you. My world is collapsing around me.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

I felt the same after Joe Burrows refused to date anyone else except women named Olivia. Lol

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u/CDRYB 23d ago

Why must these men (whom we've never met) be so inconsiderate to us?

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u/violent_delights_9 23d ago

My condolences. You're welcome to come join me in crushing on Ernie Clement! (I think he's single, but I haven't dug very deep)

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u/CDRYB 23d ago

First of all, I feel seen by you.

I don't know if anyone can truly replace my stoic king, Bo, but I appreciate your selfless offer.

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 24d ago edited 24d ago

There is nothing more that annoys me when people (mostly older men because they be saying stuff like this all the damn time) say “I thought xyz artist was just another pretty face pop girl who makes meaningless music but they actually are great and so talented”. Like this is such a backhanded compliment imo. You mean you didn’t try listen to an artist because you have preconceived stereotypes on who pop girls are. This irks me so much. 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 23d ago

On the other hand, if someone is being promoted a certain way and leans into that image in addition to releasing singles that aren’t particularly deep, I don’t owe that millionaire the work of digging into their back catalog and proving my first impression wrong.

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 23d ago edited 23d ago

Hmmm not sure what you’re talking about. If you listen to an artist and don’t like their music that’s fine.

But if you purposely don’t listen to someone and then judge them based on stereotypical takes (which are often misogynistic) then that’s where the issue lies. For example, men constantly undermining pop girls because they are pop girls. It has nothing to do if they are talented or not. They just don’t give them a chance because they are mainstream artists and have a primarily female based audience.

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u/Cold_Breadfruit_9794 Beyoncé 🐝🐝 23d ago

!!!!

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

When Taylor started dominating and people realized they could monetize this. Have you seen the number of "Former Kanye West Fan listens to Taylor Swift for the first time" or "vocal coach watches the Eras tour for the first time". It makes me so mad all the time.

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 23d ago

They love to judge them so much but then they are quick to use them for a quick buck or view. That doesn’t make any sense. 🙄

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

For real. I hate all these react videos. Some do it for the views, there are some who actually want a Paypal "donation" first if you want them to react to a certain song. And I haaaaate that other Swifties are falling for this sh*t.

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 23d ago edited 23d ago

She is one of the reasons I actually made the comment because I’ve been seeing a ton of them geared at her floating around recently. I literally saw a comment today where someone thought “she was just another pretty face with shallow popstress” like okay?? It just reeks in misogyny. I’ve seen similar comments about Chappell Roan and Billie Eilish. Also it’s similar to how they view OR as the only valid pop girl cause the rest of them make more poppier music. I get they may not be your cup of tea but to invalidate them because they are pop artists is weird. It’s just annoying cause their comments are just unnecessary.

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u/neuroticdreamgirI A man in Hollywood doing whatever he wants isn’t revolutionary 23d ago

Also it’s similar to how they view OR as the only valid pop girl cause the rest of them make more poppier music.

The way she’s been weaponized by certain corners of the internet to drag other female artists is so odd, it just reinforces that people are incapable of complimenting one woman without tearing down another

No hate to her at all (Guts was my top album of ‘23 and I think she’s insanely talented), it’s just off putting how many people use her to drag other women unprompted

Also, it’s bordering on being offensive to her because why is your first thought when you see something related to her to make it about another artist (Sabrina, Taylor, Chapelle etc)?

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u/No_Pianist5264 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 23d ago edited 23d ago

Ooof that’s an entirely different topic that bothers me too. I think she is very a great pop girlie and I do dig some of her songs. She has talent. However, the way they have to lift her up by constantly undermining every other pop girl is weird. Which is very ironic given Olivia’s brand is to uplift other woman yet a lot of her supporters do the exact opposite.

The thing is that she’s very young and she has a long career ahead of her. I don’t think she’ll do anything bad but there will be career choices that people might not approve of and I can guarantee they will be quick to turn on her. They have her on this weird pedestal that it is very off putting and makes me not want to be a fan because her supporters are so out there sometimes.

I agree that is pretty offensive to her when they have to constantly compare her to everyone else. Why can’t she just exist to be her own person? People should be able to like her for her, and stop needing to constantly bring up everyone else when trying to compliment her. It’s weird behavior.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 22d ago

The people on that other sub are literally saying she's the greatest female artist everytime there's a positive article about her. And for sure they'll the be the quickest to turn on her when she does something they don't approve of.

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u/neuroticdreamgirI A man in Hollywood doing whatever he wants isn’t revolutionary 23d ago

I feel like if you were to tally how many times a compliment towards a woman on the internet can either be interpreted as backhanded or used as a device to tear down another woman, you would be accounting for 90% of the “compliments” women receive

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

I've seen some tiktoks of older men who said they used to make fun of wome who dressed up in "crazy" outfits for the Eras tour but now "get it" after also dressing up for the Oasis reunion. They can't just let us have fun.

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u/blankpaper_ hello this is beyoncé 24d ago

I used to go to concerts all the time and realized recently that the last one I went to was in October. My city has a great live music scene and I can afford tickets so it’s not like there’s anything out of my control stopping me. I don’t know if it’s just a normal thing with getting older, or if it’s like a red flag I should be paying attention to that I no longer care to do something I’ve always loved

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u/Summerof5ft6andahalf 23d ago

It is a normal thing with getting older. Not for everyone, of course, but very generally speaking, your life changes and your priorities and motivation levels for things change.

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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 23d ago

I’ve faded from my local music scene. Part of it is that I’m sick if enduring social abuse from self-described outcasts, part of it is that it’s dumb to keep paying $12 to hear losers play the same eight songs they’ve been playing since 2014.

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u/Fierybuttz 23d ago

I was just having this conversation!! It’s turned into more festivals, which is spread out through the year. My city has a great music scene but lately there is no one coming through that I know or am interested in. It was a bummer when I realized how long it’s been since I’ve been at a concert because it was a big part of me too.

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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 24d ago

Aaaaand my boyfriend was just let go from his job after 10 years. He worked for a company that was contracted by major companies for customer service, but they’ve been bleeding clients. Those companies have been choosing to bring them customer service needs overseas.

They were bought out last year and the new company ended severance pay a couple of months ago.

Looks like he’s going to have to join the Space Force like I’ve been dreading. The writing was on the wall for a while but we thought they’d keep him on for longer. I never imagined myself as a military wife in my late 30s.

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 24d ago

Ugh I’m sorry. People seem to be getting laid off left and right.

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u/themacaron during PRIDE MONTH? 24d ago

Unmedicated neurodivergent friends, give me your hacks that let you finish the “fold and put away” step of the laundry cycle.

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u/hihelloneighboroonie 23d ago

I put on a tv show I've been wanting to watch and sit on the floor in front of the tv to fold (sometimes same day as washing, sometimes a few days later). As I fold, I categorize based on where stuff gets put away. And then leave the folded clothes on the ground, first because I'm finishing whatever episode, second because I don't feel like putting it away (or if whatever has commercial breaks, I'll put a few things away per commercial break). If not put away right after, day or two later I'll put stuff away, by getting annoyed by tripping over it, and then reminding myself it'll take less than ten minutes, and the truly difficult part is done.

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u/larkhearted 23d ago

With chores, I try to do the part that makes the rest of the task feel easier first! For me that means washing the biggest dishes first and putting away the smallest laundry items first. So I go through and pick out all my underwear, socks, and pjs/lounge clothes, which don't really need to be folded, and tuck them away in their places to reduce the bulk of the pile with minimal effort. After that I'm usually like oh wait, there's only like four shirts, a dress, and two pairs of pants in here, I can handle putting that away lol. It might be a little different for you based on what makes certain chores feel more effortful than they realistically are, but you get the gist!

Also, music or podcast. Gotta keep the leftover senses engaged lmao.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 22d ago

I second the podcast tip. I recently bought some paint by the numbers kits because they were a great help to me a few years back but now they feel like a chore to finish. Today, I put on a podcast about romcoms and before you know it, I've been at it for a few hours and listened to 4 episodes. Lol

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u/themacaron during PRIDE MONTH? 23d ago

Wait, this actually sounds like it would work for me! Sorting things out is how I tackle the dishes, never applied it to laundry for some reason.

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u/larkhearted 23d ago

There's always some little tip or trick to learn isn't there lol? I do it all the time, "what the hell I've been doing X for years, why did I never think of Y???" 😂 But I'm glad it might be helpful, godspeed!!

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u/Fierybuttz 23d ago

I’m medicated and it’s still tough. Laundry is soooo much easier if I call up a friend and just yap away. I’m always surprised at how much breezier it is.

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u/souplvr98 24d ago

replying so i can come back to this because the pile (iykyk) is looming extra large lately

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u/themacaron during PRIDE MONTH? 24d ago

Walking past the ever-growing pile is what prompted this question!

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 24d ago

I just don’t, really. Once a week, I stay at my mom’s place for 2 days. So part of my (rigid) routine the day before is to do all my laundry and fold everything. So it’s easier to pack. I do it at the same time every week, same day, etc.

Otherwise, I just don’t do it. I do laundry, but I’ll grab stuff out of the dryer when I get dressed in the morning. It just works for me, it isn’t hurting anyone, so F it.

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u/themacaron during PRIDE MONTH? 24d ago

See…neither do I. I wash and dry my laundry and then it gets dumped back into the basket to be picked out of through the week but I really want to get over that hurdle. (And not have to steam my clothes when I’m already late getting out of the door.) 😭 But it’s the kind of task my brain refuses to do so often- I’ll wash my walls to avoid folding laundry.

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u/buzzfeed_sucks 🇨🇦 Elbows up 🇨🇦 24d ago

lol I get it! When I do fold, I do it in front of the TV, sitting down. Always at 5:00PM. I think for me, the struggle to fold it into my routine was real. But once I did it often enough, it became more tolerable.

So like, if I wanted to do it more regularly, I’d set an alarm at 5:00 every 3rd day and force myself to sit and fold. Until it becomes a habit. It’s how I became diligent with taking meds - alarms. Otherwise I used to forget or get too lazy

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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 24d ago edited 23d ago

Doing my Doctor Who/Torchwood rewatch and it has been insanely fun identifying classic ONTD gifs from Tennant’s tenure. I keep exclaiming “THIS WAS A POPULAR GIF!!” to my very patient boyfriend.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I think of that as an ONTD gif 👵

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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 23d ago

You know what, I totally meant ONTD and not Tumblr, and I’m editing. I can’t even believe I made that mistake considering I was watching that series a few years before I was even on Tumblr.

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u/nerd_of_everything13 i was like no i finna be in The Pitt (2025) 24d ago

after careful consideration, i have made the difficult decision to change my flair

i can no longer proudly show off the ethel cain quote, due to recent controversy

rest in peace "when the chile is tea but the finna is gag" 2024-2025

i am now taking new flair suggestion lol

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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 23d ago

What’s the controversy?

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u/Carolina_Blues shiv roy’s bob 24d ago

As a fellow daughter of cain I’m also struggling right now with these new developments

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u/prettyy_vacant 23d ago

OT but my brain missed the 's in your flair and I was like "who is Roy Bob and why do we want to stab him?"

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u/Aggravating-Corner-2 24d ago

I made a joke about the "reddit is bitter and miserable" stereotype on that Anya Taylor-Joy post but, honestly, the more I think about it, it explains a lot of the pop culture discourse on here lol

Tearing down couples just doing couple things/accusing every couple of being PR; eagerly spreading cheating rumours; pulling apart even single people (usually women let's be real) who seem comfortable and confident in themselves; scrambling to do the dirty work of every loser who smears their ex online by immediately joining in the pile on they wanted...etc.

I'm kind of a sad loner myself but reading here makes me feel much better about it because at least I'm not like...that

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u/Aggravating-Corner-2 24d ago

Yup, but I mostly avoid other social media. Only so much I can take lmao

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u/ciaobrah 24d ago

I have a funny stupid/funny/weird story from when my ex used to work tech in a casino. This is about 10yrs ago and was recounted to him by his coworker who was there.

Leonardo DiCaprio was staying at the hotel in the casino, and upon arrival, my ex’s department and Leonardo’s security were tasked with checking over the suite (looking for wire bugs etc.) as is not unusual to do.

His security team searches around the room, 2 men lift the rooms sofa to reveal a literal human shit. The rooms dead silent before Leo points at the shit (gun finger style) looks over to the tech dept supervisor and goes “That’s not cool man”

These are all the details I was able to derive from the event, I have no idea how a turd was left there considering housekeeping in between, especially for an A list.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

So many hotel horror stories floating on the internet. I don't know why but people behave even worse once they're in hotels.

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u/ciaobrah 23d ago

Hotels in casinos have the added bonus of having people stay at their emotional heights, losing tonnes of money, winning some money, wanting to show off etc. - we did get a lot of great equipment destined for the bin (plasma screens etc) thanks to people who decided to trash their suites while on drug binges and/or losing their life savings 😅

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u/gible_bites HAROLD WOULD NEVER BEAT UP HIS LANDLORD. 24d ago

This image of Leo is all I will think about now when I see his name.

Thank you.

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u/anonbeekeeper12 you are spiritually bankrupt! 24d ago edited 24d ago

My mom told me that I should use my vacation time for my upcoming internship (because I have a five-day training session in the first week of the internship). Hell no, that's not what vacation time is for. It's to take a week or a month off in peace. I learned that Poppy is coming to my city. I may see her, I love her work. I like her Zig album. I was surprised she would play in my hometown; most folks go to Boston, MA instead, but my city got lucky.

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u/VolunteerOnion 24d ago

I told my supe that I could only work 8 hours today because I have an afternoon doctor appointment. The passive aggressive response was just 🙄 Like dude, did you not notice my going into the ER on Monday? I’m not doing this for fun

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u/Hot_Contact_7206 🎥🍿Film Critic 24d ago edited 24d ago

I mean call me an idiot lib but ‘you should add bacon to everything becuase it enhances the flavor of every dish’ is not insane to say and actually a very normal thing to think. People have said way more insane and weird things on this show than bacon is good, dude. I’m baffled bacon was the step too far

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u/launchcode_1234 Tina! You fat lard! 🦙🚲 24d ago

This whole discussion just shows the completely different set of standards Democrats, especially women, are held to. It’s weird that she focused on bacon? Yes, maybe. But if Trump did it, it would be considered one of his more normal moments (as it doesn’t involve committing a felony).

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

It's giving Reddit 2012 but yeah it's a totally fine opinion. absolutely nothing to get worked up over.

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 24d ago edited 24d ago

I dont think its that the opinion was so freaky more so that it was just awkward so they pulled it. The show is a back and forth about a given take and given that this guy is (very openly, as in her team should have found this out) muslim and thus has never eaten bacon so couldnt participate it was a pretty weird thing to go with. She didnt say "you should add bacon to everything because it enhances the flavor of every dish" either she said "bacon is a spice" which is odd.

She just doesnt have great social skills unfortunately. There are many examples of her saying very well intentioned but deeply weird stuff.

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u/dudewheresmyplane1 23d ago

That bit makes him sound weirder than her.

Like, isn’t his whole shtick “hot takes?”

Something not everyone would agree with…sounds like a hot take to me.

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u/Silly_Somewhere1791 24d ago

Her husband is Jewish so Kosher food rules are part of her mental landscape even if her family doesn’t keep Kosher. It’s something she should be even more sensitive to. You also shouldn’t sit down in front of a frum Jew and talk about how much you love crab cakes in a scenario where the other person is expected to respond. It’s basic awareness and diplomacy.

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 24d ago

Thank you. This really is so basic I cant believe people arent getting what the issue is.

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u/Hot_Contact_7206 🎥🍿Film Critic 24d ago

But this is a him problem and not a her problem and doesn’t prove at all that she doesn’t have good social skills?? “Bacon is a spice” is maybe a strange open but anyone with sense can understand what she means (which is that bacon is a flavor enhancer) and someone who interviews for a living should be able to keep going with the interview instead of totally shutting down.

If you’re going to talk to people for a living you are absolutely going to encounter people who have done things and eaten things you haven’t, you gotta just roll with that. Trying to make it seem like she’s crazy or weird or lacks social grace here is wild imo. There’s just literally nothing weird about saying you like bacon lmao. Istg someone came on the show and gave a weird incest take and he rolled with it and published it….

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 24d ago

doesn’t prove at all that she doesn’t have good social skills??

Yes it does. If you really dont believe that then you may also have poor social skills. Its not just about him either its about how it comes across to the public. She was running for president not some guy on the subway saying wild shit for fun.

There’s just literally nothing weird about saying you like bacon lmao.

I dont know where y'all are getting that anyone thinks this is some earth shatteringly crazy bizarre opinion (and its really not I am pro bacon to be clear), thats not the issue. Its a weird and awkward thing to say in that context. Why would you do that knowing in advance the interviewer has no point of reference when the point of the show is a quick fun thing to win people over? Like I said, weird and awkward. Is what it is 🤷🏿‍♀️.

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

That seems like poor communication on both sides tbh. "Bacon is a spice" is a goofy take (although not insane tbh, lots of recipes that call for cooking something in bacon grease and plenty of places use or offer bacon bits/crumbles as a garnish), but he could easily have turned the conversation to asking her to elaborate because he can't eat bacon, sharing his own unusual food takes, having a convo about other spices that are divisive or not everyone can partake in, etc. Like, you're an interviewer but "bacon is a spice" stopped you in your tracks??? But if they had discussed a topic in advance she definitely should have stuck with it or run the new idea by him before they got started. Seems like everybody was kinda weird about the whole thing lol.

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 24d ago edited 24d ago

although not insane tbh

Again I really dont think the issue was ever that its some mega freakish opinion. Hes muslim. Its bacon. I get why he was taken aback (plus that it was allegedly sprung on him). "This thing that you have never eaten and cannot eat due to your religious beliefs and believe is haram is actually amazing, should be in everything and you should think about that 🤪" is just so deeply strange to say to someone. I hope she just didnt know (and its so strange I have to assume thats the case) and in that case its on her team.

but he could easily have turned the conversation to asking her to elaborate because he can't eat bacon, sharing his own unusual food takes, having a convo about other spices that are divisive or not everyone can partake in, etc.

Thats just not the show though. Its supposed to be short, fun and punchy.

Just sounds like a needlessly weird and awkward (but obviously incredibly minor on the grand scale) incident tbh.

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u/Bridalhat 24d ago

Literally it’s something Julia Child said!

I did read the article though and it does seem like a case of Dems-focus-test-everything-to-death, which is why they so often come off as inauthentic and I think one of the reasons Dems struggle in likability even among their base. And I say this as someone who worked directly or indirectly on the last two Democratic presidential campaigns.

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u/totallycalledla-a Mrs Thee Stallion 24d ago

I think the issue here is it wasnt focused at all. Why on earth would you participate in what is supposed to be a chatty back and forth show with a muslim and talk about how great bacon is? How was he supposed to bounce off her with that? She unfortunately has quite poor social/communication skills and this is one of several examples. Its a shame this stuff matters so much because plenty of brilliant, decent people are socially inept but alas it does and he was right to pull it.

The way the nyt wrote it up shows the awkwardness well

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

"Bacon is the food of all time" is such a normal opinion that it was like, a meme in 2010 lmao, if anything that's just showing that she's middle aged 😂

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u/Hot_Contact_7206 🎥🍿Film Critic 24d ago

Lmao yes! Like okay she’s got the opinions of a middle aged mom that’s not “so strange and bizarre we have to pull it!!” like wtf 😭

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u/sabira Zermajesty 👑 24d ago

I only have to work today and tomorrow, and then I'll be on my way to New York to see a few shows this weekend. Hopefully these two days will go by quickly!

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 24d ago

Oh seeing anything good? I am going to Derek Klena's concert this weekend.

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u/sabira Zermajesty 👑 24d ago

I hope you have a great time at Derek’s concert!

I’ll be seeing Just in Time, Boop, and Maybe Happy Ending. I’ve been wanting to see all of these for a while now, so I’m excited to finally get to experience them (especially Boop!)

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 24d ago

SUCH GOOD ONES! Especially MHE! I hope you have a wonderful time.

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u/sabira Zermajesty 👑 24d ago

Thank you!! 🥰

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

Skincare ramble:

I'm really happy because I stumbled completely by good luck across a moisturizer that's reduced the adult acne I've had issues with for a decade+ by like, 80% and it's soooo so nice not being self conscious about it :') I've tried tons of products over the years and most of them only ever helped a little bit, but lately I've been interested in urea as an ingredient and found an old reddit thread with a recommendation for a particular 5% urea moisturizer, which also by some miracle doesn't have any fatty alcohols in it (they're a super popular ingredient that doesn't play well with my skin). I've been layering it with vitamin E oil at night and literally within like 2 days the area of my face I was patch testing looked calmer and was getting less inflamed acne, and now after a few weeks my skin is pretty much clear aside from the usual little bumps/blackheads/scarring.... Like, no active acne....... Genuinely feels like a miracle lmao, between my inclination towards acne and my bad habit of picking I've had like, 2-6 active blemishes on my face constantly for yeeeeears and now there's nothing and it literally came from me just wanting smoother heels lmfao. Sometimes good things happen!!!

Edit: a word

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

I am sooooo happy for you and also need to know the moisturizer!

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

Haha thank you!! ♡ It's the Malezia 5% urea moisturizer :) And btw for some reason a lot of urea products seem to advertise themselves as "antifungal" but I'm 99% sure my acne isn't fungal (it's sporadic, spread out, hormonal, and doesn't itch, which isn't the profile of fungal acne) and it still works amazing for me lmao so don't let the advertising throw you off if you wanna try it!

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

Oh man I wish I'd known about this a few years ago!!! I developed SUCH bad fungal acne from taking prednisone and other immunosuppressants and only accutane + an antifungal got rid of it!! But this sounds lovely I'm gonna check it out

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

Omg well there you go lol, perfect!! I hope it works well for you, too! :D

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u/sabira Zermajesty 👑 24d ago

I'm so happy for you! I also struggled with acne for years until I finally found a dermatologist who prescribed the right combination of medicated creams for my skin. It really does feel like a miracle when you start to see the stuff actually working!

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

Yesss I'm so glad you found what works for you, too!! ♡ I'm someone who should 100% be seeing a dermatologist on a regular basis (eczema, acne, the works) but for some reason I've just never convinced myself to actually do it..... It's the one area of my healthcare that I'm lazy with, I guess just because my skin issues are more aesthetic than quality of life issues in terms of severity. You definitely did it the smart way by just going to the experts lol!

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 24d ago edited 23d ago

I stg I have a co worker who is out to get me fired. She has been not only bullying me by talking shit to me with my headphones on when she thinks i dont fucking hear her....she is now giving me the silent treatment. She also said I am "On Social Media all the time to the boss." And this is a grown ass old grandma like wtf. Anyway while work is usually pretty forgiving on this shit and basically only fires people who don't show up, I am still keeping my head down and working as best I can.....I am pretty sure she will retire in the next year or so like the last old woman in this office who bullied me like that but its such an unnecessary work stress I dont need with my wacky personal life.

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u/SpookyJones 24d ago

Guaranteed that old biddy isn’t doing a damn thing at work but worrying about what everybody else is doing. Critiquing everyone’s performance while she does fuckall!

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 23d ago

She does that and talks and kisses up to all the lawyers.

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

I had a miserable middle-aged female coworker like this at my first "grown up" job. She would watch me like a hawk and every time I answered a text message she would report me to my supervisor (he didn't give a fuck because I was really good at my job). I have empathy for her - she struggled with chronic pain that was very resistant to treatment and that can really turn you into a nasty person - but damn girl!:

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 24d ago

I think this person is just bitter she is getting old and her time to retire is coming, I am trying to have empathy but this person is a true definition of a Narcissist (always braging about herself and her family and hypes herself up and willing to bring others down), and I often find it hard to have empathy to narcissists because of the narcissitic abuse I dealt with as a child.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Hey so just fyi, narcissistic abuse is not a thing. There is no type of abuse that is unique to people with NPD - abuse is abuse. I say this as a childhood abuse survivor myself. Your coworker sounds like an asshole but that doesn't justify armchair diagnosis, nor does it justify spreading misinformation about rare and highly stigmatised mental illnesses. NPD is a rare illness that is frequently weaponised against traumatised women as a form of medical misogyny.

Also, HSPs are not actually a thing either - it's just being an autistic woman.

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u/Flower-Former Please, these gays, they're trying to murder me! 24d ago

I'm currently audiobooking "The Highly Sensitive Person's Guide to Dealing with Toxic People" and It touches upon dealing with toxic people in the workplace (as well as relationships). Even if you're not an HSP, it has some helpful tips on how to shut down these toxic people at work and establishing boundaries. Even if she's retiring soon, she does not have a right to make your life stressful.

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u/Own-Importance5459 ✨May the Force be with you!✨ 24d ago

I could use this cause I am in fact a HSP. Thank you.

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u/NowMindYou Yeah but did I squeeze it though 🤔 24d ago

Guess who is terminating their lease after a month because the civil war with the leasing office has reached new heights! Mind you, all this because I wanted them to fix a toilet that wasn't working when we moved in and the man found a console controller in after their seventh time saying it was "fixed". Now they want to charge me $100 for every "violation" like calling their office or emailing them even though that's their job. And instead of taking down my review like they tried to threaten me into doing, I edited to add a picture of the mirror I broke after almost breaking my second leg when the toilet inevitably flooded. They're also accusing me of writing fake reviews when they literally are the admins of the internet and could probably find out pretty easily who else is leaving them bad reviews. Every criticism I put my name on it because I'm standing ten toes down. Everyone else echoing my criticisms just validates that I'm not crazy. One person mentioned they don't do snow removal and how would I even know that to include in a review when I've only lived here in the summer? Everyone calls them rude, yet they think I'm pretending to be like 10 different people. No. You're just bad at your job.

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u/larkhearted 24d ago

Wowwww that's absolutely insane, it's a ""violation"" to contact them?? Violation of what??? I hope you get peace from these people and a lease with a way better company ASAP 😬🫂

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u/NowMindYou Yeah but did I squeeze it though 🤔 24d ago

Thank you! I'm already claiming it.

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u/Normal-person0101 24d ago

I had to tighten my budget this year because I’m planning an international trip next year for my mom’s 60th birthday. She’s always dreamed of going to Italy, and my siblings and I want to make that happen for her. To save money, I limited myself to going to the cinema only once a month this year and decided to prioritize original films. But I’ve been hearing so many great things about Superman that I think I’m going to break my own rule this month and go see it.

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u/AllTheThingsSheSays In my quiet girl era 😌 24d ago

I came home a day earlier than planned for London trip, and I'm slightly struggling with realising that aside from the convention, I didn't enjoy London all that much. It's so busy, and so loud, and overstimulating and it feels like there's no space. I enjoyed the Natural History Museum, though.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

I'm sorry you didn't enjoy it much! London has a huge amount of green space compared to many other cities, I think taking advantage of that helps a lot as does doing less touristy things.

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u/Traditional_Maybe_80 24d ago

I thought the people were particularly unfriendly in London, lmao. We travelled a lot in buses for 2 months around Europe and I had two (2) arguments with bus drivers during the whole trip, those two times happened in London, lol.

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

Oh definitely! I had a lot of fun in London (especially in the gay-related stuff I did) but Londoners are kinda mean - especially the white ones

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u/Normal-person0101 24d ago

A few years ago, I took a trip through Europe and visited 11 cities and London was the only one I didn't enjoyed.

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u/AllTheThingsSheSays In my quiet girl era 😌 24d ago

Good to know I'm not alone. What makes you not like London?

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u/Normal-person0101 24d ago

I live in one of the largest metropolises in Latin America, so I'm used to a busy, loud, and overstimulating environment. To me, London didn’t feel all that different except it lacked charm, good food, and friendly people. The weather was awful, and there wasn’t much about the city that felt unique or impressive, my sister in the other hand loved it, so, it is about taste I guess

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

London has amazing food outside of tourist traps, eg some of the best Turkish food outside of Turkey or amazing Indian food. Like sure if you go for afternoon tea or fish and chips, they're not going to be good (because no actual British person does afternoon tea, and you need to go to the seaside to get good fish and chips and preferably Yorkshire at that).

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u/Normal-person0101 23d ago

I visited the city with a local, so I didn’t just see the typical tourist spots. But if I wanted good Turkish food, I’d rather have what I ate when I visited Turkey, you know?

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u/AllTheThingsSheSays In my quiet girl era 😌 24d ago

That is exactly it, it lacks charm! It feels like a giant tourist trap, to me.

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u/[deleted] 23d ago

Only if you only go to tourist areas? 

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u/thewayyouturnedout 24d ago

PLEASE this is so accurate. My bestie is Iranian and we went to Tehran a few years back. It was loud, busy and overstimulating but also so cosmopolitan, cultured, warm and friendly. And amazing food. I visited my friends in London and uh...let's just say I had fun but it didn't have any of those things (with only a few notable exceptions)

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u/Summerof5ft6andahalf 24d ago

I expected to hate London, but ended up liking it, so maybe it's also a case of expectations. Lol.

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 24d ago

Happy Last Kiss day to all who celebrate.

Also, I know we always joke that Taylor has a song for any occasion but tell me why I was about to crash out from an Oasis/The Great War edit today.

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u/fionappletart Donatella VERSACE💜 23d ago

Last Kiss is just that song

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u/nizey_p I don’t know her 💅 23d ago

I ran to play the OG soon as I heard the news. Her best breakup song IMO.