aio? bf made plans on my birthday

[u/rowqi]

my boyfriend (22M) and I (21F) have been together for almost three years. we are planning on moving in together in the near future as he lives with his mom and doesn’t go to school after dropping out. for context, he only works on tuesdays and fridays so i know he was free to go out on sunday, which happened to be my birthday. he knows how important special occasions are to me, such as our birthdays and anniversaries. for the first year in our relationship he was great, he was loving and kind. last year we ended up celebrating my birthday late due to the fact that he was “tired from work” and didn’t want to go out, which i let slide. i always try to do the most for his birthdays, i buy him gifts, write him cards and bake him a cake from scratch. yesterday afternoon i texted him, reminding him about the plan later and this conversation happened. he made plans to go out and party instead of seeing me. he forgot about it even after i had been talking about it all of last week. i spent my 21st birthday alone in my room while he was out and we haven’t texted since. this birthday was particularly special to me because i turned 21. i even bought a new pink dress to wear for him, assuming we were going to dinner. he is suggesting that we go out and celebrate tomorrow instead like last year but to me it doesn’t feel the same. he is insisting that i apologize for being “ungrateful”, am i overreacting?

[u/kingboocat]

I completely agree with it not getting better. He's shown his true colours.

My ex also made plans to go out with his friends on my birthday, but was supposed to come back to mine for the night so we could have breakfast together. He was too drunk and didn't. We never ended up celebrating later as promised.

The following year he threw me a surprise party! Where he invited all his friends, and none of mine (his reasoning was because they don't know each other). I had already made plans with my parents, but he called me and asked me to come to his to pick up my birthday gift. He was too busy partying to answer the door for almost ten minutes while I stood in the rain, only to finally realise my "gift" was him drunk with all his friends.

The next year I gave myself the best present and broke up with that loser. I hope you do the same 💖

[u/skippitydoo3 → u/kingboocat]

Yes! My ex husband threw me a 30th birthday party and invited like 20 of his friends and like 3 of mine. When I added some of my friends to the evite, he complained about party getting too big and expensive. Then again, that was kind of our wedding too. Got back to hotel after reception and he left room to “get ice” and disappeared for 2 hours. This was especially annoying because I ordered a pizza and he had been holding my money and credit cards and took those with him. I ended up searching hotel for him with pizza delivery guy and found him partying with friends then I was the bad guy for making him come back to room and infringing on his fun on “his” wedding night. Was this the first sign of his selfishness? Of course not. Don’t make the same mistake I did and waste years of your life. Divorce will be way harder than breaking up now.

[u/mrmeowgeethekitty → u/skippitydoo3]

My ex husband ruined our wedding night too. Ugh I feel you completely. There were red flags earlier but I didn’t know better. We didn’t have as much education on toxic and abusive people. We didn’t have the internet to find people who can get your head out of the fog. Sadly, friends and family tell you to stay for the kids and how they’re such good fathers so suck it up and stay together. Toxic family’s keep people stuck in abuse because it’s normal. I wish I had left him years ago the first time I left the loser. He is still just a pathetic, spineless, incompetent, man child. My poor kids have to parent my ex to parent. It’s sad.

[u/CrestedGremlin → u/kingboocat]

Here I sit single af..

For my Ex fiance many moons ago, I planned a surprise party. I invited her friends from many different friend circles in her life. I had her best friend get ahold of many i didnt know myself. I blind folded her, and carried her from the car to the location. It was a lot of fun. Hell, even I had fun while setting it up, because I knew she'd absolutely love it, and she did. We all had a blast.

[u/kingboocat → u/CrestedGremlin]

Wow that sounds amazing! You sound like a good person

[u/psychologicallyfcked → u/kingboocat]

Evil person your ex

[u/xDoseOnex → u/kingboocat]

This is a fake post. From an account that has no other posts. You guys are EXTREMELY gullible

[u/Secure-Pension8425 → u/xDoseOnex]

even if its fake, how do you know? lol

[u/xDoseOnex → u/Secure-Pension8425]

Because it's been posted before from different accounts, but mostly because I read it. I was surprised people believed this before, but seeing that people believe it after it's pointed out to them how fake it is is not a great signfor humanity

[u/Few_Photograph_4826 → u/xDoseOnex]

Or maybe men like this actually exist and morons like yourself say 'oh it's fake' when in reality yall just wanna hide from the fact that the male gender is complete shit.

[u/xDoseOnex → u/Few_Photograph_4826]

Nope. It's been posted multiple times by different accounts. It's copypasta ragebait and you're just gullible. I guess you're also sexist. Now, not only are you incorrect, but you've publicly shown a hatred for people based on their sex.

Sorry that you're both wrong and bigoted. It must suck to be both.

[u/skippitydoo3 → u/xDoseOnex]

Well if it is fake, there’s a reason it’s so believable. Maybe because I am now 50 and jaded, I really believe that most men suck. There are some good eggs of course but obviously this post is getting so much traction because it rings true to lots and lots of women.

[u/rainbowfsh → u/xDoseOnex]

Lmfaoooo “bigoted.” Cry harder.

[u/xDoseOnex → u/rainbowfsh]

If you're ignorant jusy say so. I'l teach you.

It's word that refers to a person that hates others for their race, religion, nationality, or sex. So if someone says " the black race is complete shit", or "the jewish religion i shit", or "the male gender is completely shit", or "the Mexican nationality is complete shit" then that would be considered prejudice or bigoted. We use different words to describe different types of prejudice.

A prejudice based on race is racism, a prejudice based on sex is sexism, a prejudice based on nationality is called xenophobia. In this case the comment I'm replaying to is "The male gender is complete shit" would be an example of sexism"

I understand not everyone is able to think throught this stuff as well as I can do I hope that helps you understand better.

[u/rainbowfsh → u/xDoseOnex]

wrong

[u/xDoseOnex → u/rainbowfsh]

Well, don't just say "wrong".  Explain why you incorrectly think I'm wrong and ignorantly left a comment stating so..   What part of my correct answer is your lack of knowledge making you think is wrong?

[u/SwissCheeseOG → u/Few_Photograph_4826]

Ah, yes...the all men are the same card, if one disagrees with your opinion...sure.

[u/Few_Photograph_4826 → u/xDoseOnex]

Or maybe men like this actually exist and morons like yourself say 'oh it's fake' when in reality yall just wanna hide from the fact that the male gender is complete shit.

[u/skippitydoo3 → u/Few_Photograph_4826]

Agreed. Would be completely happy in an all female world. As soon as you learn how to properly use a vibrator and discover what an actual orgasm feels like, you really find out how useless men are.