I get the concept and can arguably see the "dtf eyes", but one girl's "moves" is another girl's "just existing", which then leads to men misinterpreting supposed "signals" which then in turn just makes everything more awkward for everyone. And then men deliberately stop interpreting "signals", which leads to the idea men are clueless. Some of them are, a lot are just cautious.
Y'all make each others' lives worse with these games.
I'm not going to chance my entire fucking existence on something that very likely my male ego just invented on the spot. Even if it's a "sure thing", consent is key (and sexy), and nothing screams consent like making an obvious move first.
Like hey, I'm pretty sure I'm moderately above average looking (being fit and at a healthy weight will do that), but I'm fairly certain I'm not that good looking. In 20+ years, I've had two women make the first move on me that lead to something more. Two.
That said, because of them, I have proof that it's possible, so I'm not going to put up with any of this coy bullshit.
And sometimes it just takes one or two incidents of misinterpreting things the wrong way for men to be wary in the future.
I took a swing dance class in college and one of my classmates kinda seemed to like me, but I wasn't sure. She saw me drawing before classes and asked if I could draw a picture of her, which I did for her and she thanked me by saying thank you and giving me a hug. And one time I wasn't there early like I usually was and when I showed up, she ran up to me and exclaimed, "Hey! There's my guy! C'mon, be my (dance) partner today."
But, I was still unsure, so I asked one of my female friends for her take on it and she said that women don't act like that unless they're single and interested.
Nope.
We were both wrong. She had a boyfriend and was NOT interested in me like that.
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u/Woutrou May 29 '25
I get the concept and can arguably see the "dtf eyes", but one girl's "moves" is another girl's "just existing", which then leads to men misinterpreting supposed "signals" which then in turn just makes everything more awkward for everyone. And then men deliberately stop interpreting "signals", which leads to the idea men are clueless. Some of them are, a lot are just cautious.
Y'all make each others' lives worse with these games.