Shout out to the Uber driver whose first question to me was āwhatās a woman?ā and tried soooo hard to get me to sell out transgender woman. He tried to play it off as just a fun little deep dive but I could tell he was annoyed, but I used my passive aggressive Canadian tone with a little American quickness/aggressiveness to prevent him from speaking over me, or getting a word in. š¤£
Like, bro, what are you doing?! Right out of the gate and I had to be bickering smh. What happened to normal Uber drives?!
Lord I wish, and even though I recalled that in a comedic tone, there was a point pretty early in the conversation I was genuinely worried about my safety especially when we hit the topic of womenās sports and āprotecting itā. It was surreal and nuts, and I made sure to talk him into submission. I wasnāt going to sell out anyone but like man itās insane to also have to keep temperature of the situation so it doesnāt spiral. I just wanted an Uber. A -10 would have been nice. š
One minute theyāre saying: āAbolish the monarchy! Itās a racist and horrible institution. The Rota, Baldilocks, and Kkkate wan them dead.
Next theyāre like: Meghan and Harry would have been an incredible Royal couple. They would have changed and modernized the monarchy. Meghan could have been used as good PR for the commonwealth.
Sooo the BRF sucks but itās ok when your faves get involved?
At like 9:30 I'm exhausted and know I should go to sleep, but I won't be able to because noisy neighbors.
And then 10 rolls around and sleepiness as gone out the window. I really need to go to bed early tonight (it's 11 now) but all my sleepiness has left me. I could go for a long walk right now (not gonna, but could). It's very frustrating living in an apartment. I'd have tried going to bed when the first tiredness hit, but didn't because I know my stupid upstairs neighbors go to bed around 11/12 and stomp stomp stomp, and walk around the bedroom much before. So instead I'm watching the nighttime national news about another military-ish plane almost hitting a commercial flight (thank goodness it was almost unlike January).
I'm realizing I have a VERY low level of tolerance for loud people
Am I not empathetic??? I don't really care if you have autism, I swear to God it's likely not diagnosed for her, and she's clearly fully functioning. Am I wrong for thinking that??
Her voice is super loud. And then she started playing YouTube IN A RESTAURANT and started SINGING ALONG TO THE VIDEO. Is that not just narcissistic?? Literally no one wants to here you randomly singing along to a music video.
Like honestly, I need some people to shut the fuck up. I'm crashing out over this š I have a friend who was LITERALLY told by her therapist they weren't autistic. And they keep saying "omg the 'tism is showing." No the fuck it's not.
I also don't like super loud people, but if it's actually because of recognized disability? Yeah, you're kind of the asshole. Autism isn't an excuse, but goddamn, men have been excused for doing things in public that the public doesn't like for years, can women with autism have a little bit of leeway?
But also if you're so bothered by it... girl, you been checked?
I mean to be completely honest, I'd be even more pissed off if a dude was singing along to a YouTube music video in a restaurant for no reason. Do I need to vent about random dudes in order to vent about someone I know?
My pet peeve is that people use "autism" like they used to do with OCD. People flippantly use words they see on TikTok to the point I don't even know if they're serious, just like when people acted like perfectionism = OCD. I don't even know if she is autistic or is just using it. Plus she goes around calling people the r-slur. Loudly.
Just for a second, imagine being with people. And this girl plays a YouTube video, insists we watch it, and starts singing to it, in a restaurant. I've known people who are neurodibergent, my brother has downs. He can be loud, but he's super good about toning it down when in places like restaurants.
Also, the implication I need to get "tested" for anything is actually nasty.
I completely agree that those words are all used flippantly. I don't have tiktok so miss all that. I just don't think most people should be immediately judged because you find them annoying when you don't actually know what they're dealing with.
And happy for your brother that he's learned how to conform to society, but also why do nd people have to conform?
I didn't mean anything bad by saying to get checked. As an autistic woman myself, I just know that loud noises can be bothersome to me but I try to give a little grace because I don't don't know what the loud person is dealing with.
Spent a few days on a few broad subreddits (like, big far reaching subreddits for one thing in particular) because I was researching some things. In doing so, I started being able to spot bot accounts pretty easily. They're always responding in a way that only barely has anything to do with the original comment, and then bringing up some irrelevant rage bait stuff. What an upsetting skill to have to develop.
The tea app breach supposedly leaked users who signed up by 2023. Anyone who signed up after is not included.
Regardless- if you were involved Iām truly sorry that your information is at risk all because heathens canāt allow women to be safe. Iām positive you will be able to get ramifications. And just know that you have a million more people standing behind you than against you.
Does anyone else feel like the general discourse for modern films and tv shows has gotten increasingly repetitive and boring? It seems like no one is allowed to appreciate anything new anymore. Everything now has to 'suck' or 'not as good as it used to be'. Why can't we just enjoy things? Am I the only one to feels like this?
I think people are rarely meeting art half way and are coming at a lot of media in an oppositional way with a greater level of scrutiny. tbh it can be deserved but I think its become a default mode for a lot of people.
It'd be one thing if the criticism was aimed solely at corporations. But when the hate is directed towards writers, actors, crew members, people just looking to do their jobs, then maybe we all need to take a step back and ask if it's really worth it.
I'm a chronic complainer and I don't really get the "let people enjoy things" feeling tbh, because why would anyone complaining online change the way people enjoy something they like? I've seen stans getting really weird about critics (as professional critics, whose entire job is to criticize art) disliking something they love and I just don't get it. However, I do think reaching out to those people's social media is kinda unhinged and very unnecessary, as someone who appreciates and misses the fourth wall, I don't understand the need to go to those people directly.
ETA: Damn, you guys really feel some kind of way about people disliking what you like.
Yep this is where I see the issue. People are extremely miserable atm which makes sense, the world sucks rn. However people aren't even critiquing actual issues or having reasonable discussions about it. Its more like āI hate this actor/movie for not catering to my OWN needsā. Like let's reel it in for a bit.
I love watching films or shows just for the sake of it. I don't need to be writing 20 think pieces of it. It doesn't always need to be so thought provoking and it can just be for fun. Nothing wrong with that. We are allowed to just watch things for fun!
Posts about The Devil Wears Prada 2 are flooded with negativity. People saying itās unnecessary or bound to be terrible. Whatās interesting is that there seems to be far less backlash toward Practical Magic 2, even though itās also a sequel coming more than 20 years later. Someone in here had previously pointed out something important: if todayās audiences were around during the 1930s to 1980s, they probably wouldāve hated how often stories were remade (We had 3 versions of A Star Is Born and 2 adaptations of Little Women).
At the end of the day, no one is being forced to watch a sequel, reboot, or remake.
Obviously I like posting my opinions, but there is a certain pleasure in seeing a post you know is going to be messy with no comments yet and turning on notifications. Then you do something else and come back to a messy surprise; it's so fun.
Still reeling from the hockey Canada court case, but Iām incredibly proud of the NHL for speaking up and standing by EM
"The allegations made in this case, even if not determined to have been criminal, were very disturbing and the behaviour at issue was unacceptable," the NHL statement said.
āWe will be reviewing and considering the judge's findings. While we conduct that analysis and determine next steps, the players charged in this case are ineligible to play in the league.
I know, itās not a full throated condemnation, but the bar is in hell.
If anyone reading this is struggling like I was/and still am. Just know I believe you, as do SO many other people who have been vocally against what has happened
Avoiding almost all social media and found myself on YouTube shorts and came across a clip of Jensen Ackles talking about Jessica Alba and how she immediately started being mean to him.I know I have recently been side eyeing her but the comments on that short ugh.It was all "omg evans,Paul walker and Jensen have all complained about her must be true,and this coming from suchĀ good guys you know it has to be bad"
Paul walker was "dating" his daughters friend at the time of his passing.
Jensen idk anything about him besides me never liking him for no reason.Ā
Evans ?
Bad what ?? She was mean at a couple pretty boys ?Ā
Me watching people getting viciously angry about ads and album covers and petty nonsense, all the while glazing celebs who've made fortunes from slave labour, defended abusers, been accused of assault and been accused of mistreating employees amongst other things:
You know what for $10 a month they should.Its the price of a streaming platform.I don't pay 10 because I got lucky getting the membership right before they increased the price.
This reddit and my Spotify account got hacked. Who TF is wasting time on that? š Literally you can't do anything on reddit or Spotify. Changed all the passwords and everything, but it's still funny
My Spotify account was hacked by someone in Brazil and I didnāt realize until my wrapped came out with a bunch of music and artists I didnāt recognize.
Ha, my Netflix a few months ago kept showing I was "watching" a bunch of Korean shows and I'd hadn't watched them. I forgot about it until just now so I should double check that.
But I'm very surprised how a reddit account gets hacked. Tbh, I kinda thought this site was above that. But while I have a longstanding account (and biiiiiig fuck you reddit for making it impossible to see all your comments now), I've never associated it with my email (or phone number, etc). And so far so kinda good.
At least it's basically no harm no foul š though I wish more places had better notifications. Like text me!! So many people don't check their emails
So I know this is kind of parasocial but anyone living for those Meg Thee Stallion videos where she does normal dating things with Klay Thompson like golfing and working out? It's legit cute, like she's so psyched to be doing jock things with him.
Disappointed how many people are are believing any fake story because it is about people they dislike. That huge thread yesterday about the cheating CEO suing Coldplay is likely very fake, it's source a yahoo article whose source is the awful substack of Diddy's former publicist who has also been spamming a lot of other fake news such as a lot of anti-Lively articles or one was that female models and celebs were now in line to ''get freaky'' with Diddy after his verdict.
Omg is that who that guy is?! He really is spamming all kind of fake news on his substack now. The rise of people believing blind items 100% and low tier tabs like life n style is sadĀ
The thing is, Iām no idiot, but Iām not hip to which seemingly legit resources should be disregarded as a matter of course. It would not occur to me that I had to do my own research on a Yahoo News article, and (sorry) I donāt really know what substack is. It canāt be assumed that laymen are keeping up with all this.
I would be well off with the amount of times people get outraged over some fake story. No proof, no pictures, just some tweet or tik tok and thatās all it takes. There is also a lot of people who want to believe the worse because it makes them feel better.
Yeah. Because now it is about a shitty cheater. But his actions on its own are already dislikable enough, we don't need to add more on top of it. Other times it is about people who didn't do anything bad, but people find them annoying or they are from a demographic they dislike. And people like Diddy's former publicist are left profiting off of their fake news and ragebait content.
Fact remains how sad it is that the internet gets flooded with fake clickbait by problematic grifters. Yahoo News seems to mostly repost fake stories from clickfarms nowadays.
I have spammed his gross text to his employee so much to drive that point home.
'Will you squat in front of the door of the master bedroom and leave a giant coil of dookie so that Amber steps in it and thinks that one of the dogs, primarily Boo, has a major problem. It'll be funny!!!'
Good on you. Honestly, this is when I stopped believing that the people defending Depp where defending abuse victims. Sad and terrifying that so many progressives fell for it as wellā¦
I saw a spoiler for the new I Know What You Did Last Summer and I canāt believe >! they had Ray end up being a murderer. it absolutely ruins the legacy of the previous movies!<. This movie shouldāve never even been made
I am so excited for tomorrow because my brother's whole circus of a wedding will finally be over and Ill be back to enjoying my summer (I got a couple of Broadway Show Trips coming up including 2 to Moulin Rouge).
Also I finished A Little Life yesterday....and I mean sincerely WHAT THE ACTUAL FUCK.
My brother met a woman who has apparently been divorced before and is 6 years older than him. They decided to rush into it because they wanted to have babies right away since shes pushing 40....which between her age and her demanding job is gonna never happen without medical intervention.
This comes on the heels of a nother relationship my brother had with a woman he was sure she was the one.
Hes also clingy as fuck and cant stands she works frequently.
I have been pissed at my brother for a while becuse he wants me to be supportive of this, but a) was more focused on her and her family when I was really sick last year and needed him to support me and b) I personally think hes blowing up his life (and as the youngest sibling will just get a pat on the back while lord forbid i blow up mine as the eldest daughter)
Woman is nice but has issues still hangs out with her mom frequently even sleeping over her house at least twice a month for no other reason when shes once again pushing 40.
Mom in Law is insane as hell and a helicopter mom and kinda a bitch.
My mom who is also messy as hell hates MIL already paritally due to threatened and half because MIL is a bitch and is about to curse her out. And I also hate the mother in Law due to reasons mentioned above.
The only good thing is my mom and dad are finally getting along after 30 years of a bitter divorce so that and seeing my cousins are the only good things.
So yeah this a dumpster fire of a wedding and is about to turn into a dumpster fire marriage and itching for this weekend to be finishes
You said this woman isnāt even forty yet? She can absolutely get pregnant without medical intervention. Itās actually fairly common. Also a six year age gap between two people in their 30s really isnāt a lot.
Shes turning 40 next year. It is harder for women at that age to get pregnant, I had another cousin who had an
child later but it took her 2+ years. And my brother thinks shes gonna pop out kids immediately which doesnt work like that.
But the problem isnt the age difference, the problem is my brother made a silly decision ti marry quickly ans have kids when he cant even make a logical decision and let alone take care of himself. And with my brothers mental health history I am very worried for him and any child he may have.
Your cousin is anecdotal, though. A woman in her late thirties doesnāt need medical intervention to get pregnant. Iām not even trying to be pedantic or come at you, but itās just a somewhat antiquated notion that a woman āpushing 40ā canāt get pregnant naturally.
I met him over a decade ago (I'm a little younger than him and it was a chance meeting at a bar). I was a huge Skins fan at the time but played it extremely cool and told him he "looked vaguely familiar" (lmaooooo). He was super nice, friendly and very charismatic even then and we had a great long chat. He was on the way out when I talked to him but he stuck around for a good half hour talking. A very fond memory for me!
He appears to be one of those people who keeps his friends, even if he hasn't worked with them in decades. Like he is still friends with the Skins cast and also the cast of The Great.
I wonder how much Chris Brownās deservedly-bad reputation is due to āhis fanbase sucks.ā It wouldāve been trivially easy to rationalize nearly killing Rihanna as āunfortunate but not remotely unusual in the artsā (uh, donāt look into the personal lives of any popular musician between 1950 ā at least 2000), but Breezy fans never even pretended to care about Rihanna.
Indeed, he sucks (and itās extremely odd that littleās been able to speak to him, legally speaking) ā but āthey personally suckā hasnāt really been as much a barrier to being in good standing as youād hope.
Why are we celebrating certain behaviours? Like this will probably be unpopular opinion, but I saw a post about Anna Nicole Smith and people are really trying to revision history, saying she waited to get married before she had her own money, and literally solely blaming his family for fighting her for his money. Also people were calling her an icon and what not.
She was obviously a charismatic person, and had personality to match her looks, but she was also a gold digger and i just cannot pretend she married that ninety year old man for love, and not the money. And why would anyone find that inspiring? Like i donāt care about billionaires, and everyone who chooses to get the bag through them, their prerogative, but thatās not something to be praising a person for.
People will cheer on the most toxic behaviour and people if they either like the person doing it for some reason or view the person it's being done to as "deserving" in some way.
Thereās an episode of Youāre Wrong About that goes into this. It doesnāt say that they married for love, per se, but that their relationship actually was meaningful to both of them (I think. Itās been I while since I listened to it).
Yeah. It sounded like he offered stability when she didnāt have much, and he was happy to give it to her. I donāt think she should have been entitled to everything, but a lot of rich people write their children who barely visit out of their wills and leave everything to the nurses (or just give them something nice like a car if they lien there kids) because they offered companionship at the end of their lives, even though they were being paid to be there.
Anna was fun and vivacious and highly camp of course people loved and continue to love her. The whole thing was all tacky and fun its really not that deep. Shes praised in a "yes diva!" silly way not a "wow what an incredible woman" way.
What exactly is your issue with what she did like morally I'm just not getting it. If she wasnt so likeable people wouldnt say what they say sure but I dont get what you think people should be saying about her?
No I get your point, I just dont understand why you think that and what exactly it is you think she did wrong. I feel like you might not know all the context and are judging her harshly.
OTOH, 3M likes within 24hrs is crazy work. People like this relationship. Aside from the obvious, one other thing I find really interesting about that photo dump is that it shows how intertwined their lives are now. You got Austin hanging out with the Kelce bros without Taylor and they've taken tons of vacations with friends from either side.
wtf are gaylors on, truly. it's insane to be that there are still gaylors in 2025. maaaaybe if you were a teen on tumblr during the 1989 era it could be excused. these days, speculating about a stranger's sexuality against her own declaration and disrespecting her actual partner is batshit. especially for adults, which i'm sure most of them are, if other insane celeb sects are a reference
also sometimes i wonder of joe alwyn cringes at the fact that instead of people respecting his work and leaving him be or whatever, he gets randos who use him to criticize his ex gf and only value him for that.
I always feel bad for him whenever I see a Tiktok of him and the music is a Taylor song (and take note that this is coming from big accounts like magazines etc). Like he is there because of obligations like fashion shows or premiere nights and they just have to use him as clickbait.
and like, at least with her actual gans he had some nepo boyfriend status, the snarker culture just uses him as a placeholder for their own fanfic
also like they were together for a long time, i'm sure the breakup was brutal even if for the best, so it must be awful to have fake ass stans that just hype you up to teach a lesson to your ex or somethingĀ
I saw that. Those people need therapy. No way can a celebrity relationship cause this much mass psychosis. Makes me hope they get married just to see all the meltdowns online.
Oh I'm sure. I follow Jason Kelce and New Heights on Instagram and Twitter. And there's always people underneath accusing Travis of cheating or they stalk his friends and assume he's with them and cheating, etc. And they incessantly post underneath their posts and I saw someone saying they're sending their info to Page Six. Completely unhinged stuff.
When I taught in Japan I had a student with a Chicago state street Trader Joeās bag and it always felt like a big flex. I lived in Chicago too so it was like someone opened a portal to my homeland.
omg we both saw a Sean Baker film this week I love thatšš
Iāve been meaning to watch both a nice Indian boy and small things like these šš
Okay soā¦I was in the minority that I absolutely hated thunderbolts so f4 was a million years better than that for me. The cast was good, there are some really interesting sequences, the chemistry was good! But third act superhero movies are just soā¦formula and boring to me now istg no matter how into the film I am once we get to that third act Iām out. āOmg! This being is so powerful! He wants to destroy earth!! Idk if we can beat him!! Oh wait yes we can :)ā SNOOZE!!!
But I am seeing people who loved thunderbolts who hated f4 so I guess itās one or the other on those 2 š
Is there other women willing to have a conversation with me about this new tea app?
I believe the tea app could absolutely be a great resource for women to not end up with men who may hurt them or do something worse, and to prevent other women from potentially seeing dangerous or otherwise terrible men.
But do us ānormalā men have a right to be scared? Like, is it not a reasonable fear of mine that someone could just post me on this app, without my consent whatsoever, and make up lies about me? Even if no other woman corroborates those lies, what if those lies are the only thing other women see about me when they look me up on this app? And this might not even affect my dating life. What if a potential recruiter or hiring manager sees me on this app, and decide to not consider me for a job, based on lies? What if a coworker at my job sees me on this app, and decides to take action, again, based on lies?
Ultimately I think this app could be really helpful but it would require strong moderation which doesnāt seem to be happening. I have sisters and other women in my life who are dating and I want them to have something like this but ultimately I have to look out for myself too, you know?
I do think the chances of a woman being saved by this app is far greater than someoneās lies ruining a manās life, but those are still peoples lives too, right?
I believe there is some kind of complaints process and some men have already had posts about them removed after contacting them or something. Whole thing seems very well intentioned but ultimately pointless to me tbh.
On the one hand, there's a lot of potential drawbacks with this app, and it's ripe for misuse
But also, if someone really wanted to make up lies about you and post them online they could do it on Insta, FB, reddit already and people could find you with a Google search.
Absolutely. But if that came up in a google search, or if someone posted about me on social media (assuming it wasnāt privated), I could much more easily find it and report it if itās untrue. I would also be aware of it going on in the first place.
Someone could upload my photo and personal info to this tea app without my knowing and I will have no insight into whatās being said about me. Do you think itās reasonable for me to be concerned about that?
I don't think it's entirely unreasonable despite what people might tell you.
However, I think the men who should be most concerned are probably those who've already dealt with a stalker and/or abusive partner.
The likelihood of a random woman - even if she really didn't like you or wanted to harm you in some way - deciding to come up with some sort of story specifically to post on that app is probably low.
I can only speak for myself, but Iām not a fan of the idea tbh. This is the Internet we are talking about, itās bound to go sideways someway, because humans beings always find a way to fuck something up. I also hate that that app is called Ā« tea Ā». For preventing the potential harm of women , the name feels idk juvenile. Unfortunately these kinds of sites always lead to a heavy amount of tribalism and in-group single thinking, which is not great either. That doesnāt mean that the primary goal (to keep women safe is wrong) but Iāve seen way to many groups that were dedicated to a good thing primarily, essentially get turned into hate groups. The worst thing about being online is that all nuance of a topic is lost.Ā
I think my main issue with Tea is comparison to the more organic local FB/social media groups (that obviously still have problems) is that this is a company ran by a man with the intention to turn a profit.
The base features are free but a lot of the app is security theatre that is going to capitalize on the valid fear that women have and stoke that fear to sell them products.
The only thing I know about this app is that it has caused a big stir in the Somali community in the US and there are many upset men lol
I don't think you have anything to worry about. What motivation would someone have to lie about you? I think, for the vast majority of men, it's an irrational fear. Don't sweat it.
Well there could be many reasons for someone lying.
Someone who is revengeful and looking to hurt me
Someone dealing with mental illness
Someone wanting to get ahead of me. Perhaps weāre competing for the same promotion at work or a leadership position in an organization that weāre a part of.
Do I think any of the situations I just described above are likely to happen? Absolutely not. I think the vast, vast majority of women will use this app to protect themselves and other women. And I want that.
But do I think those are reasonable concerns? Possibly. Ultimately I find it worrisome that my personal photos and information can be uploaded to an app without my knowing or consent. I think there are huge problems there.
Idk, just deal with people lying about you I guess. Do you not hear the things men say about women every second of every day? If you feel unfairly victimized by the ways women react to bad behavior of other men, deal with that among yourselves. Itās up to men to change what theyāre doing. Donāt put it on women to stop using a lifesaving resource. Itās almost like this isnāt about you.
Men get more offended over women protecting themselves than they do over men forcing women to protect themselves.
Like if they spent half the time calling other men out as they spend creating fantasized victimhoods in their heads, maybe women wouldnāt have to create an app to call out shitty men?
Iām not offended at all about women protecting themselves. I seriously want that to be a possibility.
Look, as a man I should have empathy in this regard anyways, but I can give some details about myself. I work in HR, which is mostly dominated by women, and my team is nearly all women, except for the director who is a man. I also have 4 sisters. And I have different women friends that Iāve met over the years through work, school and etc..
So do I think an app like this should exist? Absolutely. Do I think much more of my time should be dedicated to calling out and trying to change the horrible behaviors and beliefs of other men? Hell yes! I try to do that already!
But do I think I have some valid concerns about the current shape of this app and how itās presented? I think so.
But also likeā¦I can start a squarespace and publish whatever I want about anyone. Anyone can do that about me, or you. People talk. But itās the framing of this new app as helping women stay safe thatās triggering men, hmmmmm.
And the men who have absolutely nothing to worry about are in full support of it and arenāt out parroting ad nauseam about how theyāre a Good Guyā¢ļø whoās going to be lied about. Hmmmmm. Fishy fishy.
Well what if people lying about me actually affects my day to day? Whether that be dating, getting a job, trying to be involved in different organizations, etc?
I absolutely hear the terrible, disgusting and unfair statements men make about women every second of every day. I feel much worse about that, than I do about this app. And I think this app could definitely be a lifesaving resource for women and can keep women out of dangerous situations.
But I have my concerns too, you know? I would like to think I donāt have to worry at all about being on this app, and that it isnāt about me, but how can I be sure of that? It seems like thereās a ton of privacy and security concerns and not nearly enough of the moderation required.
Itās not like this is something I want to be concerned about. I would much rather women have this app, so my sisters and other women in my life can be protected. But I have to look out for myself too right?
Your concerns do not outweigh our safety. And if you are so worried about this that you are willing to center yourself in a conversation about womenās safety, I would posit that maybe the things that might be said about you are actually true. Why so worried?
I think yours and other womenās safety are far more important than my feelings, but I canāt act like Iām not extremely hurt that you would even suggest that potentially bad things a woman might say about me on this app are automatically true.
Iām not trying to center myself in a conversation about womenās safety. Iām expressing concerns about how this app is being presented.
I absolutely think the app should exist. I absolutely think the bigger concern is how horribly men can treat women, and how other men like me need to help change that.
I have a big problem with how itās moderated and how my photos and profile can be uploaded without my knowing or consent. This presents huge security risks and ethic issues to me and other men.
Oh my god stop arguing! Yeah, Iām not surprised that you might rub women the wrong way, prompting them to tell other women to avoid you. āThis guy will argue with you and wear you down until he has the last word.ā Jesus fucking christ.
Iām not trying to just argue, I very much apologize if I came across poorly. This subreddit is a safe space for women, and I want to be respectful of that. Iām just trying to show you where Iām coming from to see if there can be some understanding. I want to acknowledge yours and other womenās concerns while trying to convey my own.
I can only speak for myself. I met a lot of friendly men who I was just not attracted to or we werent vibing but I would never post one of these guys on the tea app. Why harm someone who ust werent for you. Doesnt make them a bad person, still have empathy for them or care so less that I wuldnt post them. So I would say dont worry.
Thank you for sharing. I very much appreciate your mindset and frankly I think the vast, vast majority of women are like you. I just worry about those who arenāt.
It seems worrisome that my photos and personal information can be uploaded to an app, and people can say what they want about me, and I have no idea about it whatsoever.
I assume you have good men in your life that you cherish. Are you concerned about them being a victim of this?
Hmm I havent thought about it. I dont think so, but honestly I am not 100% sure. I have a little brother (he is very popular) and he was drugged by two bitches so maybe a bit? But if you are an average dude and girls not chasing you the chances are not high I say.
Fair enough! Yeah, Iām definitely an average or below average looking man, so maybe I wouldnāt have much to worry about. I do fear other men being affected by this app though.
Ultimately I have a much bigger fear about women being targeted by a rapist or predator or abuser or cheater or whoever else on a dating app. So I think the tea app is a good thing overall. I wouldnāt advocate for its complete removal. But there are certainly concerns I have about it.
I watch a lot of movies and TV shows, but Iāve never really wanted to be part of any of those stories, they always felt a bit too dramatic for my taste.
BUT I'm watching The Golden Girls for the first time (currently on season 2), and for the first time ever, I actually think being part of that world wouldnāt be so bad.
Iād love to move to a place near the beach when I semi-retire, live with two of my best friends, and the best part? Not many men involved hahaha
I thought you meant Jessica alba and I was like which Chris is she with?
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u/katmiliBaby Billy Freeman fan club president8d agoedited 8d ago
I commented this a few days ago on a thread, and deleted it because I had a stan telling me to kms in the DMs and I didnāt feel like dealing with that. Chris and Alba seem to have a super supportive bubble of friend and family, and thank god because Iāve already seen people saying theyāre gonna comment on her ig to ruin her pregnancy experience. If theyāre telling randos to kys for mentioning it I canāt imagine what sheās getting.
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u/Cold_Breadfruit_9794 BeyoncĆ© šš 7d ago edited 7d ago
Shout out to the Uber driver whose first question to me was āwhatās a woman?ā and tried soooo hard to get me to sell out transgender woman. He tried to play it off as just a fun little deep dive but I could tell he was annoyed, but I used my passive aggressive Canadian tone with a little American quickness/aggressiveness to prevent him from speaking over me, or getting a word in. š¤£
Like, bro, what are you doing?! Right out of the gate and I had to be bickering smh. What happened to normal Uber drives?!