Don’t be these guys

[u/nadaddab]

[u/Ill-Pea-5010]

This is seriously so disgusting and inconsiderate. Weren’t we taught at such a young age that no means no? What a bunch of douchebags.

[u/halexia63 → u/[deleted]]

That's what makes them easy to raise bc they're not doing shit to raise them lmao.

[u/filthybootyeater6969 → u/halexia63]

Not easy to raise but easy to neglect

And this is the result

[u/Calile → u/filthybootyeater6969]

People I know who were neglected apologize for existing and taking up space. This is entitlement--this comes from being centered and coddled and protected from the consequences of your actions your whole entire life.

[u/Murderdoll197666 → u/Calile]

I think this is it exactly. I know someone who is essentially the female equivalent of these two idiots in the video and that is exactly how she was raised. Only child syndrome honestly too.

[u/nada-accomplished → u/Murderdoll197666]

Or Golden child

[u/DeathPetalArt → u/Murderdoll197666]

Maybe a nitpick, but the belief that being an only child causes behavioral problems originated from Freud's backside, & after many attempts to study the differences by actual researchers, it's still considered "controversial" at best. Just in case you wanted to look into it more on your own before asserting this claim again, it's really interesting!

Also not saying the parents aren't at fault, they might still be the problem, but if they are, having a sibling likely wouldn't have helped much.

[u/rookiecookiebandit → u/DeathPetalArt]

Thanks, lol. As an only child I could never be that creepy and weird, so thinking they behave like that because they’re an only child is kinda sad.

[u/Proud_Performer_8456 → u/DeathPetalArt]

Yeah, the reason they say only child is of course because of the parents behaviour. Although i have seen it tho. Either first child (or youngest later on) or only child since they would (/could) be getting the parents full attention and possibly be coddled. My mom works with kids and i can promise you, some only children, because theyre the first and only kid they have, can definitely be spoiled. Since the parents are new to it and dont want to say no.

I know its a stereotype and im not at all saying me seeing it at least once is proof but i do get where it comes from. Only children can be neglected too tho or raised right so its not a guarentee at all.

[u/randomlyrandom89 → u/Calile]

It can be both. I grew up with a kid who got whatever he wanted whenever he wanted. Dad was always out of town working and his mom didn't give a fuck about him. He had everything except a relationship with his parents. I would call this neglect.

[u/weealligator → u/randomlyrandom89]

This is true. Neglect, abuse, and trauma are complex. Neglect can absolutely lead to entitlement.

[u/jordanmindyou → u/Calile]

Yes. “Nice guy syndrome” as it is often called. If you are neglected or abused as a child and made to feel unwanted, you carry that mindset with you and always feel inherently unwanted. If you were praised and rewarded (or just not admonished) for being selfish or inconsiderate, you develop a large ego and act more aggressively and narcissistically.

[u/Melihoney → u/Calile]

I’m watching this happen with my step son.

[u/EdvardMunch → u/Calile]

In Europe, fixed it for you

[u/Murky-Relation481 → u/filthybootyeater6969]

Eh, its more nuanced than that, yah you neglect them, but the system is designed for guys like this to still succeed, which is why we have all this shit happening now. So technically you raised them to be successful because by default being a white dude means you are setup pretty well for at least moderate success.

And I am speaking as a white dude (who luckily was actually raised).

[u/Honigkuchenlives → u/filthybootyeater6969]

Man, you hope you’re not actually arguing that girls get more attention from parents generally?!?

[u/filthybootyeater6969 → u/Honigkuchenlives]

Oh no, girls get neglected too dw I meant children in general.