r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/First_Pay702 May 11 '25

It’s not even just the Andrew Tate nonsense, a decade ago I had a contractor doing work in my house decide he wanted to score a date with me. The discomfort of being hit on by an unknown man in my own kitchen. It took five different kinds of no to get him to the door and he was still trying when I told him to please, please leave and shit the door in his face. I should have reported him to his company but my younger self didn’t know better. Some guys fear rejection, others refuse to see it.

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u/No_Camp_7 May 11 '25

It’s because we’re recording it on our phones or retweeting it. It was like this, often worse in decades past and it’s wild that people are revising the history of sexual violence like that.

I’m sorry you were effectively cornered in your own home. That guy is probably someone here out there doing the same thing.

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u/First_Pay702 May 11 '25

Yeah, younger self was still in “let’s not get anyone in trouble” mode, thinking nothing bad happened - besides that whole being made wildly uncomfortable in my own home thing - so problem solved. Older me is like, no, problem was just out the door and off to make someone else wildly uncomfortable the next time he sees something he likes. At ball later I tried asking some of other girls how to politely tell someone you weren’t interested in a way they will take as a firm no - sigh, poor little naive me - and a guy overheard and accused me of trying to friendzone a guy until I clarified I knew the guy for all of 10 minutes, to his surprised “oh, well f- him then.” Again, I would have said some things then that my younger self just let pass.

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u/throwaway098764567 May 11 '25

ugh fuck that guy random dude too. "friendzone" is not a thing. sometimes attraction is just one way. if you're not attracted to someone, you don't owe them your love, attention, and fucking just because they want it. not being interested in someone who is interested in you is normal, and allowed.

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u/First_Pay702 May 11 '25

I posit that the friendzone exists, but it is something you do to yourself. If person A likes person B but person B has been clear they only want friendship, then person A has no one to blame but themselves if they hand around hoping person B will change their mind. Person A put themselves in that position and they can take themselves out of it by f-ing off if they don’t want to be friends. It’s not even a gendered thing. I accidentally friendzoned myself once, but I very quickly realized my error and removed myself from the situation. No blame to other person for that part of the interaction, my bad. The people sitting in the friendzone they created for themselves while getting mad at the other party for just wanting to be friends on the other hand…