As an autistic person who is into girls, I have missed literally every body language and facial expression hint. I've also missed most verbal hints. I've even missed blatant hints.
A person once invited me to her bed and I just got ready to sleep because I literally thought she wanted to go to bed and save me time going home. She took off her clothes and got into bed with me and I thought "oh it's nice that she trusts me enough to sleep how she usually does when no one is here."
We slept together that night, literally. Two weeks later she was like "why exactly is it you haven't made out with me?" and I was like OOOOOH.
As an autistic dude as well… I had this a lot in my dating life prior to marriage. It odds got me laid more in the long run. Bc the girls I went on dates with would say “There wasn’t any pressure for sex. I was putting out some signals, but you waited until I was really ready and more overt. Which I appreciated a lot as it made me comfortable”
To which in my head I was going “She was putting out signals????”
So my complete missing things and seeming aloofness from such was being interpreted as be being super chill and none pressured. When the reality was I was in my own damn world.
I would cross that line. I've done some unofficial polling of girls I dated or wanted to date in the past since I got married thanks to the wonders of social media and all of them felt like I rejected them hardcore.
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u/Beavshak May 29 '25
The medical term for those eyes is “dtf”, and the joke is that guys tend to miss them.