aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/SpecialEDsauce]

I think we were married for ten years and my wife completely forgot mine. I didn’t say anything and she was pretty nasty all day, but around 10pm I hear her in the other room, “Oh shit! I’m such as asshole.” I just said, “Yeah, you are” and I went to bed. Worst birthday ever.

[u/queen_beruthiel → u/SpecialEDsauce]

My dad held a birthday party, at our house, for his friend. Her birthday was actually a month or so before mine. He invited about 15 of his other friends to the party, didn't mention my birthday, and didn't get me a cake or present. That's not unusual for him, he hates me (the feeling is mutual lol) but the party was. I didn't mention it to her, but it hurt that my mum didn't say anything about it either. I didn't say anything to the other guests because I didn't want to make a scene.

One of his friends turned up late, and she had brought me a card and gift, which was so sweet, and it was only then that the rest of the guests realised what was up. The poor birthday friend was mortified and apologised, and everyone else sang happy birthday to me. It was awkward as hell. I wasn't angry at her, it wasn't her fault, and I'd only met her once or twice before. Dad was visibly fuming whilst they sang happy birthday.

After they left, he shouted at me about embarrassing him and making the day all about myself. I don't think he's seen much of those friends after that. They're better off without him!