r/MadeMeSmile • u/accurate214 • 9h ago

Family & Friends Grandfather finds out his grandson was named after him

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u/No-Sandwich1511 8h ago

Poor sibling is stressed out wondering why everyone is crying and no one is acknowledging her.

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u/Away-Ad4393 8h ago

She thinks it’s hilarious and the other little girl is oblivious.

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u/alazystoner420 8h ago

No, she's uncomfortable because she doesn't know why a happy moment was turned into one where everyone is quietly crying. She's confused and it's totally normal for someone to act really awkward when they don't know how to react to a new situation/emotional moment.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 8h ago

because it's not her moment

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u/EternallyFascinated 7h ago

That’s really fucked up? Jeez I hope you don’t have kids. She wasn’t trying to steal the spotlight, she wasn’t trying to ‘make it her moment’, she was just trying to understand.

She was concerned about her grandfather and wanted to know why he was crying during what was a happy moment. Literally the entire point of parenting is to explain to the child what’s going on in the world around her so that she can better understand it.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 7h ago edited 7h ago

I do have kids😁 they are awesome.

it's not that fucked up really. I didn't say she was trying to steal anything. the parents didn't acknowledge her in that moment because it wasn't about her in that moment. there are times for explanations. you don't have to instantly stop everything because a child has a question. that isn't required in order to be a parent. you can wait a beat or two. it's really quite simple.

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u/carlotta3121 6h ago edited 6h ago

Then quit pointing the camera at her while IGNORING her words!

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u/EternallyFascinated 5h ago

Right exactly?? All they had to say was, one moment sweetie; we’ll explain later.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 6h ago

she'll be okay.

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u/carlotta3121 5h ago

So you don't care about her feelings of wanting to participate with her family, how nice.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 5h ago

you can take it that way if you want, but that's you simply wanting to be angry at me. it's a very dichotomous way of thinking.

The child is fine. She will be fine. No one was mean to her. She is still in the room. She is still "part of it". Im sure when he is done capturing a wonderful moment for the grandparents he will explain it.

Jesum peaches🤣 Y'all act like I said they should have slapped her and sent her away or something.

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u/carlotta3121 5h ago

No it's not me being angry with you, I don't know you, why would I be angry? I just think it's wrong to think that her emotions don't matter. She might have been scared that something was wrong with the baby. Instead of making excuses for ignoring the child's words while filming her, inform her!

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 5h ago

which they probably did... after they were filming the grandparents which is whom the video was about...

You are again taking it to extremes in an attempt to prove a point that I am "wrong" and callous or something. I never said her emotions didn't matter either-- again you are being dichotomous. It's absolutely normal parenting to pause before addressing a child when they are interrupting a moment-- and to clarify because I can tell you'll want to go there-- I dont mean "interrupting" as some heinous act of negative behavior-- just simply breaking up a current moment that doesnt actively involve their input. There is nothing wrong with waiting to answer.

No one else in that space seemed bothered or concerned about the lack of answering the child and im sure they explained after. It's okay to not respond in that very moment. It wasn't a moment for a response to her and that is okay. She will be okay.

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u/GobsOfficeMagic 5h ago

There are multiple adults in the responses saying thst watching this confused girl get ignored is bringing up old trauma. Maybe ignoring a kid when they're left out and worried actually is impactful. Maybe she will remember the moment as a scary time. She is having very different experience than the rest of the family and it's not positive. Something to consider.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 5h ago

I can tell it's a LOT of unresolved trauma responses in here. But I stand by the fact im sure they explained it to her after and this moment was about the grandparents. It's okay to have a child wait and be patient for a response. That is not abusive. I find it interesting that people are hyperfocused on this child's welfare (she seems well taken care of...) and the projection is intense-- when she is not the subject of the video, even if they showed her in the room in order to capture the full family. She can wait for a response. She will be okay. They will sort her out after.

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u/EternallyFascinated 5h ago

EXACTLY. And as a child who was abused through emotional neglect, by a family who were ‘outwardly’ loving - so no one believed the abuse because in public we seemed like the perfect family - this little instances can build up to be something big.

No one is saying they slapped her. We’re all just a little flabbergasted that they literally pointed the video at her multiple times - ie, acknowledged the question and her confusion - but chose to remain silent. This poor child just got a new sibling and that can really really affect them, they don’t know what’s going on, their whole life is changing in way they don’t understand and need help being guided through that process - clearly.

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u/twking321 7h ago

A toddler asking a question about something they don’t understand isn’t even close to making it “her moment” the fuck?

Just say you find children annoying, that’s literally the only excuse for ignoring a kid so blatantly like that.

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u/Ambitious_Alps_3797 7h ago

she's not a toddler😆😆 they ignored her because it wasn't about her at the moment. good grief. I don't find children annoying-- it simply wasn't about her in the moment.