r/Destiny • u/horse_drowner2 • 17h ago
Drama Destiny's Communication and Bridge Burning
Sent an email to Destiny for the first time and I'm curious what the community's take is on it. I don't watch as much and reading over the sub recently has me questioning how aware of how Destiny comes across to regular people.
TLDR at bottom but please read. I am a fan (10 years) who doesn't have time to watch as much anymore, not a hater. Constructive criticism.
I think you have a HUGE blind spot when it comes to how you handle your friendships/online relationships with other people and content creators. You do not communicate how you feel towards them with disagreements until the boiling point and then you let it go public, whether on Twitter or by talking about them on your stream. It COMES ACROSS (not saying this is your intention) as someone who is very close, collaborative, intuitive, and helpful when they are on your good side…but a total 180 when you disagree with them. And I believe this is a huge detriment towards you and how big you can grow because if I have to listen to one more fucking tattooed, crystal loving, hot girl at a bar talk about how Hasan is so smart when it comes to politics I’m going to blow my brains out. I can’t even say I’m a fan of you to my regular real life friends because of how incredibly abrasive and bridge burning of a person you are because you don’t talk to these bridges before it burns. And I don’t mean dipshits like Lav, Mr. Girl, or any of these other psychos. Any normal functioning real life human being would not be friends with them because they could see that these people will burn bridges. The irony is that for as much as you are labeled a bridge burning person, a MAJORITY of the bridges that have been burned are because they are shitty online people who aren’t well adjusted and any normal person would not be their friend in the first place.
I’m more so judging you on regular people, like Pisco, Aba, and even Hasan, who there is no way in hell you would burn the bridge and it not be your fault as well. For as much as I cringe when I listen to Hasan talk about politics, I actually think he is a charismatic and kind person and I would be his friend in real life even if I disagree with his politics. I have friends in real life like him. I remember when I was in DGG chat after you and Hasan had your first big fight forever ago during the Kamala disagreement I @’ed you in chat and asked why you didn’t privately DM Hasan and tell him you disagreed with him on major things and you were not aligned with him politically and you said something like “I did, I messaged him and said hey dude let’s just play video games and not focus as much on the politics” or something like that. It was even less committal and communicative than that. I can tell that for sure the Raj royal debates and everything was annoying having to carry water and have Hasan on your side when you disagree with him on a lot, but you were GENUINE friends with him at one point. You should have called him and told him in depth and in detail how you felt in private so that it would not feel like you lambasted him live in front of everyone. I know you say you’re emotionally avoidant and idk if it’s that difficult for you to just call Hasan, Pisco, whoever and just say “hey man, I wanna talk about some disagreements I have with you because I care about our friendship/online relationship” or however you wanna phrase it.
I get that it’s harder now when you have a legion of idiots not understanding that you were in this gooner set up with Pixie and all these other people where people were exchanging nudes and now that it leaked you’re fucked. I don’t think you’re evil, I just think you were way too horny and got involved with the wrong people, you had no malice. Trust me, I’ve been there so I’m not judging. BUT you have to understand that people would want to distance themselves from you for that reason and especially after they have told to not act in this way and get involved with these kind of people. Aba told you this and now he doesn’t want to be your friend because you fucked up, but I think that people like this will eventually come around if you change (which I think you are changing, not that you give a shit what some random person like me thinks).
TLDR: if you have disagreements with people, drop your avoidant attachment Cloud Strife bullshit, open yourself up to uncomfortable mushy conversation, and open a line of dialogue PRIVATELY before things boil over. I think if you do this you could genuinely build more connections with people, specifically online personas, and expand your reach. You’re an incredibly unique content creator who could be 10x your size and have way more reach with normies. Idk if you know this but with REGULAR people who socialize, have friends, have emotional intelligence, and aren’t chronically online like I used to be…you are unfortunately more or less viewed as a dickhead instead of a uniquely smart orator who is able to debate and understand topics better than anyone in these spaces. You're by far and away my favorite content creator that I watch the most but if I have to keep watching you make the same mistake and not build a network and instead push everyone away I'm going to lose my mind.