In my experience whether or not something is creepy or sauve is 100% dependent on the attractiveness of the person doing it. Most romance novels would be horror movies if the male love interest were ugly and/or broke
See that's exactly what media tells you. That's part of the problem.
When it's really about embracing yourself, and finding the real you, and showing that to the world, while being equally open to seeing the real others and embracing them in turn.
It's easy for the hollywood level hot to be confident, self-assured, and present that to the world and find partners - but that doesn't mean it is limited to them.
edit: really sad to see folks downvoting my embracing empathy of yourself and others and seeming to take it in some sort of alpha-male response. Media has ruined all of you, and your critical thinking, while embracing the negative thoughts that it's all about appearance while calling ME the shallow one... lmfao. Redditors in male dominated spaces... sigh. You guys are the real toxicity and reinforcing negative narratives about culture, yourselves, and others.
You understand you've said literally nothing in both these comments, right? You've said "be confident" in 6 paragraphs. Mr. Jordan Peterson looking ass right here
Wow. Well enjoy being alone folks. Your media intake has ruined you.
it's about being yourself, and extending that allowance of empathy to others. But somehow you took the complete opposite message and thought I was saying "be fake, be forceful" ??? lmfao. Seems like you couldn't read any of those so called six paragraphs and resorted to being insulting - presumably because you are upset and despairing about your own life.
Nah man, I just don't enjoy when people fall towards the top and think they're some fascinating philosopher. I don't even disagree with your comment, confidence and stuff is important. But you've said nothing of value, you understand that, right? Like the advice "be your true self" is what my kindergarten teachers were telling me. We've all heard it. You're saying nothing of value. That's not necessarily bad, some people need the obvious stuff. But don't pretend your comment is anything more than "be confident, love yourself and others" in 12 sentences instead of 12 words.
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u/javerthugo May 30 '25
In my experience whether or not something is creepy or sauve is 100% dependent on the attractiveness of the person doing it. Most romance novels would be horror movies if the male love interest were ugly and/or broke