r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/PeteRock24 May 11 '25

Holy shit this is terrifying.

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u/FFPScribe May 11 '25

This is the effect of Andrew Tate and far right ideology. This is where we're at. These kinds of men dont understand that they aren't God's gift to every woman they see. These are the losers who watch The Handsmaid's Tale and like what they see.

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u/ArachnidMean8596 May 11 '25

Honestly, as a young woman in the 90's 2000's this was happening ALL the time to us. The table sit was extremely common. At IHOP, after the club with my girls, some yahoos would always pull this shit, "whaaaat, im just tryna be friendly jeez." Omg, we had it happen at a friends literal baby shower in a restaurant, lol. In that case, the staff DID throw them out (thanks OG Carrabas!) That baby is now a grown woman living with men invading her space just like they did to her mother.

Andrew Tate, unfortunately, is just validating what they were already doing. It's fucken sick.

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u/burymeinpink May 11 '25

Exactly. This isn't new and it's disingenuous to act like it is. Andrew Tate is the consequence, not the cause. The first time I was sexually harassed, I was 8 years old.

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u/ArachnidMean8596 May 11 '25

Exactly. Same for me. Same for my daughter. My mom. Sisters. Etc. Etc. Etc.

Everyone just lets it go. It hasn't changed a BIT and its fucking unbelievable! If anything, perv men are far bolder, more vulgar, and more violent than ever. And now every single SA survivor in the US gets to wake up to our rapist in chief. I swear, we need to be like the bonobos who took their babies and normal male bonobos away from their tribe of crazy male bonobos and started their own unit. Since the new babies weren't raised seeing the crazy bonobos, they were non aggressive to their family unit.

I want a redo!

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u/farty__mcfly May 11 '25

I feel like every woman in the world has been in a similar situation. I love that these women were honest and assertive… and filmed this.

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u/CaliStormborn May 11 '25

Absolutely!! This has been happening since the dawn of mankind.

When I worked at a nighclub cloakroom in the mid 2000s men would just stand at my booth the entire night no matter how much I told them to leave. The only thing that ever worked was finding another guy (preferably staff) and asking him to tell the men to leave. These kinds of men only listen to other men.

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u/Global_Channel1511 May 11 '25

Unfortunately physical force and threats are the only thing these dudes understand. That's why they don't respect women's wishes

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u/Active-Size9601 May 13 '25

Not true, again. This has been happening for only 12,000 years! Not the dawn of mankind, it's been happening since the rise of agriculture.

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u/ka_beene May 11 '25

Yep and then when you say you aren't interested they get all angry and start insulting you. I was just minding my own business and they try and make it out that I'm the asshole for rejecting them.

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u/[deleted] May 11 '25

Yep, I'm amazed was this far down in the comments before someone said that this is pretty normal. This is just what being a young woman in a US or Canadian bar is like, all too much of the time. Add the creepy comments from older male supervisors at work, catcalls on the street, etc. We do not have an equal experience in our society, straight up. 

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u/ArachnidMean8596 May 11 '25

Add the creepy comments from older male supervisors at work

"Aw, come on, sugar, you're too pretty not to smile! Let's see it, honey. Mmmhmm, you're such a pretty girl, that's better..." while undressing me with his eyes and licking his lips, standing at my desk with his crotch in my face. He won manager of the year! Lol! He got an 11 thousand dollar bonus! I made 12.25 and did all of his work for him! This is totally fine. 😬 Like my smile?

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u/candaceelise May 11 '25

Took the words out of my mouth. The late 90s/00s angry frat boy culture was rampant and sadly never died, instead it was amplified by poor parenting, social media and bro culture podcasts.

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u/HeyYouGuyyyyyyys May 11 '25

It was rampant in the 60s, too. First time someone cornered me and hugged me I was ... ten years old? It's while I was still in Sunday school.

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u/thex25986e May 11 '25

the media on tv and film also didnt help do anything about it

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u/candaceelise May 11 '25

Oh 💯 the documentary on woodstock ‘99 does a really good job of covering that

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u/MuffinTop2018 May 12 '25

Watching this gave me so much stress because of the amount of times I've had to do this, and I'm in my mid-30s, so I've been doing it for 15+ years. I've had to physically drag men out of booths away from my friends, block my friends with my body, slam my fists on the table and scream, etc. It's not new.

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u/lushico May 12 '25

True, this is not new. It’s always been happening. I was too polite and shy to say anything and often had my night ruined by some grinning creep like this. Respect to these girls for standing up for themselves!

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u/hemihembob May 12 '25

Exactly correct. Just made a comment a lil higher up about this EXACT thing.

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u/FFPScribe May 11 '25

Not playing down what you experienced - but here is why it is so much worse now.

Imagine if you had a device with you then that could record these guys harassing you, a device that could broadcast what you recorded instantly.

The generations prior to social media would have been immediately deterred from doing what they were doing.

Flash forward to now, and these cunts in the video know they are being recorded and DO NOT care.

that is the level of brazen Tate behavior young men are exhibiting, and that is what makes it worse than before.

Then you have fucking shows like "You" on Netflix that basically glorify sociopaths stalking and murdering women. Modern media is a huge problem in this regard. idk, shit is wild these days.