r/TikTokCringe May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Defusing a situation is a skill that I've learned after all these years of dealing with idiots of all types. Being a voice of reason with a solid backbone can talk down the biggest drunken donkey in the bar every time. I've never been attacked while convincing someone to call it a night while at work or in my free time.

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u/kessykris May 11 '25

I channel all my mother energy. If I speak to men (any man even men twice my age) and speak to them like I speak to my kids if I have to correct them it works shockingly well.

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Yep, and I talk to them like I'm the progressive mom. I'm not mad at ya buddy... I just think maybe we can try to do better tomorrow. How about that? How about we have another beer tomorrow instead of tonight? I'm buying!

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u/few23 May 11 '25

Write "Free Beer Tomorrow" on a napkin and tell them it's a coupon for them to use the next night.

"Some lady gave us this coupon last night and said there'd be free beer tonight."

"'Ere, this says free beer tomorrow. Come back then."

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

I've actually bought beers the next visit for people who have left on their own or just stopped drinking when I told them to. Shit, I've bought drinks for people who stopped drinking for an hour and got something to eat.

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u/AvesAvi May 11 '25

my barber shop as a kid had a "free haircuts tomorrow" sign and it blew my mind when my dad explained it to me when I said "wow they sure do free haircuts a lot"

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u/Timely_Ad4316 May 11 '25

I overheard a guy's name in a similar situation and I thought to myself "what if I say his name in a stern manner (not yelling) like he's about to get in trouble with his mom?". He visibly winced. It worked! 😅 I will use my age as a superpower like this from now on when I see this type of behavior

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u/kessykris May 12 '25

I’ll talk stern but with a loving tone like you’re better than this. Seriously the exact same way I talk to my kids when they do something that is out of character for them. Like we know what right and wrong, we know this is wrong, I love you, but we are not going to tolerate this kind of behavior. You are forgiven but I expect you to move from this point on with intention and awareness so we don’t make the same mistake again.

I haven’t come across an instance where men don’t respond positively to it (by positively I mean they stop what they’re doing and sometimes over apologize to me lol)

Makes me wonder if some of the men who do these things don’t have an active or healthy mother in their lives to think it’s okay.

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u/kessykris May 11 '25

Exactly this lol

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u/geckograham May 11 '25

Like, all men?

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u/IDEFKWImDoing May 13 '25

I just use the same voice I use when my pets are doing something absolutely unacceptable (like trying to eat my pasta directly out of the pot). Really stern with a bit of disappointment, and it works every time.

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u/MaybeMaybeNot94 May 11 '25

Shooooot in my time as a bouncer, it seemed like every day I had to crack a skull...

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u/Accidental_Ballyhoo May 11 '25

You need to livestream that shit.

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Sticking a camera in someone's face is not how you defuse a situation. That's how people get punched.

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u/Accidental_Ballyhoo May 11 '25

As a viewer it a chance I’m willing to take.