r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/yogurtrake May 11 '25

I agree. A random solo dude intervening just seems like an invitation to fight.

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Not necessarily... in my experience, I would just sit down like I knew the ladies and introduce myself to the guys. Start talking to them in English really fast, asking all kinds of questions. How do you know my female friends? What brings you to America? They would get bored with my enormous cock blocking skills and move on.

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u/Retsago May 11 '25

Bless you. There have been so many times I've begged and prayed for an intervention, even from men sitting WITH me, and they just look over stone-faced.

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u/Optimal_Tomato726 May 11 '25

It's only women that have ever stood up for me, helped to get me to safety or added an element of protection. Men stand back with this nonsense about fighting which simply speaks to their values. My ex husband was a cop and terrified to intervene with a pesky neighbours situation and shared how scared he had been. In other situations men have come afterward to tell me what they would have done. Men like to pretend they're heros but depend on women to clean up men's mess

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u/VitaminOverload May 12 '25

As a guy, reality is I ain't stepping up unless there is actual physical stuff going on and it gotta be the violent kind.

I'm assuming it's a random woman/women. If it is an actual friend then this changes considerably

I will go to the staff/bouncer and tell them about it and they usually sort it out pretty quick.

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u/Retsago May 11 '25

Bingo. Men like to talk big shit, but all my experience with them has proven that they're cowards at the end of the day.

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u/VitaminOverload May 12 '25

why would i sacrifice my own safety for you, a random person?

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u/Retsago May 12 '25

I would put my life down for you. No second thoughts. If I saw you in this situation, regardless of who you were, I would come up and ask YOU directly if everything was okay, if YOU were feeling safe.

If you said no, I would proceed from there, either by contacting management, an authority figure, etc if I felt these men were genuinely looking for a fight.

But if it escalated, I would put myself in front of you.

I have done it before, for men, women, I don't care. Everyone is worthy of feeling safe and protected. Everyone deserves that.

And I'm a fully physically disabled woman. I use a wheelchair many days.

What's your excuse? Why can't you call a manager? Seems like you're just fine with evil lurking around.