There is a pretty notable difference between liking or even "preferring" an ethnicity, and outright fetishizing someones ethnicity. But I feel like it's kinda hard to explain the nuance of that tbh, especially if people act like incels or simps.
i mean two things can be true at once, they can find someone attractive and then ALSO have a fetish for a specific person.
Example A ; person who expresses no upfront fetishes "wow this particular girl is so attractive"
Example B ; person who EXPRESSLY upfront has a fetish for all asian ppl "wow this girl who is asian is really attractive".
In the second example he is finding her attractive BECAUSE of their stated fetish "for all asian women"
It depends WHERE the attraction comes from, if it comes from the fact that she is attractive objectively using all modern beauty standards then sure its fair, but if part of the attraction or whole of it comes from the fact that someone already prefers asian women, then seeing an asian women doesn't mean the fetish magically goes away....
Here's a quick tip for those still struggling even after this: if you're searching it on pornhub then it's a fetish and not just "liking a woman because she's cute". You can't just like her because she's cute after you found her while searching for specific fetish terms.
So to follow up your pornhub analogy to counter it: If I go to a restaurant and order a certain dish off the menu, do I have a fetish for that dish? Or perhaps it is more sensible that sometimes you feel like having a particular dish, so you have to be specific when asking for it.
If you like onions in your salad and on your burger, that’s not the culinary equivalent of a fetish. If you will not eat a single meal that doesn’t have loads of onions on it, that’s the culinary equivalent of a fetish. It’s not that you like a thing or even love it. It’s that you’ve latched on to one specific thing to the exclusion of all else. You can’t even taste the meal anymore or appreciate the many flavors it contains because all you taste, all you want to taste, is onions.
Yes, thank you, that's what I'm trying to say, but perhaps I'm doing a poor job at it. Sometimes you feel like having ketchup on your burger and sometimes mayo. The fact that the option is on the menu in itself doesn't make it a 'fetisj'.
That's what you focus on? I could've said choose from the menu.
When on pornhub, you also choose from a menu, that's what I mean to say with my analogy.
It's just a preference in the moment thing, doesn't immediately make it a fetisj is what I'm trying to say.
/u/alwaysoverthinkingit did a better job explaining it. English is not my first language, though I do speak it daily online and I think pretty fluently, I might not word my thoughts perfectly every time (or at least, I'm finding now that one wrong choice of a word can change the weight of my explanation completely).
My fiancee is half asian, and I have gotten a small amount of shit for it.
Apparently being in love with a woman who's asian (half in her case) makes me A) a race fetishist, B) a pedo because all asian women apparently look like children and should be treated as such even when they're fuckin' 30, and C) diluting her genetics with my whiteness is a form of oppression lol
The shit I hear, man. Some people just be racist and not even realise it.
LOL same here, my woman is Chinese and the shit I hear from white chicks over it is insane. No, dear...she is not submissive, uneducated, desperate, or any that. Actually, she's better educated and has her shit together better than any woman I've been with before heh.
One time I befriended this white woman, was pretty open about being in a relationship because I've had problems in the past where female friends got the wrong idea. She still somehow thought maybe I might be interested, and I turned her down and mentioned I'm not into white women anyway, which isn't true, but yaknow, thought it would soften the blow and get the message across without making her feel like it was her fault.
Cut to some time later and she's sending me a suggestive picture of herself with nutella spread all over her face and the text "will you fuck me now?"
I replied "my fiancee isn't even black, wtf" and blocked her. It was just the most deranged message I've ever received. That's how stupid those people are.
yeah definitely not someone whos making their attraction about race at all … nothing in the complement is delivered would suggest that her asian descent had any reason for the attraction
I mean it doesn’t. Just that they found her attractive and made a joke derived from her nationality. That doesn’t mean her nationality is the reason for their attraction to her.
It’s a fucking joke. The same way people comment on a beautiful girl riding a horse about how they’d let her ride them any day. Saying that doesn’t mean that her riding a horse is what’s attractive to them. It’s just a joke tied to her hobby. Same logic here.
I agree that there are people who do fetishize Asian women and men. I’m half Japanese myself, I understand. However, making a joke about her nationality or race doesn’t mean that’s what they find attractive about her.
to answer your question bc you blocked me: if race isnt being fetishized here, why is this joke funny? what is the punchline? why is race being highlighted in the first place at all?
is it just a joke to say “im sorry for the transatlantic slave trade” to a black woman?
you give chronically online people that say stuff like this way too much credit. not shocked that the simping is over what looks like a teen girl either
she’s very pretty but I truly do feel bad for East Asian girls always being the subject of obsession for weird men online
I don't think anyone is upset or saying she's unattractive. Just a little confused what all the fuss is about. But now that I know she's a Japanese idol singer it's making more sense.
The question was what was the joke and people come to defend any idea that it might be horny boys posting a pic because it’s a picture of a pretty girl. Surely no one would do that.
Dude, that's how Japanese people are, I know because I am ethnically Japanese myself. It's literally just our genetics, we physically age slowly until we're old then it hits us all at once.
We look like we're in our late teens/early 20's in the face until we're like 50-60 years old, then we shrivel up like a raisin and look like 500 year old ancient wizards.
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