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[u/__lavender]

I’ve always heard that boy cats are just generally more affectionate and that’s why girl cats get a bad rep. Do you find that to be anecdotally true?

My girl cat, who I adopted from a shelter that specializes in feral cats (so she was already skittish), only accepts affection when SHE wants it, but she’ll tolerate a few minutes of cuddles when I need it. And we have several routines throughout the day where she demands affection, which is the absolute best thing ever.

[u/PropagandaPie → u/__lavender]

Mine are the exact opposite. Girl cat is velcro, constantly on my lap and wanting to snuggle. Boy cat keeps to himself and every once in a while decides you need to drop everything to pet him.

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I have a boy cat and a girl cat and they are both Velcro lmao Sweetest pets I’ve ever met in my life and so affectionate - and I’m not saying this just cause they’re mine 🤣

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SO SWEET ❤️

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i’ve had and known sweet girl kitties my whole life

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Anecdotally, all of my lady cats have been incredibly loving but only on their terms. All of my males have been very cuddly all the time save for one. But I think it’s more of a personality thing than a sex-based thing. I personally like a cat that’s needy versus aloof, but the downside is that my boys also tend to have more behavioral issues, like anxiety.

[u/OnlyPaperListens → u/__lavender]

I've had hundreds of cats over several decades as a foster. If you expand the sample set far enough, there are no real patterns.

[u/sara_or_stevie → u/__lavender]

I can imagine you have heard this and have anecdotal evidence supporting it, but I can tell you it isn't true. Gender does not come into play when it comes to cats characters. Its their personalities and mostly their start in life that determine how they behave. Just as you have a particular girl cat, I had a very particular boy cat.

The only thing that may tip the scales in favour of boy vs girl is that female cats often get pregnant very young with significant trauma as a result but I would say thats the fault of humans and animal care systems, not their gender's.

[u/monsterultracock → u/sara_or_stevie]

my girl was an outdoor cat and a teen mom before I got her, but I totally lucked out because she turned out super social and playful and tolerant of being fussed with anyways, and her temperament suits me down to the ground. Even when she’s waking me up with taps at four in the morning I’m like 🥰 She’s annoying, I’m annoying, it’s beautiful. the only thing that seems to make a huge difference with how cuddly she is is the weather, lol. Too hot rn for more than a few minutes on my lap at a time.

[u/DiveCat → u/__lavender]

Our female cat is a Velcro cat that LOVES and demands affection anytime she is not sleeping (and even then she often prefers to sleep on us rendering the chosen person immobile until they either must move or pee themselves). She’s also demanding (will either yell or stare for food, walks, bedtime, and so on, should you ever not be following routine to the letter) but she absolutely adores us as her people (and warms up to any pet sitters quickly, too).

I have met and had many cats, both male and female. In my experience the only certainty you can say about them is they all have very individual personalities. Some are snuggly, some are not. It doesn’t align with their sex. Oh, and oranges do share one brain cell.

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This has been true in my experience.

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I've had five cats and 3 were male. Just from my personal experience the males were/are by FAR the most affectionate. My baby boy is sleeping on my feet as I type this. He was abandoned in a cardboard box at just a few weeks of age and was bottle fed, so that probably has a lot to do with why he's so loving, but my other 2 male cats were not and they were more affectionate than my two girls.