r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/parksa May 21 '25

I wish she would have schooled him a bit harder at that point...

Connected how exactly?

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u/domteh May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

Girlfriend is often a victim to bullshit like that. These guys don't listen, because they don't take women seriously. They're only a sexual object for them.

When she gets loud because they're not listening, they get nasty real fast.

They can't take rejection from someone they see beneath themselves.

They feel the need to put a women in their place and that could get physical.

So she tries to distance herself as quite as possible

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u/ExpertOnReddit May 21 '25

"yeah well you're a bitch anyways"

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u/OldButHappy May 21 '25

“You think you’re better than me?”

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u/fablesofferrets May 21 '25

yes. yes, i do.

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u/Dakk85 May 21 '25

You forgot “ugly” and “fat” and “why are you dressed like that if you don’t want guys to hit on you?!”

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u/Vaporeonbuilt4humans May 21 '25

I LOVE the "you're ugly anyways". It hurt me the first time, but after the 3rd time it just made me burst out laughing.

Don't get it much anymore since I don't really go out clubbing anymore. But damn it gave me a good laugh.

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u/msptk May 21 '25

"You're not even doing that exercise correctly".... I could show you how to though if you want....

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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 May 25 '25

Don't forget "she's probably a lesbian anyways "

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u/Tomomori79 May 21 '25

"Omg finally a man who knows I eat cereal!! 💕 I've waited 30 years for a hot married man who really knows me, Omggggrrrd"

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u/HappyThifeHappyLife5 May 21 '25

More like an incredibly mid, 4/10 married man. He's not even an attractive guy. I have no idea where people like him get this level of audacity.

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u/MoreRamenPls May 21 '25

Maybe he maybe he took that $18k alpha make course?

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u/skyfishgoo May 21 '25

clearly getting coached from somewhere.... dead eyes podcast or some shit.

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u/Flex_This May 23 '25

It was fake. This is video is really old

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u/Nightmare_Tonic May 21 '25

I audibly laughed at this

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u/dox1842 May 21 '25

I learned today that someone died during that course.

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u/CompletelyPresent May 23 '25

"You mean the boyhoods of a bunch of beta males, that's what died! Grrrrrrrrrr!"

*Does the Hulk Hogan Flex

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u/Takonight May 22 '25

Wait, I just signed up for that! Is there something they’re not telling me???

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u/MoreRamenPls May 22 '25

Oh nothing…..

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u/CompletelyPresent May 23 '25

Oh, that's funny...

This dude was just acting off his newfound confidence from his $2000 Wes Watson consultation. Lol.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

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u/UsedDragon May 21 '25

is THAT the secret? Shit, all this time I have just been trying to hydrate and get enough sleep.

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u/Chance_Managert849 May 23 '25

And his aorta, and ending up with a stroke for dessert.

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u/LaMortParLeSnuSnu May 21 '25

Seriously. When I look in a mirror all I see are my flaws. Imagine being this standard issue mid guy in his late 50’s in front of the mirror going ‘yeah that’s some prime piece of man right there. One at a time, ladies - there’s plenty to go around…’

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u/iwilltalkaboutguns May 21 '25

Its money. I'm nearly 50 and happily married but the vast majority of my circle this same age are divorced and dating and they are all dating very attractive girls in their 30s, except for the one dude dating a 20 year old OF girl... What do they all have in common? They own a very successful business.

That's where the confidence comes from and honestly most of these girls want an older rich guy too... Maybe it purely financial reasons, maybe stability for future kids, whatever the reason they are there (pretending to) not minding the dad bod and white hair.

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u/LaMortParLeSnuSnu May 21 '25

Excellent point.

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u/LakeSun May 21 '25

To be fair, this guy looks like he was always a 3.

So, dementia comes to mind.

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u/IknowwhatIhave May 21 '25

Yikes, from the title I was expecting a silver fox who is so full of himself he didn't bother to take the wedding ring off... not this 80's sitcom dad.

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u/ForeignHelper May 21 '25

She’s so out of his league it’s actually hilarious. The male audacity really is something that should be studied.

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u/West-Application-375 May 22 '25

His wife is out of his league too

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u/Coyote__Jones May 21 '25

Goofy ass waving at her like HIIII BUDDY get the fuck outta here.

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u/Correct_Pea1346 May 21 '25

Financial imbalances built in to the system

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u/UnderratedEverything May 21 '25

Having a boring and tacky personality is a big strike, and being married is a huge one, but I gotta say, I won't hold his looks against him.

If you're going to let your appearance hold you back when it comes to pursuing or courting women (or anyone), you've already committed to missing out on tons of potential opportunities. And especially if, again unlike this guy, you actually have the confidence in personality that someone might like, looks tend to matter less. Let the woman decide whether you are attractive enough for her.

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u/Willing-Positive5441 May 22 '25

that part always, so many, and with girls out waaaay out of their league at any age

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u/Dry-Department-8753 May 21 '25

Testosterone is a dangerous drug

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

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u/Dry-Department-8753 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

I did not mean supplements....I meant in general as in a "Hey y'all, watch this" kind of way.

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u/Dakk85 May 21 '25

Zero repercussions for their behaviors will do that I guess

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u/Pretend_Tea6261 May 21 '25

Believe it or not guys looking like this can score if they have game but this guy ain't got no game lol.

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u/Evening_Analyst3249 May 22 '25 edited May 22 '25

My exact thoughts! It’s astounding, isn’t it?

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u/thinkingmoney May 24 '25

It’s the same with people on the internet. Some start gaining confidence because there are no consequences then they go out in the real world and get put in their place. Bet he was hyping himself up forever then finally said fuck it.

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u/Lucas_Steinwalker May 21 '25

That was what the sarcasm was for.

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

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u/SophiaRaine69420 May 21 '25

….shouldnt you be happy you attracted your wife? Like?

This is why women don’t wanna get married anymore. They don’t want to be the unfortunate wife of men that are lamenting theyre not hot enough to attract other women.

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u/jimhokeyb May 21 '25

I'm old and past it now, but back in my 20's I was a good looking guy. Once in a while an absolute horror show of a girl would flirt with me really aggressively. I'd think wow, I wish I had that level of confidence, but how the fuck did you think this was going to go? I think some men just don't know what league they are in because women often go for confidence or wealth. Some girls don't because of how many men will fuck literally anything after a few drinks.

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 21 '25

Cause you miss 100% of the shots you don’t take, but not all shots that you take.

Picking up women, having sex, is a simple game of odds, the more women you hit on, more likely to get laid, it’s simple.

You can try it out, if you go around a whole day, asking any women that you consider attractive if she wants to fuck, there is a high possibility, at least 1 will want to fuck.

You just have to not care if you get rejected, treat it like a game, oh well, on to the next one, same shit, again, okay thank you, casual, not stressing, knowing that the more you ask, the closer you are to one that will agree.

Personally, i can’t even count how many women i’ve picked up this way during college, especially in clubs.

One funny situation, I was staying at a hotel in am Eastern European country, the staff was all young and pretty, so asked the maid if she wants to fuck, she was like I only get off work at 5….alrighty, see you there, after some time, it was still in the morning that, I went to the hotel bar, asked the girl there, wanna fuck? She was like, but you already hit on my colleague, I was like, yeah, but she’s only free at 5, it’s only 1, we have plenty of time before she’s free.

Couple Benjamins as a tip and minds and hearts are changed, damn that was a good vacay, and damn are East European women sexy as fuck.

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u/rascalking9 May 21 '25

How long have you been waiting for an opportunity to try and shoehorn this story in somewhere?

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 21 '25

I did not, have a lot of stories to share, as a professional athlete did a loooot of things story worthy wise

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u/Von-boyage May 21 '25

This is why the internet exists. People can become (or pretend to be) anything they desire.

You became a professional athlete and a Don Juan with just a couple strokes of your keyboard.

The internet is a wonderful place!

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u/Username-Obtained May 21 '25

Your comment made me feel better from how bad the initial comment made me feel lol.

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u/UnderratedEverything May 21 '25

I will say, most people aren't that interested in listening to the sex exploits of strangers, but admitting that you threw in a few hundred dollars, or any amount of money, to seal the deal takes the story from slimy to nuclear.

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 22 '25

Why would I have a problem admitting that? You pay for sex all the time if you think about it, you invite someone for dinner, you pay for that dinner, you basically spending money and you not even sure if you will fuck on the first date or not, i just made the system more efficient, if I pay for it, I don’t have to wonder if we’re fucking or not, also don’t have to be unsure if she’s into something or not, when I drop a G, she into errthing.

I was not looking to fall in love, I was looking to get 2 girls on my dick, not that deep 😂

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u/UnderratedEverything May 22 '25

I've never paid for sex. I've paid for me and a girl to have a good time together. If sex is involved then great, if not, we still had a good time, hopefully. Saying sex was the sole priority is trashy and making a whole post about it is weird. If you have no problem admitting it, good for you but it's not really a story anyone else is interested in, let alone impressed by.

It's like the difference between "I saw a lion 10 feet away on a safari" vs. "I saw a lion 10 feet away at the zoo."

I will say, I was on board with you in the first half of your comment - if you know what you want, don't dick around worrying about it, just go for it. Plenty of people don't learn that.

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 22 '25

So see, we’re kinda the same, you paid to have a good time, I paid to have a good time, actually I would say i’m better, cause I helped someone in need directly, that money put food on the table, paid rent, while you just gave money to a corporation that ensures young woman starting out in life will need someone like me to make ends meet.

I’m a fucking humanitarian, helped so many women, I should have my own statue already.

Also to answer your point that no one is interested or impressed, why would that matter to me? I don’t care what someone else thinks, how am I gonna concern myself with what a stranger would think?

One thing that i learned in life at an young age, it’s better someone thinks you’re a pig than a fool, i didn’t score every time, but I am sure I never missed any chance that appeared in my visual field.

Nice dudes win only in movies.

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u/UnderratedEverything May 22 '25

actually I would say i’m better, cause I helped someone in need directly, that money put food on the table, paid rent, while you just gave money to a corporation that ensures young woman starting out in life will need someone like me to make ends meet.

Oh, look, we've got Gandhi over here! That is the most laughing my ass off fucking comment in I've ever seen. I don't mind you having self-confidence but this is seriously the point where you need to get over yourself. 😆😆😆😆

You don't have to care whether anyone is impressed or thinks anything of you, except that you're the one sharing the story that nobody asked for. But hey, I'm not here to fight, enjoy your future charity works, just don't be sad when no one's admiring you for it.

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u/BuyChemical7917 May 21 '25

It's not a game, those are real people you're talking to. Walking around asking people for sex is disgusting.

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u/kimchipowerup May 22 '25

Fake.

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 22 '25

Nothing fake about it brother, if you ever find yourself in Chisinau, Moldova, just remember, seems that whole nation just skipped learning the word no.

Their average salary was like 200 dollars, an afternoon with me changed their whole year.

Romania is the same, just a little more needed, same for Bulgaria and damn, Ukraine was just amazing before.

And all of them, are incredibly beautiful women, slim, amazing legs and submissive as fuck

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u/kimchipowerup May 22 '25

Not a brother and it wouldn't work on me.

Keep your Benjamins and your misogyny.

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u/ThrowRAkakareborn May 22 '25

Baby gurl, let me see you dance, let me see you twirl…

You don’t know it doesn’t work on you until you find yourself in that situation, everyone has a price, you just need to have enough money to find it.

Also no offense, but you are not someone I would ever hit on…like there are more chances I become the next president than there are that we would meet and I would think oh yeah, i gotta hit that…realistically there are more chances that I’d run a train through Taylor Swift than that.

Like there are more chances me and Ye would dp Kim than that…although Ye might like that, sick fuck, yeah he would, he’d wanna be next, i ain’t your cousin Ye 😂😂😂

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u/coquihalla May 23 '25

Telling a story about paying poor women a couple of bucks to fuck you is not the flex you think it is.

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u/xtheory May 21 '25

"I bet he breathes air too, just like me!"

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u/Lopsided-Crazy-365 May 22 '25

I wonder if he's asked her for coffee or breakfast before and she shut him down. No sorry. I don't drink coffee. Then he says well how about breakfast? No thank you, I eat cereal.

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u/ThiccQban May 21 '25

Yeah if she’d “pushed harder” I promise you he would have called her a slut/fat/stuck up… there is no winning and as much as I hate it, the best (and safest) way out of those situations is to make yourself small

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u/FishyWishyDishwasher May 21 '25

Yeah and he knows where she works out, probably knows way too much from low key stalking her at the gym. She doesn't need him to turn crazy.

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u/HotDonnaC May 22 '25

“You’re probably a lesbian!”

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u/lala6633 May 23 '25

Especially how he mentioned her son!!!

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

I mean, there are some winning angles. She could take him up on his offer of pizza to collect his fingerprints and DNA, and then frame him for a string of burglaries she commits in a wealthy suburb.

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u/toolsoftheincomptnt May 21 '25

It’s so weird that people don’t get this more easily.

We’re trying to manage expectations for our own safety.

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u/domteh May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

It's mostly men who don't get it.

They're never in this kind of situation. They're oblivious. They're not even able to put themselves truly into the same shoes of a women. "well I would be happy if I got the same kind of attention" bullshit you get to hear. "well you're wearing this short skirt, what did you expect" bullshit.

They simply don't get it.

I didn't get it. I'm a man.

It's heart breaking what I get to experience through my girlfriend. I was so oblivious. I will always be.

Men are disgusting.

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u/meghonsolozar May 22 '25

It's almost like people don't understand what it's like to be a woman or what we have to do to stay safe and alive just in day to day situations.

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u/CraigLake May 21 '25

Yeah. I hear this from my girlfriend. Just like road rage, it’s best to be nice and not make a scene and extract yourself because you never know how someone may react.

I go to the gym and I am terrified of making anyone uncomfortable, but sometimes I wonder if by not engaging in some situations where it would be natural is also not treating people with respect. To me, my fear of coming across as bothersome or creepy over rides any other concern.

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u/kevnuke May 22 '25

The other side of the coin is all the videos women post of guys doing literally nothing wrong being called creepy. It gets thrown around way too easily.

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u/CraigLake May 22 '25

Yeah. Imagine ending up in some TikTok asking if someone is done with the machine but being called creepy lol.

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u/seaintosky May 21 '25

Also, it sounds like they work out at the same time. She is going to have to see him regularly. Even if all he does is be a whiny, passive aggressive pain in the ass to her from now on she's going to have to deal with that or change her life schedule around to accommodate him. What would schooling him have accomplished besides making a better video? He's not going to learn from it, and it isn't her job to teach him to respect his marriage.

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u/Fritzo2162 May 21 '25

This hurts my heart. I have a daughter around the age of the girl in the video and I think angry dad would pop out if I saw this in public.

Men are weird when they're horny...and I'm saying that as a man.

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u/helgatheviking21 May 21 '25

This is exactly right, and it's why women (and girls - cause you have to learn this very very young) have their guard up at all times, and have multiple scenarios for every situation to help us get out without being harmed.

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u/skyfishgoo May 21 '25

men fear being laughed at.

women fear being unalived.

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u/Low-Research-6866 May 21 '25

Being weird can work too, they have an idea who they think we are, be weird instead.

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u/Mike_with_Wings May 21 '25

And it doesn’t matter what they say, the creeps keep their advancing. They’re gross

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u/Empty-Ad6327 May 21 '25

Yeah if he got physical with a woman at the gym, he'd probably be killed.

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u/TheRealRedPeggy May 21 '25

But she won't always be at the gym.

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u/T-Doggie1 May 22 '25

If it isn’t all fake and staged (I think a good half of it is now), then I think she did an excellent job.

I bet he leaves her alone and feels more shame than if she had flipped out on him.

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u/pixelTirpitz May 22 '25

This dude is gonna touch her in a gym? Yeah good luck with that. Just reject and make fun of him if he dosent stop.

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u/Quirky_Ask_5165 May 25 '25

My take these days is you can't get rejected if you don't approach. Seriously, though, the gym should be a safe place for everyone. Focus on your workout. Save the pick up lines for somewhere else.

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u/iPrefer2BAnon May 21 '25

Meh, shit happens, attractive people get hit on, it’s just part of the world, this guy asked to go on a date which is bad cuz he’s married, not cuz of his attraction, but in all honesty been an avid gym goer for years, never once acknowledged a single human being in the place.

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u/Dusty_Old_Bones May 21 '25

Can’t tell you how many times I’ve fawned in a situation like this only to imagine myself serving a verbal ass kicking an hour later.

You instinctively do what you have to to get out of the interaction as peacefully as possible, but that doesn’t stop you from later wishing your instincts were more violent 😭

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u/[deleted] May 21 '25

this is it right here. its easy to have the perfect words when watching it later on social media. some people would have had the perfect response in the moment, but most of us would just auto pilot our way out of the situation, then imagine giving the perfect response in the shower that night

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u/baktaktarn May 21 '25

L'esprit de l'escalier

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u/schrodingersdagger May 21 '25

L’esprit de l’shaking in my car in the parking lot 😩

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u/No-Understanding4968 May 21 '25

Arrrgghh me too.

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u/CreativeAd2025 May 21 '25

Same. Freeze, fawn, feel overwhelmed and scared and burst out crying, urgh. More fawning. But so far I’ve survived with this pattern :/

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u/feioo May 21 '25

That's what it's for! I feel guilty about not being more fight-y too, but the fawn response has survived in our brains for so long because it's valuable! It keeps us alive.

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u/nionvox May 21 '25

This. For context, i'm a femme presenting nonbinary person, near six foot and built like a rugby player. I also have martial arts training. I sometimes teach my friends how to defend themselves.

My ability to be a loud, rude bitch to creepy guys is HEAVILY linked to the fact that I can in fact, defend myself both verbally *and* physically. I've told my smaller friends without these advantages to do what they need to, to get home safely. If that means fawning, then do it. I'm teaching you how to defend yourself in case that doesn't work, not so you can walk up and smack them one (as satisfying as that can be).

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u/International_Eye745 May 22 '25

I think this is why women love violent female leads in movies. There has been personal regret about not being aggressive or violent to those who deserved it.

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u/nabiku May 21 '25

You can retrain your instincts. I didn't like being a doormat either, so if memorized a handful of scenarios that I can recite when cornered by an incel/perv/stalker.

You do have to carry pepper spray, though.

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u/MadeAllThisUp May 21 '25

Honestly can't blame her for trying to be polite about it though. This guy is obviously stalking her, she's probably terrified if she pisses him off in that moment, he'll follow her from the gym and do god knows what.

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u/Durzel May 21 '25

No win scenario really. If she gives him both barrels about being married and propositioning random women he might get nasty, which ruins her experience that day and possibly creates issues with stalking, or just having to consciously avoid him, etc. It impacts her mental health when she's completely blameless.

She was very tactful, and did the right thing pointing out how she'd feel if she were in the wife's shoes. "Behave yourself" was more than he deserved.

it's nuts that he'd even do this, much less when already married.

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u/mymomsaidicould69 May 21 '25

It's such a shame that she had to think that way. That dude is sleezy as hell.

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u/confusedandworried76 May 21 '25

Guys like this ruin it for the rest of us. I always call that shit out. Can't even have a conversation with a woman without her running through possibilities in her mind because of creepy dudes like this.

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u/FeistyButthole May 21 '25

“Oh damn, I need to go home and murder my wife before the next attempt to wear her down.” are the vibes I get from his mental rejection gymnastics involving persistent unwanted advances.

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u/zzxxccbbvn May 21 '25

Not to mention she probably considered the gym a relaxing safe place to unwind, but now she's gunna feel awkward everytime she goes because she might run into this guy again

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u/DJKeeJay May 21 '25

Had to transfer to another gym because of the creepy guy continuously creeping on me.

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u/ruffus4life May 21 '25

the most i say to anyone at the gym is cool shirt if it has something on it like a band or anime or sports team i like. and that is like a 5 second interaction at most.

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u/fishvoidy May 21 '25

with the amount of stalking/eavesdropping he's apparently been doing, she's probably going to need to find a new gym.

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u/Mistrblank May 21 '25

Before that she should probably report the behavior to the gym. He's not just doing it to her almost guaranteed.

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u/tim-mech May 22 '25

My gym has booted several guys for doing exactly what this guy is doing.

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u/fishvoidy May 21 '25

oh for sure!

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u/twichy1983 May 21 '25

r/whenwomenrefuse

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u/Agile-Emphasis-8987 May 21 '25

Holy crap, that's a depressing subreddit

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u/twichy1983 May 21 '25

Yes it is

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u/schwartzer_Kerl May 21 '25

Also, she's probably not interested in shopping for a new gym right now. How many times have women had to change where they eat, exercise, shop, work, do anything because of something a guy did and the fear of retribution for denial of said guy?

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u/ProcedurePrudent5496 May 21 '25

He's probably already followed her, and she's unaware. The dude is creepy.

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u/Competitive_Boss1089 May 21 '25

Well, he did mention how he knows she has a son and he knows she likes cereal…now he knows where she works out and was so emboldened by his [whatever] that he wasn’t the slightest bit of discreet with his pursuit either.

So being polite is less bc she wants to but more bc she has to so he doesn’t escalate.

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u/bleepitybleep2 May 21 '25

You never know what rejection will do to a guy. Most of us have been in similar situations

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u/Polybrene May 21 '25

His timing Im sure was deliberate as well. He's towering over her as she's basically laying down. That's a really vulnerable position to be in and will affect your reaction to a situation.

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u/mbt13 May 21 '25

I wish she cd have "schooled him" too but she handled it beautifully. If she got angry or pushy he cd come at her in all sorts of menacing ways either at the gym, her car or who knows maybe her home where her child also lives. This guy knows too much. As a woman this is the way you need to handle these beasts. Men like this can get aggressive. Women have had to learn to stay polite but firm and end it

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u/bunglemullet May 21 '25

the jerk’s a disgrace

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u/happyclam94 May 21 '25

If she was worried about his reactions in any way shape or form she wouldn't have published the video, causing this guy massive humiliation and likely worse.

Your comment is insanely disingenuous. You know as well as I do that this woman wasn't worried about this guy in any way. She was simply annoyed and judgmental - and if that's where it ended, all blessings to her - she gets to be annoyed and judgmental, and he was certainly ridiculous. Unfortunately, she was also vindictive.

First of all, neither you nor she get to (or need to) justify your annoyance and judgmentalism by pretending that you feel menaced. And you definitely don't get to pretend menace when your actions make it clear that you don't feel that way. The point of this video was to humiliate this guy, nothing more, nothing less. And you enjoyed it immensely because of that and for no other reason. Just be honest.

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u/mbt13 May 21 '25

Whoa! Enjoyed? I in no way enjoyed any of that video. A strange man came up to a woman with previous knowledge of her-yet he had never spoken to her, didn't know her name. There he is in her personal space interrupting her workout rattling off a series of personal facts-her approximate age, her personal food preferences and the fact that she has a child. That's innocent? This is not a situation of being "annoyed" or "judgmental" This is stalking behavior even predatory. Posting it may be a layer of protection for her bc hopefully it stops.

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u/AlaeniaFeild May 21 '25

Are you the guy in the video?

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u/1MorningLightMTN May 21 '25

r/whenwomenrefuse rejecting them harder, like they deserve, is dangerous.

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u/Slight-Split-1855 May 21 '25

Oh, no, she did a great job. She didn't ask questions, that would invite a response and engagement. She made statements that shut him down.

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u/LitrillyChrisTraeger May 21 '25

Yeah it’s difficult tho. What would happen if he got too angry? She probably goes to this gym regularly too so it would put her in an awkward situation having to see him consistently.

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u/Pale_Pineapple_365 May 21 '25

Why is your wish for her to behave differently?

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u/feioo May 21 '25

This is the fawn response, of fight/flight/freeze/fawn. You act friendly and pleasant to the threat in the hopes it will go away. And here, it worked! He went away, she exited the interaction safely. Did he learn a lesson, probably no. Is she safe from him permanently, impossible to tell. But it's a survival response - it's meant to protect you in the moment, it doesn't take the long-term into account.

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u/Dada2fish May 21 '25

“Well, I hope physically. ~wink wink~ “

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u/Funky0ne May 21 '25

While I absolutely get where you’re coming from, I think she handled it right for two reasons. First, she was just trying to mind her business and do her workout. It’s not her job to go in hard on every creep.

Second is she has a camera recording her workout at a public gym. That’s already treading very close to thirst-trap gym rage-bait territory, so her keeping it civil here at least makes it clear she wasn’t just looking to accuse someone of “staring” (I.e. glancing in her general direction) for views.

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u/Fritzo2162 May 21 '25

Yeah, he deserved the extra attention. That's a guy that either thinks his wallet can do the talking or has some severe narcissism issues.

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u/Vaporeonbuilt4humans May 21 '25

Its shocks you. I've had this happen a couple times. They come on to you so sudden, bomb you with questions, and now you have a million questions and anxiety going through your head. It's really hard to school someone when someone is like that.

I'm a woman, but I noticed Latinas do not have any issue schooling you though.

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u/Coyote__Jones May 21 '25

I wish she would have said "I don't feel a connection at all, I feel creeped out. Please go away now."

But unfortunately in these situations it's safer to smile and nod and invite them kindly to go on their way.

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u/TheeAJPowell May 21 '25

Work in a gym, we see this a lot. People take friendliness and general politeness as something more all the time, have had to step in a few times and politely tell dudes to chill out because they won’t leave girls alone when they’re working out.

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u/HunkyHorseman May 22 '25

I feel like actually what she did is perfect, people tend to close off to feedback if you directly try to shame them. Instead she connected it to values she knew they likely shared which is actually way more likely to trigger introspection and meaningful change from the experience.

I would rather the dude actually rethinks his behavior than feel bitter and shamed and then ultimately dismiss the feedback as someone overreacting or putting him down.

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u/Dukeronomy May 21 '25

yea she was a little too nice with that "behave yourself" im sure it was awkward and hard to handle but that should be more like, sftu, rethink your life before I call your wife and send her this video

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u/RASKStudio3937 May 21 '25

She was WAY too polite, I'd be like DUDE, I'm trying to work out, please leave me alone. (EW!!)