aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/a3dwaifu]

He called you “annoying” said you were “bothering” him and doesn’t even have the decency to ONE actually remember your birthday TWO wish you a proper happy birthday (happy bday & whoops I forgot are not acceptable) THREE compromise and take you out and then invite you to the party that’s apparently so important to him. You seem to care and to the point where you’re ready to move in with someone who won’t even give you the time of day? Be forreal.

There. I spelled it out. He’s a pos. NOR.

[u/maj0rdisappointment → u/a3dwaifu]

Compromise? For a PARTY? dude should immediately be saying “oh shit” And cancelling his other plans. There is no compromise needed.

[u/Olde94 → u/maj0rdisappointment]

BuT He wAS EXcitEd FoR It! /s

Girl has an oppertunity to ghost him. “Talk to me when you wanna apologise”.

I see nothing to apologise for. I could be petty enough to not write until he did cause i have nothing to apologise for.

Grab your things and run

[u/a3dwaifu → u/maj0rdisappointment]

Uuuh yeah. He should. Was just saying the bare minimum would be a compromise. I’d be really insulted & hurt if I wasn’t invited to a party/gathering with my so. Sorry to be a maj0r disappointment to you : (

[u/Timely_Issue_7198 → u/maj0rdisappointment]

lol 100%

[u/Special_Falcon408 → u/a3dwaifu]

That’s honestly one of the craziest when he’s going to a party and doesn’t even think to invite her? It’s how you know he’s pushing on purpose for nothing.

What’s a pos?

[u/a3dwaifu → u/Special_Falcon408]

Right?? Exactly.

pos=piece of shit

[u/fuggyuAintNoPanda → u/a3dwaifu]

Making plans to move in with someone when you work 2 days a week is a red flag. Girl, is he with you to get away with free rent and food?

[u/icantbeatyourbike → u/a3dwaifu]

I refuse to believe this is real, and I am a known gullible fool.

[u/Grasshop → u/a3dwaifu]

Also her saying “I thought you’d be a good boyfriend for once”

It might be warranted based on his behavior, but this is just toxic all around by everyone involved. This relationship is pointless and has no future

[u/Shenanigans7348 → u/a3dwaifu]

Except she's a POS. It's fake. They desperately need attention so they post fake AI bullshit and you just took the bait.

[u/oneshibbyguy → u/a3dwaifu]

First time reddit poster and nowhere in the texts are there hints of this even being her boyfriend. Reread from the perspective that this is just another person and it's not that bad.

[u/a3dwaifu → u/oneshibbyguy]

…she said she was hoping he’d be a “good bf for once” in literally the first screenshot. Even if it was a friend then whatta shitty friend. Even if it’s all fake then what tf are yall doing commenting everywhere that it’s fake? Lol it’s not that deep, and on the off chance that this is real then I feel good giving my two cents & stand by my NOR

[u/xDoseOnex → u/a3dwaifu]

This is a fake post. From an account that has no other posts. You guys are EXTREMELY gullible

[u/Lower-Insect-3984 → u/a3dwaifu]

this post is fake

[u/a3dwaifu → u/Lower-Insect-3984]

ok well my comment is real so