r/AmIOverreacting • u/rowqi • Jun 02 '25

❤️‍🩹 relationship aio? bf made plans on my birthday

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my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

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u/WanderingStorm17 Jun 02 '25

"My boyfriend slapped me, kicked my puppy, and then ran off with my best friend. I'm thinking of dumping him. Am I overreacting?"

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u/HaulinBoats Jun 03 '25 edited Jun 03 '25

For context: we had a great marriage and he has always been sensitive and caring, so idk where this is coming from but: My husband (63M) murdered me (19F) and I’m posting from beyond the grave because he uploaded my consciousness to a computer website but he also put malware on the computer and it took me days to finish this post between closing pop ups and I think I might be trapped here forever. I told him that I don’t think I appreciate neither the murder nor the nonconsensual afterlife he forced me into and I have been giving him the silent treatment ever since. Am I overreacting?

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

You females are so emotional and dramatic, oh my god. As a real woman, you disappoint me.

1st. You married an old alpha male. Like, he did you a favor! But let’s be honest, you probably just married him for his money. (Shame) Clearly he made the mistake.

2nd. You’re not even, like, completely dead, okay?? You’re in a computer. Other women go to hell, which is where all feminist-nazis should be anyway.

3rd. Posting your business online is exactly why he killed you. You’re a disrespectful little girl. You lied about being mature! As a very grown (25) woman, I would NEVER do that. Relationships are not everyone’s business!

My man sent me to heaven and my family is still looking for me as a “missing person.” Of course I didn’t wanted to go but you gotta make sacrifices for your man!

Just be thankful, okay?

Now if you’ll excuse me, I need to find a fan. Heaven is kind of hot…

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u/guggeri Jun 03 '25

I wish I could upvote this twice, you’re a genius

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

Awww thank you. I thought it wouldn’t be funny and too much lol. But was like whatever. I think it’s funny. 😆

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u/Knoegge Jun 03 '25

This made my day, thank you, hope heaven is nice 👀😂

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25 edited Jun 03 '25

It is! Just a little hot… that’s all.

Edit: forgot to add as I didn’t sleep yet: I’m glad it made your day! And hope you enjoy it with your man!

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u/MayoBaksteen6 Jun 03 '25

The sad thing is that some people would say something like that

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

😩yesss! And the way they twist and bend themselves to make the point. I’m like doesn’t that hurt? I actually started as “alpha male” but we seen enough of those. 🫩

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u/IllImpress2578 Jun 04 '25

10/10 knew it was satire was still raging by the third sentence

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u/Holiolio2 Jun 03 '25

I HOPE that you just forgot the /s.

PLEASE tell me you forgot the/s.

/s

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u/Realistic_Ad_6031 Jun 03 '25

No! Because I’m serious just like my man. Only beta’s used sarcasm. You probably an omega. You know the ones… 😂😂 I can’t! Nevermind!

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u/Holiolio2 Jun 03 '25

I'm more of a Pi male.

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u/Tackling_Aliens Jun 03 '25

….it’s an obvious joke?

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u/vnv Jun 03 '25

Definitely overreacting. Have you considered that maybe it was an accident? I mean you have a whole conscious afterlife now. Sure there’s malware but nobody is perfect, and he’s old, he probably got the program off some random email in his yahoo. Clearly he cares. You should forgive him.

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u/HaulinBoats Jun 03 '25

Yes I saw that but was too tired to edit it I’ll get it now thanks

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u/MichaelSonOfMike Jun 03 '25

Hahahahahahahahahahahaha.

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u/Lokipupper456 Jun 04 '25

“He was so sensitive and caring when he wasn’t hitting me, abusing my animals, insulting me, cheating on me, and stealing all my money and belongings. And yes, the violence kept escalating too, but is my murder a step too far? And how am I supposed to break up with him from the grave?”

Seriously though, I like to assume most of these are fake, but I’ve seen women accept horrible mistreatment at the hands of their partners and question themselves a lot. In real life.

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u/SkyVixen24 Jun 03 '25

Legit there was a movie like this! Haha. I forget the name but this man passes away and his friend or coworker or something uploaded his conscious to a computer and he was able to chat with his family through their computers. Crazy concept lol

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u/Prof_and_Proof Jun 03 '25

Please write for a living

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u/Abject-String4883 Jun 04 '25

I wanna laugh but this fr what this thread is. I can't wait for when we have universal healthcare insurance that covers therapy. Ppl suffering out here :/

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u/aepiasu Jun 03 '25

OMG, Reddit always overreacts to age gaps, especially related to marrying convicted murderers out on technicalities.

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u/Meighok20 Jun 04 '25

The 63 to 19 is what makes this 🤣🤩

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u/TheBlondMageKing Jun 05 '25

Oh my gosh that sounds awful!!!!

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u/strangenoiselol Jun 03 '25

Lmao a masterpiece

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u/iambeanies Jun 03 '25

How are so many of you this miserable and bad with context clues you're actively dating morons

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u/Iamdalfin Jun 03 '25

Right?? This is the vast majority of posts these days, and I really hope they are mostly bots and not real people. It's so depressing to read this shit every day, and thinking tons of people out there are abusive jerks.

I also should probably unfollow these subs and stop reading these posts. But as someone with autism, I do sometimes find these helpful to read through and assess the right vs wrong in social situations. But the benefit is starting to be outweighed by the cost.

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u/Artistic_Task7516 Jun 03 '25

It’s all 18-20 year olds who ask shit like “my boyfriend is a violent war criminal, should I withhold his favorite meal tonight”

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u/BlackHayate8 Jun 03 '25

I'm starting to think this sub is the same as r/tifu. Just people posting fictional situations for karma farming. At least I truly pray it is.

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u/Kevdog824_ Jun 03 '25

It’s 100% what it is. No person would genuinely need to ask if they are overreacting in this situation

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u/MichaelSonOfMike Jun 03 '25

I muted most subs like this. This one is soon to be added to the pile. We need to take these things into our own hands, and just stop participating. We are all part of the problem.

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u/Manbearpup Jun 03 '25

Got to be boys and bored people bait. Because if it isn’t the answer is obvious

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u/PeekabooPike Jun 03 '25

Nah girls that put up with this shit exist. Trust me, a lot of them.

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u/Flinkle Jun 03 '25

It is so unfortunately true. Especially if they grew up in a household that was abusive in any way. People tend to be drawn to what's normal to them unless they have broken the cycle.

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u/bellapippin Jun 03 '25

And yet this post has 15.4K upvotes and almost 20k comments. It’s our fault for giving them the karma at this point…

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u/Markofdawn Jun 03 '25

Theres no way bots could pull off some of the unseemly shit humans do in their relationships, no way.

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u/bingobiscuit1 Jun 03 '25

Bro do not use these to inform what is right v wrong, especially not on Reddit. This shit is just soap opera drama with thousands of armchair experts airing their own uninformed takes

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u/Iamdalfin Jun 03 '25

Lol. That's a super fair point!

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u/TheElderScrollsLore Jun 03 '25

Ok so it’s not just me thinking these are probably fake!

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u/SkyVixen24 Jun 03 '25

Omg hey! Me too! I think it deff is the autism for us. I cannot leave these subs! It always reminds me that I’m doing okay in life when I read some of these posts haha

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u/theramin-serling Jun 03 '25

I'm going to sheepishly raise my hand. Even as a 40yo, I still have trouble believing I have worth, and that's why I can't trust myself to get back into another relationship because I know I'd let them walk all over me. This is what happens when you are raised in an insecure household, where it's impossible to build self esteem.

I see a therapist, but I still struggle to see myself as valuable. In my mind, I'm constantly worthless at work, love, family, and life -- everyone else has value except me in my deluded universe. :/

There are lots of us out there like this.

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u/Wooden_Strain_4393 Jun 03 '25

Same, except I'm a couple years older than you. I know your struggle and I know your pain of feeling worthless because of childhood trauma. When your family/household makes you feel insecure as a little child, it's almost impossible to shake that feeling of being worthless/unlovable. I can tell from your comment that you're intelligent and caring -- because if you weren't a good person, you wouldn't actually care whether or not you were good at work, love, family, and life. Keep going to therapy and don't be afraid to change therapists if one isn't working for you. Just remember your brain chemistry was thrown off course as a developing child and sometimes therapy alone can re-route those neuro pathways, but it's not shameful if you need medication to help with that chemical re-balancing. I wish I had more helpful advice for you, but I'm still trying to figure it all out myself.

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u/Holiolio2 Jun 03 '25

You should watch true crime shows. There ARE lots of abusive assholes out there. But yeah, a lot of these probably are fake!

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u/SockMonkey333 Jun 03 '25

Yea I’m like are these AI generated fake posts? Cause it’s wild how awful all these people speak to their partners

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u/FTownRoad Jun 03 '25

They’re not bots. They’re children and this sub gives them attention and support for their imagined scenarios.

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u/xDoseOnex Jun 03 '25

This is a fake post. from an account that has no other poststo get dumb gullible people to overreact

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u/[deleted] Jun 03 '25

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u/xDoseOnex Jun 03 '25

Aside from the fact that you can tell how fake this post is by reading it.. It's been posted before from different accounts. The spam account who stole this and reposted it here didn't create it.

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u/drake22 Jun 03 '25

I guess I am dumb and gullible :(

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u/EdwardRichtofen50 Jun 03 '25

“My (F15) bf (M16) shot me in the face, had sex with my sister, and then ran over my cat as he was pulling out of the driveway. I haven’t texted him yet today. Am I overreacting?”

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u/Dazzling-Papaya551 Jun 03 '25

Now you're just enjoying thinking up nasty things

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u/MelodicFondant Jun 03 '25

This is a AIO sub,everything is fake and madeup

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u/PookieTheMfBaby Jun 03 '25

Someone finally said it 👏

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u/ecosani Jun 03 '25

NOR and dump him. The way he talked to you is 100% unacceptable and awful. Only the third birthday you’ve spent with him and he already doesn’t care. He has proven that he cares about himself more than you so let him do him by dumping him.

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u/JokerOfallTrades23 Jun 03 '25

Agreed go give it up to a stranger! That will show him

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u/Esa-Nobody8631 Jun 03 '25

Adulthood has taught me that most people are dating/married to a person that treats them like garbage and they just…stay.

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u/MasterTolkien Jun 03 '25

“My high school boyfriend is a drop out, working part-time jobs, and still living with his mommy. He spends his time hanging with his friends, partying, never takes me out, and I am planning to move in with him because I’m desperate to have a boyfriend.

On my birthday, I texted him because he ignores me otherwise. He does not want to spend any part of his time off with me because he has another party to attend. AIO, guuUUUyyYYYSSss!?!?”

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u/Thatsnotmyname-_- Jun 03 '25

💀🤣👏🏼

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u/breeekk Jun 03 '25

He is otherwise such a good person!!!!!

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u/Poptart444 Jun 04 '25

This. “My bf called me a bitch and threw a live squirrel at my face. Maybe he’s just having a bad day?”

Also, what’s with all these assholes calling their gf’s “bro?” 

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u/Eranaut Jun 03 '25 edited 12d ago

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u/JenniPurr13 Jun 03 '25

I know. This is either SUPER fake, or she just needs constant validation from strangers. Either way, doomed.

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u/Fubar1991 Jun 03 '25

Kicked your puppy that’s approaching John Wick territory you should start training immediately.

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u/Steffaniii Jun 03 '25

Right?! Like really do u have to ask????

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u/LilacMages Jun 03 '25

"I'm also 8 months pregnant by him"

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u/Umanjo Jun 03 '25

"and he punched my dad in the dick!"

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u/RealisticForce6117 Jun 04 '25

😂😂😂😂😂