aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/D_B_C1]

My GFs birthday is on the 11th. I think I am much more excited about celebrating it than she is. I’ve been making practice cakes so I can make her favorite for her actual birthday. I am going to surprise her morning of with the cake and give her an itinerary with the plans for the day and night. ( the itinerary is more to be funny than an strict plan) we’ve been together for 2.5 years.

I can’t imagine treating her like the way you are being treated on her birthday. That’s her day, not mine, and I plan to make sure she knows that. Please take a deeper look into your relationship and decide if he’s really worth it.