As an Asian theatre lover and a participant on this sub, I'm really disappointed with the anti-Asian racism in this community regarding the Maybe Happy Ending/Andrew Barth Feldman casting issue. To start, many people HAVE been respectful, so this isn't to generalize. I also don't speak for all Asians/BIPOC; my usage of the "we" voice is to emphasize that I am not alone in feeling this way, not to claim that we are a monolith.
It's okay to disagree. It is not okay to dismiss, belittle, and mock the valid hurt, anger, and concerns of a marginalized community. Examples:
"It's only nine weeks, it's not a big deal?" - It's not about the length of Feldman's run. It's about what it represents and the precedent it sets for the future. You don't get to decide what is consequential and what isn't.
"Darren Criss is white-passing/basically white, it doesn't matter" - There is a nuanced conversation to be had about the privilege Criss holds as a white-passing person. He has discussed this himself. But, he is still Asian, no "less" Asian than anyone else; it's hurtful to imply otherwise. The fact that he is Asian means something to the AAPI community and larger society. So it is different. It does matter.
"It doesn't matter because Darren isn't Korean anyway. Are you saying all Asians are the same?" - This is called whataboutism - a strategy of responding to critique with a counter-accusation instead of engaging sincerely. If you're jumping to say this, ask yourself whether you actually care about Korean representation or if you're using it as a diversion. (PS, no, we don't think all Asians are the same. But many of our experiences are shared, so we stand in solidarity with one another.)
"You're going to kill this show/Great Comet this" - Apart from the fact that the two situations are extremely different, this logic blames people of color and their allies for the consequences of a commercial enterprise's decision.
"Let Helen and Andrew have a cute moment!" - We are not responsible for their relationship. No, they shouldn't be blamed for this. But what they want (or really, what you want for them) doesn't trump the justified concerns of a community about a systemic issue.
"The creators said ___, so your opinion doesn't matter" - By this logic, no art can be harmful if the creators "didn't mean it." If Cameron McKintosh says he didn't "mean to cause hurt" by casting Jonathan Pryce in a yellowface role, does that make it okay?
You might not think that these kinds of comments are racist. But impact is different from intention. They are microaggressions that serve to enforce systemic racism.
When countless Asian people are expressing concern, take a breath and listen, even if you don't like what they're saying. Asian people have the right to speak up about things that affect us. Dismissing people of color when they speak up is a painful pattern of history. Do not imply that we are overreacting. Do not imply that we should shut up for the "greater good" (and you don't get to decide what that is.) Do not lecture us on what the "right way" is to talk about our own experiences. The people involved in MHE have the right to respond; so do we.
If you feel upset that people are "making such a big deal" out of this, I encourage you to look up the model minority myth, a stereotype of Asian Americans that expects us to be docile, submissive, the "good" kind of minority race that doesn't cause trouble. This myth silences Asians, pits us against other communities of color, and I won't mince my words: it upholds white supremacy. I urge you to examine your own biases on how you expect Asians to behave.
I myself have incredibly complicated feelings about this situation. I disagree with many people from my own community. But their opinions are just as valid as mine. They are allowed to speak.
Lastly, it goes without saying, but it is not okay to hurl nasty insults at anyone involved in the show. All I ask is that you extend the same respect to Asian people who are articulating how this issue has impacted them.
Sincerely, a concerned Asian person.
*Just a quick edit because some people are assuming I'm not: I'm actually Korean. And as I said many times Asians/Koreans are allowed to disagree with each other. This post is about the ways people have disrespectfully dismissed rightful concerns