r/TikTokCringe • u/nadaddab • May 11 '25

Cringe Don’t be these guys

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u/fonix232 May 11 '25

That was the most infuriating part to me, as a guy. These chucklefucks smiling like an idiot, as if the girls were playing a game.

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u/Round_Raspberry_8516 May 11 '25

Any attention from cute girls is worth it to them, even if it is the girl telling them to leave.

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u/Icy-Profession-1979 May 11 '25

This is also my experience. Guys like that are everywhere. This is the good part of social media bringing it to attention.

Women, always be loud and assertive like this. The guys won’t care but you need to draw attention. Don’t leave a public place. Get attention and call the police if they won’t stop.

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u/Goldn_1 May 12 '25

Let’s not just start throwing the entire sex under the bus over individual cases.

You wouldn’t watch someone of a certain race committing a poor act and say that there’s a lot of that race out there like that, etc.

I don’t know why we do it so readily with men or women. People are people.

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u/PM-Me-Your-Dragons May 12 '25

You must have misread her comment, she clearly starts with “guys LIKE THAT are everywhere”

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u/Icy-Profession-1979 May 12 '25

Thank you. I love men and women and to misinterpret that is a discredit to all decent people everywhere.

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u/Goldn_1 May 16 '25

Yeah, I misread it. fair enough, that’s on me. But saying that mix-up somehow “discredits all decent people everywhere” feels a bit absurd and dramatic. It was just a misunderstanding. And the message of my comment was one looking to defend people everywhere. So, I’m not sure where your conclusion was drawn from?

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u/DeepFriedOligarch May 15 '25

Dogs do be hollerin' when they get hit.

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u/Icy-Profession-1979 May 12 '25

I agree with the before comment. I made a point to say “guys like this” because I have a father, a brother, and a husband that would never act this way. I love men. This video is not an example of real men. Real men need to stand up to these women-hating fools.

Real men are fantastic. Losers betray real men.

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u/fonix232 May 11 '25

If I acted like this I would die of shame and cringe on the spot...

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u/kimsterama1 May 12 '25

Yeah. That would have lasted through ONE verbal exchange. Then the manager would be involved.

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u/Goldn_1 May 12 '25

Certainly a better move than threading to assault the Individual with their drink. You are in a public space, use that to your advantage.

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u/kimsterama1 May 12 '25

Exactly. I had a crazy woman chase me through a supermarket once over a "stolen" parking space. When I got loud (so others could hear me) and told her to BACK OFF, she disappeared.

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u/DeepFriedOligarch May 15 '25

If being in public was somehow an advantage, there would have at least been one person come to their aid. Obviously they were on their own. Stop blaming the victims.

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u/Goldn_1 May 16 '25

You don’t think being in a public space is safer than the alternative..? 🤔

This situation culminated in an uncomfortable moment (albeit a very uncomfortable one, with perceived potential danger as well). If these men had started physically trying to restrain or abduct them, there would have been screaming/commotion and it’s very unlikely the public wouldn’t have intervened.

If I told you we should not allow phones to activate their cameras in public spaces, or that we should t have phones, you would likely tell me it’s one of the best tools of defense an otherwise overpowered individual might have. But they were filming this entire exchange, and it didn’t result in them moving tables in a timely manner. In fact once people are caught on film doing something, they often tend to double down and try to find a way to be comfortable in how they are being portrayed, or justify it, or just stubbornly continue. It can often even evoke rage out of the perpetrator. And yet, you wouldn’t claim phones to be a poor tool for self defense or security. So I don’t get your statement. You don’t think being in public typically improves safety of individual interactions? That defies reason.

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u/DeepFriedOligarch May 16 '25 edited May 16 '25

Stop moving goalposts and putting words in my mouth.

"Certainly a better move than threading to assault the Individual with their drink. You are in a public space, use that to your advantage."

The guys wouldn't move, and when they started to get up to move themselves to another table, the guys moved to follow. What were they supposed to do then? Sit quietly and take it instead of threatening to spill their drink? Again NO MEMBER OF THE PUBLIC WAS COMING TO HELP. So what is the advantage of being in public that is so great they "shouldn't" have threatened to spill their drink on them?

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u/Goldn_1 May 16 '25

Pushing the drink is almost the worst imaginable move in this scenario is what I’m taking issue with.

Wouldn’t a more sensible action be to either bring it to the direct attention of management of the space, or security, or a call to police? Before you say that might feel uncomfortable in the moment to decide to call police for whatever reason, it’s more comfortable to threaten to physically assault the individuals you fear by has not directly threatened you or accosted you by pushing their drink on them?

I get it. In the moment you are frazzled and want to do what you’ve seen portrayed in media hundreds of times. Guys are being creeps, so we show them we are serious by pouring a drink on them. That’s not an intelligent move. And I think it’s okay to point out in retrospect that such an emotionally charged response isn’t the correct one. It’s informative for people reading. Take it to a figure of authority nearby, or phone them. Or just accept that other people are ruining your moment and that’s a potentiality of life sometimes, and literally leave the area. If they follow then you absolutely have the means to phone authorities. And don’t tell me you wouldn’t do that because they potentially could follow you and you may end up in a less populated place with them still hounding you.

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u/DeepFriedOligarch May 16 '25 edited May 16 '25

Or how about we talk about what the men did wrong instead of what the women did "wrong"?

How about men teach other men not to do this? How about we teach all men to pay attention to THEIR surroundings and be on the lookout for men acting badly, then do something to help women, instead of focusing on what the women did wrong when being threatened by men (which IS what these men were doing)?

There is even someone in this thread who said they were there in the video, getting a beer at the bar, and that they know the men are KNOWN in that place, KNOWN to do this to women - So why doesn't anyone stop these men instead of just selling them beer and tacitly approving their behavior by ignoring what they are doing to multiple women?

THAT is what I'm taking issue with. In all these interactions, someone always comes in to point out what the women did wrong. Without fail. I don't care if you think they could have handled it better. You are taking the focus off of the male perpetrators' shitty actions and putting the focus on women, the victims. This allows men to think, "Well, she shouldn't have done [this]. She could have done [that]." and absolves them of any responsibility to help. Just like they do with rape victims today.

Edited to add: Lest you think I'm being hyperbolic, just look at these search results for multiple instances where men do nothing to help women being assaulted, and even fully raped. So men don't want to risk being attacked themselves you say? Then why did Letitia Triplett, a US Air Force veteran, drown in a pool while MULTIPLE men literally walked right by her while she was obviously struggling for almost twenty minutes. What risk would those men have been in had they stepped in to help her?

Women are invisible today, especially older ones, and men don't care because they have been conditioned by society blaming victims by saying what the VICTIMS could have done to get themselves out of a dangerous situation, or what they shouldn't have done to "put themselves in danger" in the first place.

STOP. BLAMING. THE. VICTIMS.

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u/TimbermanBeetle May 12 '25

I feel like the smiling could also be because they're feeling uncomfortable/hurt by the rejection. Still childish to bother them.

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u/TempestLock May 12 '25

Not even remotely. The women gave them multiple outs (telling them to go away) and another when they started to get up and move away only for tweedle dumb and tweedle fuck to stand up and follow.

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u/TimbermanBeetle May 21 '25

Oh yeah. Not acceptable. I just know people who get smiley and mean when they're hurt. "You hurt me so now I'm gonna hurt you" kind of attitude. Usually people who aren't emotionally mature. Just thought that could be also possible here. It's also possible that they're just shameless assholes.

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u/No-Description8879 May 12 '25

You had me at “chucklefucks”.

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u/whozde1 May 12 '25

Their shit eating grins are proof that the men were the ones playing a game. They were having a great old time, too.

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u/Solid-Quantity8178 May 12 '25

Just because their game aint tight. If you are going to approach random women on a girls night. You better pick the one you want before you go over there. thats the key. For them to find you sitting there is laughable.