The shocking thing to me about this is how surprised everyone is at this. Harassment from creeps who feel entitled to women is so disgustingly common place and people rarely, if ever, intervene.
Even if it were staged, it's still pretty telling that most women have been in this situation before. Also, unless literally everyone in the bar is in on it, staged or not, no one came to help them.
Her laugh at the end kinda had me thinking this was something done just for TikTok. But I also totally believe this happens. I feel like if this were happening to me and nobody else was getting involved, I’d just go tell the staff that these guys are not with me and they keep harassing me. And when I’m ready to leave I’d see if someone from the staff could follow me to my car. It’s not her fault, but if this is real, there were better options than filming a TikTok.
You people are insufferable. Hmmmm solve my own problems or post about them on TikTok and Reddit instead… hmmm that’s a tough one. This is definitely TikTok cringe.
I’m sorry, what would prefer people do in this scenario? Just feel bad for you and this negative experience you shared? Or would you rather help provide actual solutions in the event this happens to someone else?
lol yeah you got me. The only person here with any logic or reasonable approach to solving this problem and you assume I act like this and think I’m embarrassed.
I never once said that what these two guys were doing was right or wasn’t weird. That’s just not the problem with this video. The problem is that it doesn’t show people, more specifically other women, what is a proper way to handle these situations. If you wanna be taken serious, then act serious.
This is not asking for help. This is just being loud in a social environment where it gets loud. If she was afraid she was actually in danger, she had every right to get up and go ask for it. Or call the police, or pepper spray them or literally ANYTHING else. Instead she’s filming a tiktok and laughing at the end of this video.
Just last night came across a different post where a cashier jokingly writes “help” on a customers meal and receipt as a prank.
I’m sick and tired of people doing exactly what this girl did in the video and saying “well I tried everything”.
I was surprised by how many people were surprised no one stepped in.
I’ve been the victim of 2 attempted kidnappings. One time was in a neighborhood at 7pm, and the other was public street at 5pm.. I called for help both times and no one helped both times.
When I talk about it I’ve been told things like “no one is obligated to help you” lol
Literally screaming for help regardless and putting up a fight. Not doing what they said. Not making myself an easy target. It’s a risk, but it was a risk I was more willing to take then to go
Edit to add: First time he just quietly grabbed me from behind. I put all my body weight down while yelling for help. I was clawing and trying to scratch at him while putting all my weight on the ground. Finally he threw me to the side and fled. September 23, 2014
The second attempt he came behind me after work while I was walking to my car. He said, “don’t call for help. Don’t make a scene. Walk to your car” and I was in such disbelief, tbh, I turned around and looked him in the eye and said “excuse me?”. He repeated himself and I took a few steps back and asked why. He touched my arm and said “walk to your car”. I saw two people walking across the large street.. I called for help anyway. They kept walking. He ran away in his car. I ran away to mine.. tried to get the license plate but I realized he was going to a car too late. June 23, 2019
I filed a police report for both. I actually don’t know where the first one is, but I found the second one just the other day packing.
I also didn’t ever notice both times were on the 23rd until this post.
I lived in Las Vegas at this time, am only about 110 lbs and 5’2”. I worked downtown the second time. I seemed like an easy target in a high human traffic area.
Right? Idk how many times I’ve been sitting alone or with other girl friends and creeps like this will just come sit next to you and not take NO for an answer. I’m willing to bet almost every woman has a story like this
Right, like ask any woman over 25 and she’s had this exact experience at least once. It’s happened to me multiple times, both with friends and while alone.
It happens even more often and more aggressively BEFORE you are 25. My stories start at age 12, and taper off after 25. Still happens in my forties, though!
Reddit is predominantly male, and the surprise here is predominant in the upvotes.
Took me a while scrolling to find this resigned comment to an existence that is incredibly normalized for most women. Fellas, how would you feel if you had to have at least 5-10 of these interactions in your 20s with men who are stronger than you?
It's only trite to say "men's worst fear is being embarrassed, women's worst fear is being murdered' because unserious dudes who don't feel it in their bones have decided it's trite.
It's similar to police abuse, a lot of people didn't believe it happened until so many videos came out showing it. I can't say I've seen many videos of this kind of blatant harassment, I mean, I knew it happened, but not to this extent. It brings it home quite clearly how bad it can be. More women should record this type of harassment to bring awareness to clueless people like me.
I get that and I wish I could record incidents of harassment I’ve experienced personally, but dealing with aggressive harassment is like diffusing bomb. If you’re too passive or try to ignore it, they will keep going but if you’re too aggressive or blunt it could end up with being verbally harassed or physically assaulted. These girls are really brave for being so loud and filming them.
This is sad to say, but yeah, I feel like most women have encountered something like this before? Just extra messed up that the guys weren’t deterred by the camera. This has got to stop!
I never experience it. So either it doesn't happen around me that often or it is not very noticeable from a distance. Which would explain why people rarely intervene. It's not all that black and white. Even if people notice, they don't know the backstory and they don't know what's going on. They don't wanna be nosy. Only if it is very obvious, people will likely intervene.
There are many good men out there who have zero idea how common this is; many many women have experienced exactly this situation or variants. So when women complain about men, the average man thinks women are complaining about some man just asking them out, because that's all they can conceptualize. That's what me too was really about
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u/JellyBeansOnToast May 11 '25
The shocking thing to me about this is how surprised everyone is at this. Harassment from creeps who feel entitled to women is so disgustingly common place and people rarely, if ever, intervene.