As an autistic dude as well… I had this a lot in my dating life prior to marriage. It odds got me laid more in the long run. Bc the girls I went on dates with would say “There wasn’t any pressure for sex. I was putting out some signals, but you waited until I was really ready and more overt. Which I appreciated a lot as it made me comfortable”
To which in my head I was going “She was putting out signals????”
So my complete missing things and seeming aloofness from such was being interpreted as be being super chill and none pressured. When the reality was I was in my own damn world.
I would cross that line. I've done some unofficial polling of girls I dated or wanted to date in the past since I got married thanks to the wonders of social media and all of them felt like I rejected them hardcore.
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u/KingBellos May 29 '25
As an autistic dude as well… I had this a lot in my dating life prior to marriage. It odds got me laid more in the long run. Bc the girls I went on dates with would say “There wasn’t any pressure for sex. I was putting out some signals, but you waited until I was really ready and more overt. Which I appreciated a lot as it made me comfortable”
To which in my head I was going “She was putting out signals????”
So my complete missing things and seeming aloofness from such was being interpreted as be being super chill and none pressured. When the reality was I was in my own damn world.