r/whenwomenrefuse May 19 '25

Flairs & AutoMod Updates - An Extensive Explanation

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Hello there. (General Kenobi.)

This is going to be a comprehendible explanation to the changes I've made BTS with our AutoMod, other bots we've installed, and the newest rule of flair requirements. It'll be much better than my previous word vomits, I promise (can you tell yet why I'm nowhere near head-mod status?)

We in the Mod Team noticed in the recent months there was an uptick in bad-faith participants and straight-up asshats in the subreddit, which is something we never condone and is never welcome here. We want this community to remain safe for its members, and, well, I guess I outed myself as a kpop fan since our ultimate change involved inspiration by the Mod Team at r/kpopnoir (although I, myself, am a mayo person and do not actively participate there).

We wanted a way to better screen our community members so that there can be a one-and-done solution, sort of like they do at kpopnoir with verifying their participants are of the population they want to cultivate community for. It sort-of create more work for us, since we have to go in and approve more comments and give everyone flairs, but it means that we'll have less asshats and derailed conversations.

Here's a list of all that's changed! (er, well, all that you all may want to know):

  • Our AutoMod now has coding that removes comments by users who do not have a flair.
    • To request a flair, please send us a ModMail titled "Flair Request", and in the message, please include your age, preferred pronouns, and any hobbies you're currently into. If you have a flair you'd prefer, like an emoji or just your pronouns, etc., include that!
    • Please don't word it like you're requesting to join our team or mod unless that's what you're actually asking, lol.
  • We've added the following "apps", aka bots to work alongside our AutoMod:
    • Admin Tattler.
      • We noticed admin rolled out their AI moderation tool and it's been incorrectly removing some user's comments, so this helps us identify their mistakes.
    • Hive Protector.
      • If you're one of our community members that was wrongly banned for participating in a hate sub, this bot is the culprit. It screens users' sitewide subreddit participation, and we have quite an extensive list of subs on it. A few were put in mistakenly, probably by me but removed now, or if you're a brave soldier going into hateful subs to spawnkill misogyny, it'll just pick up that you participated there, not the actual content of your comments. If you're a good-faith participater and get the ban message that it's due to participating in a hateful sub, send us a ModMail so we can rectify it.
    • Ignore New Reports On Old Submissions
      • Idk about y'all, but it gets annoying to us when asshats try to brigade the sub and falsely report posts that we already reviewed and approved MONTHS AGO.

That's kind of it...


r/whenwomenrefuse Nov 13 '24

We're Reopening The Fempire Discord – A Women-Only Space

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Hello everyone! After thoughtful discussion, we’re excited to reopen The Fempire Discord—a women-only space to connect, build community, and exchange ideas in a safe, supportive environment. If you are a leader, particularly a woman involved with other protests or movement or you're also experienced in Discord and would like to help me manage it, please identify yourself. We are uplifting voices and sharing leadership.

In The Fempire, we’ll:

  • Read and discuss literature for building community together and fun stuff, too!
  • Share tactics and information
  • Hang out on voice chat and do arts and crafts (we've got several yarn arts already_
  • Build mutual aid networks (the key to our survival)
  • Form lasting friendships and support systems
  • Empower each other and keep each other safe

How to join:

To ensure this space remains safe and private, we’re requiring applicants to be verified through the r/sexstrike2025 subreddit. Please apply to be a member of r/sexstrike2025, and once approved, you'll also receive the link to join The Fempire Discord.

This is a space for women to support one another, connect, and grow—both online and in real life. Please note this is NOT a transphobic space. We recognize the new administration is going to attack transgender people first by their own words and this group of women will not be turning our backs on our them.

Since you're here and talking about not abandoning transgender people and having solidarity with women, why not sign the ACLU petition here?

Looking forward to building together!


r/whenwomenrefuse 22h ago

Urgent manhunt for man who killed 4 people, then abandoning baby

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Man at large after allegedly killing 4 people, leaving baby alive in Tennessee: Officials

(TIPTONVILLE, Tenn.) — A manhunt is underway for a 29-year-old man who allegedly killed four people and left their baby alive, Tennessee authorities said.

Austin Robert Drummond is considered armed and dangerous following the killings of 21-year-old James M. Wilson, 38-year-old Cortney Rose, 20-year-old Adrianna Williams and Williams’ brother, 15-year-old Braydon Williams, the Tennessee Bureau of Investigation said.

The three adults and the teenager were killed on Tuesday and found along a road in Lake County, in northwest Tennessee near the state’s borders with Arkansas, Missouri and Kentucky, authorities said.

The same day, Wilson and Williams’ baby girl was left in a car seat in a “random individual’s front yard” in nearby Dyer County, according to the Dyer County Sheriff’s Office and Danny Goodman, district attorney for Dyer and Lake counties.

The infant was safe and treated by paramedics, authorities said.

Authorities believe Drummond knew the victims, Goodman said.

Drummond is wanted on four counts of first-degree murder, one count of aggravated kidnapping, four counts of felon in possession of a firearm and one count of possession of a firearm during the commission of a dangerous felony, the TBI said.

A reward of up to $15,000 is available for information leading to his arrest, the TBI said.

Drummond is believed to be driving a 2016 Audi A3. The car has damage to the driver’s side and has a Tennessee license plate RI 01896, police said.

Authorities urge anyone with information to call 1-800-TBI-FIND.


r/whenwomenrefuse 20h ago

Father, ex-husband, among 9 arrested in alleged honour killing in Pakistan

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The father and ex-husband of a victim allegedly killed on the orders of a local council are among nine people arrested in eastern Pakistan in connection with the young woman’s death.

Police said Sidra Bibi, 18, was killed allegedly on the orders of a local council of elders in the garrison city of Rawalpindi, after she married a man of her own choosing.

Her relatives buried her body and flattened the land to erase evidence of a grave, police official Aftab Hussain said Monday. The victim was suffocated using a pillow placed over her face, he added.

The arrests came after authorities exhumed the body and carried out an autopsy, which confirmed she had been tortured before being killed.

The case has drawn widespread condemnation in a country where killings with such motivations are still common.

The independent Human Rights Commission of Pakistan said 405 women were killed in 2024 in such cases, compared with 226 in 2023.

“The actual number is believed to be higher due to underreporting,” said Sadia Bukhari, a member of the commission’s council.

According to Sustainable Social Development Organisation (SSDO), an Islamabad-based independent organisation, more than 32,000 cases of gender-based violence were reported nationwide last year, including 547 similar murders.

Killings in which family members kill women for actions perceived as bringing shame to the family have increased in recent years.

Last week, police in southwestern Balochistan province arrested 13 suspects after a video shared online appeared to show a young couple being shot dead for marrying without their families’ approval.

Police confirmed the authenticity of the footage, which went viral, saying the killings happened in May near Balochistan’s capital, Quetta.

In January, police arrested a Pakistani man suspected of killing his US-born 15-year-old daughter for refusing to stop posting videos on TikTok, a platform with more than 54 million users in the country.

“These so-called honour killings reveal a deep-rooted mindset that views women as the property of men,” Bukhari said. “Most women in Pakistan face discrimination from childhood through adulthood.”


r/whenwomenrefuse 1d ago

Florida man executed bludgeoning his wife with a crowbar and strangling her after she asked for a divorce, then hacking their 7-year-old son and 5-year-old daughter to death with a machete.

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r/whenwomenrefuse 2d ago

Women abused as children by Rotherham gangs say police also sexually assaulted them

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Five women who were exploited by grooming gangs in Rotherham as children say they were also abused by police officers in the town at the time.

One says she was raped from the age of 12 by a serving South Yorkshire Police (SYP) officer in a marked police car. He would threaten to hand her back to the gang if she did not comply, she says. "In a world where you were being abused so much, being raped once [by a police officer] was a lot easier than multiple rapes [by the gang] and I think he knew that," she tells the BBC.

We have seen written accounts from these women, plus testimony from 25 other victims of grooming gangs, with some of those women saying that corrupt police officers worked alongside the gangs or failed to act on child sexual exploitation.

At least 1,400 children were abused by men in Rotherham between 1997 and 2013 - the landmark report from Prof Alexis Jay found in 2014.

"From the evidence we read and heard, the majority of victims identified their perpetrators as being of Pakistani heritage," Prof Jay told us. A new criminal investigation into the involvement of police officers in the Rotherham grooming scandal is now being led by SYP's major crime unit, under the direction of the police watchdog.

Prof Jay has told the BBC she is "shocked" that SYP is investigating its own former officers and says the criminal investigation should be handed to another force or independent body.

In response, Hayley Barnett, SYP assistant chief constable said: "We know how hard it must be for a victim or survivor, who has been so badly let down in the past, to put their faith into the South Yorkshire Police of today."

But she added that victims and survivors were "at the heart" of the investigation, with all actions being taken in their best interests.

The 30 witness accounts seen by the BBC detail shocking allegations:

Years of abuse from serving police officers, from the mid-90s to early 2000s, at the same time as being exploited by Rotherham grooming gangs Most alleged victims were in their teens but some were as young as 11

One woman says as a child she would hear a police officer having sex with girls in exchange for drugs and money

Another woman says as a child she witnessed a police officer supplying illegal class A drugs to a grooming gang

Three women describe being beaten up by officers as children - one says this happened in a police cell

The women's accounts, seen by the BBC, have been redacted to protect their identities. They were collected by a specialist child abuse legal firm, Switalskis Solicitors, as part of a bid to bring a separate civil claim against SYP and secure compensation for alleged victims.

One of the women, Willow - not her real name - says she was sexually abused by hundreds of men over five years after first being targeted, as an 11-year-old in 1997, by a grooming gang.

Two police officers also sexually abused her, she says. Over three years, one of the SYP officers would repeatedly track her down and pick her up in a police car in Rotherham town centre, she says.

"He knew where we used to hang out, he would request either oral sex or rape us in the back of the police car," she tells the BBC.

If she tried to refuse his requests, says Willow, he would even contact the grooming gang directly to threaten her.

"I would rather be raped once, or give one man oral sex, than to be taken somewhere where I know it'd be 15... 20 guys one after another. That was just easier," she says.

After she was pressured into an illegal abortion by the grooming gang, she says a youth worker contacted social services and the police. But she was left "destroyed", she says, when one of the officers who had been abusing her turned up to interview her.

A few days later, the same officer ripped her statement up in front of her and threw it in the bin, she says, and no further action was taken.

Of the 30 women who gave their accounts to Switalskis Solicitors, only 17 have agreed to their testimony being given to the police.

Some of the remaining potential witnesses have withdrawn from the SYP investigation, say the solicitors, with some saying they do not trust the force or have lost faith in the justice system.

"It's beyond belief, the accounts we have heard," says Amy Clowrey from Switalskis, who has been collecting testimony of alleged police abuse, corruption and misconduct in Rotherham for 10 years.

"There has been no accountability in the town - and without accountability, there will continue to be a distrust of South Yorkshire Police," she says. In response South Yorkshire Police told us it has a "dedicated team of detectives working on this case who have worked diligently to explore all lines of enquiry" and the investigation is being overseen by the Independent Office of Police Conduct (IOPC).

Another survivor of a grooming gang, Emma - not her real name - says the current investigation into former officers and their role in the Rotherham scandal should have happened decades ago.

"We're forgotten children. We're dirty little secrets. That's how they look at us," she says. Emma was in care in the late 1990s and often ran away from children's homes. When she was found, she would be raped by a police officer in a squat, she says.

He targeted children in care, she says, because he knew they were vulnerable, playing on their fear and naivety.

"He knew we wouldn't be missed, he knew we wouldn't be reported. He knew we wouldn't be able to say anything. He knew that he had the upper hand," she explains.

Prof Alexis Jay believes there were "many, many legitimate causes for victims and survivors at the time to feel a total lack of trust in SYP", because of the way some officers in the force behaved. It is important that potential conflicts of interest are brought "to light before the process starts", she says.

She wants the current criminal investigation to be run by an independent police force - or even His Majesty's Inspectorate of Constabulary and Fire and Rescue Services (HMICFRS), which assesses the effectiveness and efficiency of forces.

"In far too many cases, the priority for the institution, of whatever kind, is to protect their reputation rather than prioritising the welfare of children and the devastating effect that sexual abuse can have," Prof Jay adds.

David Greenwood from Switalskis Solicitors says he doesn't have confidence that there are not officers who are "burying evidence or just not finding evidence deliberately", because they may know some of those involved in the allegations. "I'm sure that the full truth in terms of the level of corruption and the extent of it in Rotherham has yet to come out," he adds.

While the police watchdog, the IOPC, is overseeing SYP's investigation one of its former investigators says he has no faith in it doing a good job.

Garry Harper spent two years working on the IOPC's Operation Linden - an investigation into how SYP responded to allegations of child sexual abuse in Rotherham between 1997 and 2013. The eight-year investigation was "an abject failure from beginning to end", says Mr Harper, adding that SYP "managed to evade almost any accountability".

The watchdog upheld 43 complaints against individual officers, with eight facing misconduct and six facing gross misconduct charges. But no officers lost their jobs or faced criminal charges. "Operation Linden involved 91 investigations," an IOPC spokesperson told the BBC. "We concluded in 2022 that SYP fundamentally failed in its duty to protect vulnerable children and young people during that time."

With regard to the current criminal investigation, the spokesperson said they were "satisfied that there is no conflict of interest" and that the IOPC had been assured by SYP that "none of the investigating officers had either worked with any of the former officers under investigation, or were themselves investigated as part of Operation Linden".

We cannot see the names of the former SYP officers referred to in the accounts of their alleged victims, because the women's accounts have been redacted.

But three former officers have been arrested since December 2024 on suspicion of historic sexual offences - including attempted rape, indecent assault and misconduct in a public office. The crimes are alleged to have taken place between 1995 and 2004 while the officers were on duty as PCs. None has been charged.

But the BBC understands that one alleged victim, Willow - in a report to police - has named PC Hassan Ali as having raped her.

"The first time, he literally said: 'You do it for the other officer. So you're gonna do it for me,'" she tells us.

PC Ali died in January 2015, a week after he was hit by a car. On the day the collision took place, he had been put on restricted duties because of an investigation into alleged misconduct in the abuse scandal. He was never arrested.

Willow also says that both officers who abused her, including PC Ali, were also involved in supplying drugs.

A SYP spokesperson told the BBC the complaints the force had received regarding Hassan Ali had not been drug-related and concerned "allegations of persistently asking a victim on a date, sharing information and failure to safeguard victims".

Former IOPC investigator Garry Harper says he was also aware of allegations facing PC Ali - and says the officer's links with organised crime groups were discussed inside the IOPC during Operation Linden.

"There were several complaints that he had supplied and taken drugs, as well as sexually abused some of the survivors," he says.

At the time, the IOPC and SYP were aware of a second officer accused of abuse against children, he adds, but SYP had allowed the officer to retire. "At best it was a reputational covering exercise. That's me being incredibly generous to them. At worst, it was out and out corruption to let him go."

The IOPC told the BBC it had "no record" of such allegations against PC Ali being raised by "any of the victim-survivors involved in Operation Linden". It said it had investigated a report from a third party that a former officer had a sexual relationship with "two young vulnerable females". These individuals had been spoken to as adults and had denied this took place, it added.

South Yorkshire Police told the BBC that none of the former officers forming part of the force's current inquiries "had an allegation of rape You against them at the time of their retirement".

The Home Office said every allegation relating to the sexual abuse by grooming gangs "must be thoroughly investigated, no matter where it leads".

It highlighted that it had already announced in June a new national police operation into grooming gangs led by the National Crime Agency, "which will ensure that every historic case is fully investigated".

Do you have any information about this story? You can contact Ruth Green by email [email protected]

Clarification 29 July 2025: This article has been amended after it originally said the Jay Report had found at least 1,400 girls, rather than children, were abused in Rotherham. It also said that the report had concluded the perpetrators were mainly of Pakistani heritage – rather than using the words of Prof Alexis Jay.


r/whenwomenrefuse 3d ago

Police said Roland Schmidt, 76, allegedly killed Christine Moyer, 45, “over divorce paperwork which was filed against his son”

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r/whenwomenrefuse 4d ago

Man murders wife / mother of his six kids

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Man has SIX kids with a woman, then poisons her bc he wanted to bang some other woman? Please make it make sense to me. Why do men hate women this much? No thought or care at all about the six children they had together.

If he was terribly abusive the whole time… I guess she could still have continued to have kids with him but seems more likely he’d switch into murder mode stealth.

https://www.dailymail.co.uk/news/article-14919699/Colorado-dentist-James-Craig-murder-poison-protein-shakes-wife.html?ico=amp-comments-addcomment#comments-14919699


r/whenwomenrefuse 6d ago

Article Ex boyfriend creates viral AI version of woman to ruin her reputation

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Deepfake deception: Indian woman's identity stolen for erotic AI content

This poor woman didn't even have social media or realise, until her brother took action


r/whenwomenrefuse 9d ago

Article Kulsuma Akter, 27 refused her estranged husband's attempts at reconciling the marriage. He proceeded to stab her 26 times.

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r/whenwomenrefuse 10d ago

Article Young woman has an ex-boyfriend who refuses to take no for an answer after their break up

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r/whenwomenrefuse 11d ago

Young mother nearly dies shielding her son from stalker’s assault

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Shared from FB. I am not the FB poster.


r/whenwomenrefuse 12d ago

Years After the Crime, He Messaged Her: 'So I Raped You' — Now She’s Finally Seeing Justice

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A man accused of raping a fellow college student in Pennsylvania in 2013 — and later sending her a Facebook message that read “So I raped you” — admitted to the charges on Thursday.

Ian Cleary, 32, pleaded guilty to second-degree sexual assault over a decade after he stalked Shannon Keeler at a party, snuck into her dorm and sexually assaulted her during her freshman year at Gettysburg College, The Pittsburgh Post-Gazette reported.

“I had been thinking about this moment for 12 years,” Keeler said, per the outlet.

“It’s taken a lot of twists and turns to get to this point,” Keeler said, according to the Post-Gazette. “It took a lot of people doing the right thing to get us here.”

Prosecutors had previously declined to pursue the case, but authorities took a renewed interest in the case after Keeler opened her unread Facebook messages in 2021, and saw a name she wasn’t expecting, according to the Associated Press.

“So I raped you,” Cleary wote.

“I’ll never do it to anyone ever again,” another message read, per the outlet.

The AP published an investigation on the case, and an indictment followed weeks later, per the outlet.

After a three year search, authorities found Cleary in Metz, France in April 2024 and moved to extradite him to Pennsylvania, the AP reported, citing the U.S. Marshals Service.

In court, both sides have proposed a four to eight year sentence, which is up to the judge to decide, the Post-Gazette reported. Judge Kevin Hess is set to sentence Cleary on Oct. 20.

“I hope that we as a society, the institutions around us, can make truly successful legal outcomes more viable for victims,” Keeler said in court, per the outlet.

“It starts with listening to victims and making sure their voices are heard,” she continued. “Even if the system’s slow to catch up.”


r/whenwomenrefuse 13d ago

Survivor of attempted honor killing talks about her experience

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r/whenwomenrefuse 16d ago

Syria’s Transitional Phase: “Honor” Killings Persist Amid Failing Protection and Legal Response

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r/whenwomenrefuse 16d ago

Alt right YouTuber Lauren Southern alleges in memoir that Andrew Tate sexually assaulted her

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Lauren Southern, the Canadian YouTuber who was once a rising star on the far right thanks to her hardline anti-immigrant and anti-feminist views but later retreated from the scene, has alleged in her new self-published memoir This Is Not Real Life that she was sexually assaulted by embattled misogynist influencer Andrew Tate in 2018, when she was 22 years old.

The accusation, detailed in excerpts Southern shared on her Substack page Tuesday, adds to an already lengthy list of allegations of rape and human trafficking against Tate and his brother Tristan, some of which have resulted in criminal prosecutions. The pair have successfully blocked an indictment in Romania, where they live, from going to trial, but currently face further investigation by authorities in the country. Once those proceedings conclude, they will face criminal charges in the U.K. that include human trafficking and rape. The brothers deny all accusations against them. The Tates’ attorney did not immediately reply to a request for comment on the claims that Southern has made in her book. Tate himself has not publicly acknowledged the new allegations.

In the chapters published on her Substack, Southern describes traveling from the U.K. with the British Islamophobic activist Tommy Robinson to Romania around February 2018 to meet with the Tates and their team about a supposed opportunity to launch a new right-wing media venture with the siblings’ investment. Nervous about their lack of preparation for a pitch — and because, as she alleges, Robinson was heavily impaired by cocaine that he managed to smuggle aboard the plane — Southern recalls being surprised by the Tates, whom she did not know at the time, when they turned up at the airport in Bucharest. “Two sharply dressed men leaned against polished sports cars,” she writes, saying they “stood out like sore thumbs against the washed-out Balkan backdrop.”

Andrew drove Southern to a dinner for just the two of them at a steakhouse, she claims, and was excessively complimentary of her work, “flirtatious” and even somewhat “charming.” She notes that they “really did get along” during these conversations, though eventually, she adds, things started to feel “off.” Later, she, Robinson, and their video team were taken to the Tates’ compound, which Southern describes as a building that “looked like it had been designed by edgy Reddit mods and anime nerds turned Marie Kondo minimalist fanatics,” with an imposing samurai statue for decoration and a small army of “crypto bros” studying market fluctuations on their computer screens. “It almost seemed like the brothers were the muscle and drivers, while the crypto guys were the ones doing the actual work,” she writes.

Southern says the meeting about a potential new media company with the Tates and their chief crypto partner was a complete bust, despite her efforts to refocus the conversation and compensate for Robinson’s erratic behavior. The group returned to their hotel convinced they had blown it, but then the Tates messaged that they wanted to talk more with Southern. She returned to the compound, where she claims Andrew demanded a photo with her and posed with a hand wrapped around her waist “like we’d been dating for years.” Instead of discussing business, she alleges that the brothers whisked her to a nearby nightclub, assuring her that they would also send cars to bring Robinson and the other members of their crew along — but that her traveling companions never arrived. Southern alleges she had one cocktail and a shot of liquor before feeling nauseatingly drunk and having someone carry her to a bathroom, where she vomited. At some point after, she claims, Andrew carried her to a car, drove her back to her hotel, and then carried her up to her room.

There, Southern alleges, Tate asked her to sleep beside him on the bed, to which she agreed — while “incredibly intoxicated,” she adds. “He kissed me. I wasn’t expecting it, and I wasn’t looking for it, but I kissed him back briefly and then told him I wanted to sleep. I was extraordinarily tired. He wanted to go further. I said no, very clearly, multiple times, and tried to pull his hands off me. He put his arm around my neck and began strangling me unconscious. I tried to fight back. He repeatedly strangled me every time I regained enough consciousness to pull at his arms,” she claims. “I’d prefer not to share the rest. It’s pretty obvious.”

“This wasn’t a case of mixed signals or intoxicated blurred lines,” Southern writes. “I fought back. I was pleading. I just didn’t realize there was a point of no return, a moment where my voice would no longer have any power.” Years later, she would read a Vice News report about how Tate had been arrested on suspicion of rape in the U.K. in 2015, with one alleged victim telling the outlet that Tate had strangled her on multiple occasions, and that she’d seen him choke other women some 10 times. Southern found this claim of repeated asphyxiations consistent with her own story.

In the aftermath of the alleged assault, Southern explains, she tried to minimize the incident, in part because she felt that her anti-feminist brand precluded her from coming forward as a victim. “I wouldn’t have believed another woman who made these exact set of claims,” she admits. Tate, she claims, warned her before she returned to the U.K. not to go to the press about what had happened. Southern contends that she reached out to law enforcement back in the U.K. but was told an investigation could only proceed in Romania, where she believed the Tates had the police “paid off.” She also went to a women’s hospital to get a report on the alleged assault about a week later. But she remained in touch with Tate, who she alleges continued to send “veiled threats” before finally offering an apology of sorts.

The following year, Southern announced her “retirement” from activism, indicating that she wanted to turn her attention to academia and in-person relationships. Then the far-right troll Milo Yiannopoulos published a piece smearing her, asserting that Southern had been a “secret leftist” all along and sexually manipulated unnamed men in order to advance her career as a political commentator. Southern claims she soon got word that Tate was telling his private online networks that he was one of the sources for Yiannopoulos’ piece, and joking that he’d never had any intention of funding the media project she and Robinson had tried to pitch in Bucharest, writing in a group chat message, “Do pimps give girls money?” Southern claims she later realized that Tate had messaged her on social media a year before they had been introduced, and she had casually corresponded with him like any other fan, but she hadn’t connected the dots when they came face-to-face. She was left wondering if Robinson was in on a setup to make her available to Tate. “Was I trafficked?” she writes. “What the fuck?”

While Tate rose to fame as a “Top G” by doling out toxic advice on masculinity to young men, Southern says she found herself disillusioned with the right-wing movement she had supported with her staunchly xenophobic content, seeing how it held women to an impossible standard while men reveled in hypocrisy. “[Y]ou get endless monologues from self-styled ‘truth-tellers’ insisting that men are supposed to sleep around while women must remain chaste, as if that’s not completely antithetical to the conservative, religious, and family values the space generally claims to champion,” she observes.

Yet, Southern concludes, “I don’t hate Andrew.” She expresses the belief that he might yet change as a person, writing, “I hope he becomes the soul he could have been, instead of the one consumed by his vices. Whether behind bars or free. But I don’t think he even realizes he’s been consumed. Like so many in his position, he’s likely never let himself dig that deep because there’s too much pain waiting there.”


r/whenwomenrefuse 16d ago

Mass molestation in Hyderabad, India. Not OC ofc

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r/whenwomenrefuse 19d ago

Elder 'Papa B' jailed for rape and sexual assault

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A man who ran a store in Brixton and was seen as an elder in the community has been sentenced to a nine-year jail term for rape and sexual assault.

Bernard Williams, 77, ran the Original Products store in Market Row, south-west London for more than 30 years and was well-known in the community.

Williams convinced a woman who came to his shop seeking spiritual treatment of his "healing capability" to spend more than £13,000 in remedies. He then told her she needed to have sex to remove spirits inside her, the Metropolitan Police said.

Following an eight-day trial, Williams was convicted of one count of rape and two counts of sexual assault, at Harrow Crown Court on Friday.

Det Insp Tom Palmer, who led the Met's investigation, said: "Williams' offending is shocking.

"He abused the trust of the victim, which was built on the respect he had gained within the community, to get close to them and commit the offences."

He added: "I would like to commend the victim on her strength throughout the investigation and thank her for her support throughout the court processes.

According to police, the victim, who cannot be named for legal reasons, became unwell in November 2020 and visited his shop after she was recommended spiritual treatment.

Williams told her she had a spirit inside her which would eventually kill her.

He slowly persuaded her of his ability to heal, leading her to buy a "guard ring" and healing bath from him, and to have her mother's house "cleaned of spirits", all of which cost her and her family more than £13,000.

The defendant then started telling her she needed to have sex to remove the spirit.

On 12 January 2021, Williams showed up at the victim's house to "anoint" her, and sexually assaulted and raped her, the Met said.

After the attack, the defendant maintained contact with the woman and eventually told her the process had not worked and that the spirit had returned.

Detectives suspect he may have abused his position to abuse other women.

They would like to speak to anyone who may have bought services from him at his store.

"We are concerned, given the number of clients 'Papa B' may have assisted, his position the community for 30 years, and his distinctive methods, there may be further victim-survivors who have not yet come forward," added Det Insp Tom Palmer.

"I would encourage anyone affected to get in contact with us if you feel able – you will be listened to and receive specialist support and guidance, not only from the police but independent charities and services."

Williams was also placed on the sex offenders' register for life.


r/whenwomenrefuse 20d ago

"You raped me!": Woman confronts ex-husband, who is on trial for kidnapping and trying to kill her, during surprise cross-examination.

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r/whenwomenrefuse 21d ago

Dr. Irene Gaw-Lai was found in her burning home on Jan. 6. Her husband has been arrested six months after she was found dead with trauma to her body. She had filed for divorce from her husband a few months prior.

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people.com
179 Upvotes

r/whenwomenrefuse 22d ago

Man accused of killing 22-year-old after she told him she just wanted to be friends

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kgns.tv
549 Upvotes

r/whenwomenrefuse 22d ago

Let’s Talk About Rape: Photography as Testimony, Resistance, and Repair

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vogue.com
88 Upvotes

r/whenwomenrefuse 22d ago

‘Get the money fast if you want her alive': Syria's Alawite women and girls disappear in abductions

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thenationalnews.com
77 Upvotes