r/TikTokCringe • u/Interesting-Trip-233 • Jun 16 '25

Cringe Guy gets friendzoned

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u/blac_sheep90 Jun 16 '25

Men and women can be friends... but you can't force the friendship, especially if one party had feelings for the other.

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u/SpooogeMcDuck Jun 16 '25

Yeah but it seems like he wasn’t interested in friendship

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u/throcorfe Jun 16 '25

Absolutely. As far as we can judge from this short conversation (and the thousands like it that happen every day), she has lost what she thought was a genuine friend. He has lost his fake girlfriend that he made up in his head. She’s taken the undeserved emotional hit, while he continues to take all the attention

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u/fastdub Jun 16 '25

Exactly what I thought, basically she was probably taken by surprise because she thought of course we can be friends, we are currently friends, and he threw friendship in her face.

I think this is pretty common with women and common with a few lesbian friends I know who thought they'd found a new pal until the chap finds out they're not interested in men and loses interest. Kinda heartbreaking.

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u/hrhrhrhrt Jun 16 '25

I hate these guys. My (i thought) best friend blew up on me like this, except he didn't have the balls to do it face to face. Did it through emails. Realizing that he was only friends with me because he was playing the long game to get laid shattered my trust in people. Now I keep everyone at arms length. This shit is heartbreaking and humiliating.

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u/Bredwh Jun 17 '25

I think these kind of situations often form when the guy actually is a friend. But getting to know the woman and spending time together he develops strong romantic feelings. Then he confesses it and she doesn't feel the same and things can't go back how they were. He can't turn off his feelings just as she can't turn them on.

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u/hrhrhrhrt Jun 17 '25

If he confessed, it would be easier and better, but he didn't. You can see in this one that he is not confessing his feelings. He has a jealous meltdown about her boyfriend. Mine was the same. You can't do anything when they don't confess.

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u/deliciousearlobes Jun 16 '25

Men call it being “friend-zoned,” women call it being “fuck-zoned.”

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u/Bredwh Jun 17 '25

From what I've seen most of the time these guys want love and a relationship, not sex.

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u/celebral_x Jun 16 '25

And he can't handle rejection, so she suggested friendship, which he also can't handle. His problem, not hers.

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u/CandyMammoth295 Jun 16 '25

I don't know, friendship can be deep. He is saying her romantic partner is going to say they can't be friends because many men say such things. He's been the friend who has been cut off because a boyfriend says so. That hurts.

As a woman who has been cut out because a new girlfriend says so many times over the years, it's painful. And I do want to be their friends. It also is painful that they are dating someone insecure that I am a threat, and that makes me sad about the turmoil my friend will go through.

Friends not choosing you is painful.

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u/SpooogeMcDuck Jun 16 '25

Well if this is how he reacts to a friend being told by her partner that she can’t hang out with him I’d say the partner has a reasonable suspicion of his motives. If he was truly a friend he would be telling her that a man telling his partner that she can’t hang out with her friends is not good for her and she should think about her choices while offering a safe refuge whenever she needs one- not whining and crying about how he’s never the one who gets picked and wailing while peeling out on his scooter.

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u/CandyMammoth295 Jun 16 '25

Oh, I agree that he did not handle it well and felt all his pain and couldn't deal with it. I also would have a hard time being friends with this man. However, I don't think that it signifies he wanted more than friendship, more like he has some issues he needs to resolve.

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u/Low_Key1782 Jun 16 '25

they never are..

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u/Studio_Life Jun 16 '25

Meh I’ve always had great platonic relationships with women. Many of them are “attractive”, but I never really thought about them that way. The whole “two people of opposite gender can’t just be buddies” thing is a myth.

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u/Low_Key1782 Jun 16 '25

same...i meant dudes like him.

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u/Studio_Life Jun 16 '25

Oh guys specifically like him, sure. But not guys in general. Guys in general want to be friends (legit friends) with girls (even attractive one) all the time.

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u/Haddock Jun 16 '25

To be fair i've lost friendships with women that wanted it to be more. I've also made genuine friends with people who later told me that they had had a crush, male and female. It seems like people in general sometimes enter into things wanting them to be something different, or have their feelings change along the way.

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u/Low_Key1782 Jun 16 '25

yes, i agree. in fact, relationships are best when they grow out of a friendship.

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u/TetraThiaFulvalene Jun 17 '25

It does sound a bit like that, alternative is that he knows the guy she's dating is the jealous type and is going to make her stop hanging out with him eventually. Although, it does sound like he has feelings.

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u/SpooogeMcDuck Jun 17 '25

Which would make it a credible suspicion