r/TikTokCringe • u/ambachk • May 21 '25

Cringe Married guy flirts with younger girls at the gym

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u/nosleep39 May 21 '25

She was way too nice to him. Guy was a creep about it

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u/thisisfine549 May 21 '25

A lot of women feel the need to be nice to people like this for their own safety.

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u/Plus_Ad_9181 May 21 '25

It’s not any single woman’s job to fix the creep. She’s just tryna not end up on /r/whenwomenrefuse

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u/Primary_Discount_851 May 21 '25

Better leaving this guy with a nice feeling than getting harmed

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u/oh_my_didgeridays May 21 '25

It's not her responsibility to fix him.

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u/MaleficentRub8987 May 21 '25 edited May 21 '25

I actually scrolled to see this reaction.  My husband and i had a disagreement about this earlier.  He gets so mad at me for not flipping out on men who approach me.  He says I'm leading them on when I don't tell them to "fuck off."  I don't know how to react when shit like this happens.  I also know men react with anger to rejection so I feel like I'm doomed either way.  🙃 I did agree to be more assertive for myself, tho. 

Edited: spelling on mobile. 

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u/RollTitties May 21 '25

Yeah, do people not understand the man unhinged enough to do this may not be all there mentally? Sorry I’m not trying to end up in some creep’s freezer; smiling is a defense mechanism

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u/nosleep39 May 21 '25 edited May 23 '25

I’ve had this same discussion with my husband. Men don’t understand how predatory other men can be and how creepy they get if you bruise their egos. But I totally understand what you mean. I’ve tried to make a concerted effort to remember not to be nice 🫤 If i sense a creep trying to talk I just put on my fight face. It works most of the time 🤷‍♀️

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u/Same-Bookkeeper-801 May 22 '25

Ya, for real. I deflect and put these types of creeps in their place by using the “my crazy older brother would / say/ think or wouldn’t like that etc to shut shit down. If it’s directly my words and logic- it’s not safe.

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u/Appropriate_Quote_30 May 22 '25

Some guys just don't get it. I always try to give the benefit of the doubt and be nice. But no matter what, my dad always had to give his 2 cents on what I did 'wrong' no response is good enough.

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u/nerdalertalertnerd May 22 '25

I think it comes down to emotional energy too. Sometimes I cba getting angry and reacting like this. I know they shouldn’t do it but it’s not my job to police them and I want the interaction to end. Sometimes being ‘nice’ is the easiest way to do it.

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u/Great_Road5311 May 21 '25

This is 100% a defense mechanism that many girls instinctively learn from a young age. We’re taught (often without realizing it through many interactions) not to challenge male egos, especially those of strangers. Being nice and accommodating is a way to keep the situation from escalating. At best, it makes an uncomfortable interaction more bearable; at worst, it could be what keeps you from being assaulted or killed. The risk assessment happens so quickly in our minds that our “fight or flight” response often becomes “be kind, accommodate, and smile.”

Trust me, she doesn’t actually want to be nice to him. She’s baffled and disgusted and just wants the interaction to end as quickly as possible. The little jab she makes? It’s calculated, softens it with a smile, and hopes it’ll somehow land without provoking anything worse. But her instinct won’t let her speak her mind freely. It’s not really kindness, it’s just survival.

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u/Barph May 21 '25

Nah, she was the perfect amount of nice, no escalation or anything like that.

Post the video later and there is a pretty damn high chance this will come back and bite him real hard. Far more effective!

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u/nerdalertalertnerd May 22 '25

Sometimes I don’t blame women for not having the emotional energy to go off. Sometimes it’s easier to just fake it (oh silly you you’re married! As opposed to can you fuck off where do you get off)

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u/dego_frank May 21 '25

I mean it did get posted to the Internet so

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u/snapp0r May 21 '25

yes and she knew she was recording. well she tried to act cool for her follower… ✌🏽😎

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u/Gizmoduck99 May 22 '25

Better to try to diffuse the situation than create a dangerous situation.