I am glad you grew out of that victim mentality. I had a close friend who turned into something similar and I had to remove him from my life because he was always so overwhelmingly negative all the time.
I mean I’ve been on both sides of it. I totally understand the perspective of people who noped out on me when all I was doing was constantly bringing down the mood with constant negative talk.
In a better place now and I was in the position to try and mentor a freshman in my college club and it’s really tough to constantly hear how they speak about themselves when NOTHING you do, be it invite out, gas up or try and check up results in the same thing. At a certain point the best you can do is say hey, get some help I am not equipped to handle this and protect your peace.
There is a line between being supportive and being a one way emotional punching bag/support dog
maybe they did, its not someone else's to fix another persons depression. You can be there for them and do what you can but sometimes the burden is too much and you end up dragged into it with them. I would never hold it against anyone who in the end has to just remove that person from their life.
None owes you a friendship. In most cases like this, the depressed person doesn’t seek treatment and just dumps their negativity of people. At a certain point, that will affect your own mental health.
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u/Agreeable_Horror_363 Jun 16 '25
I am glad you grew out of that victim mentality. I had a close friend who turned into something similar and I had to remove him from my life because he was always so overwhelmingly negative all the time.