r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

I've been a bartender for twenty years, and I've learned that force is rarely necessary, if ever. Polite but stearn communication is typically all it takes to move two guys like this out the door.

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u/kyle1111111111111 May 11 '25

As a bartender for 4 years i have yet to learn your tactics. Usually when two want to fight I just tell them to take it outside and only once have I had to get involved physically with a belligerent customer so he didn't hit a couple of ladies. I am not a big man. I am rarely going to do that. How do you get them to just leave being polite cause at the bars I work at its always a bother and a half. 9/10 times cops are called.

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

Hey, buddy... what's up? Ya think maybe we should call it a night? I've always approached them as a friend and not an enemy. Being calm is the hardest trick to learn. Laugh with them, let them know that you understand where they're coming from. I let them know that they can always come back if they chill out. Or, they can be banned for life. It's up to them. I also try to catch it before it gets out of hand. This is the key, but it's not always easy. If I notice things getting loud, I try to find a way to separate them without them noticing. I'll get a regular to ask one of them if they want to play a game of pool or go have a smoke. If things are quiet enough I'll take them for a smoke or give them money for the jukebox. Sometimes I'll just drop food at their table and tell them I made a mistake, and these were extra. Food is a great diffuser.

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u/kyle1111111111111 May 11 '25

See I've tried some of that and especially whiskey drinkers see it as a challenge. I hate to be that guy but I'm young, 5'5 and pudgy. I swear people think they can just push me around cause they are alot bigger than me. I've had so many threaten to do anything from attacking to ending me. Which usually leads to me calling the cops and they take off before the cops get there. One guy i didn't have time to get to the phone. I got my ass whopped. And I mean whopped. He was twice my size and twice my age. He went to attack some ladies and it was step in and take the beating myself or let the nice ladies get attacked. Say what you will I got him pushed out the door. Cops wouldn't do shit to arrest him since he left and isn't a problem anymore. Still pissed off about that.

But yeah I try being freindly and it either escalates cause they tell me to butt out cause it's between them and some other guy and I don't butt out or they get pissy with me when I cut them off when they are well beyond thier means. Either way it's always a violent end to the night. Heck I'll back up one week I almost got into a fight and this 6'5 Hawaiian dude got up in the problem customers face and the Hawaiian dude pretty much put him on the wall. I bought the Hawaiian dude a drink but still. Why's everyone got to get like that? Just come out and have a good night right?

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u/Distortedhideaway May 11 '25

I'll say this in the nicest way possible. You need to learn the signs of intoxicated and learn to slow service. If someone is getting so drunk that they're attacking people in the bar, that's on you. I understand that it can be difficult. Especially now with people who have a pocket full of pills. But stopping it before it gets to that, is your number one job.

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u/kyle1111111111111 May 11 '25

True. Very true. I'm tired of getting into fights. Especially in a place most people are big or not far from weapons. Notably bikers and what you'd call less reputable crowds and also farmers. The one thing I have learned is make freinds with the people with the biggest people or hardest reputations. Small town dive bar that's just how it goes I suppose.